3 Tips to Keep You Safe from Men Like Bravo TV’s Dirty John
Just finished watching Bravo’s latest series, Dirty John.
This man is every single woman over 50 biggest dating nightmare.
And that’s why this blog is so important.
Men like Dirty John are out there preying on women and you want to know how to identify them to stay safe in the dating world.
Now some background . . . Dirty John is John Meehan, a dangerous psychopath who lured successful women into his world using an amazing profile he knew would get their attention on a dating site.
I’ve always said if a man appears too good to be true, he’s probably a scammer.
And for sure, John was a real live handsome scammer who also claimed to be a doctor.
John touched women’s hearts with the words he shared in his profile about his kids and how much he loved them. (In real life, he was constantly threatening his ex-wife and using those kids as pawns)
He said going to church was something he did every Sunday giving women the impression he lived his life based on morals and strong values.
Women read his profile and felt he was just the man they’d been looking for.
On dates, they found John to be charming and fun.
He had some of the bad boy syndromes in that he knew exactly what to say to make a woman feel valued in a man’s eyes.
He’d quickly profess his love for his latest victim saying he’d found in her his true soul mate, someone he wanted to spend the rest of his life with.
This is the romance we grew up with so it’s not surprising these women fell hard for John.
But John in real life was not the romantic he appeared to be.
He was a cold and calculating drug addict who chose his victims based on their wealth and what he could take from them.
Once he lured a woman in, he turned from charming to controlling and threatening.
Most of his victims later shared how they feared for their lives and the lives of their children as a result of getting involved with him.
Something else interesting, almost all knew something wasn’t quite right about him but that didn’t stop them from falling in love with him.
And they felt he broke their hearts even with all the crazy stuff he did.
Intelligent, successful woman all got scammed by John.
It can happen to any woman so you need to protect yourself.
Its why I want to share 3 tips that can keep you safe dating at this time in your life.
#1 . . . Beware of putting a lot of value on a man’s looks and his profession
I remember meeting a man who I thought was drop dead gorgeous.
He kind of looked like Yanni when Yanni had long hair and back in the day, that was a huge turn on for me.
We met at a restaurant and when I got out of my car, I literally felt like my knees were going to buckle. (Now that I look back, I think I swooned as they did in the movies.)
It was the strangest feeling and his effect on me made me think he was a good guy.
Over time, I got to know him and found out he wasn’t.
BTW . . . Online scammers post gorgeous pictures of men all the time online knowing they can hook you with this high-quality value of looks.
You see the picture.
You feel instant attraction and bam, he’s got you.
You are now a perfect target for his scam.
I want you to remember that just because a man looks good or has a good job it doesn’t mean he’s a good man.
Make him prove he’s worthy of you not the other way around.
#2 . . . Slow Down and pay attention to red flags
In the Bravo TV series, Dirty John meets a woman named Debra Newell.
They have an amazing first date which goes south when he wants to stay overnight and she says no.
His anger flares and he storms out of her home. BIG RED FLAG!!!!
He calls the next day to apologize.
She overlooks his 1st date drama and continues dating him.
Within 3 months, this very successful wealthy woman is married to the guy without a prenup in place.
Her kids don’t like him. Another RED FLAG.
If your kids are supportive of you dating and don’t like a man, listen to them.
Their instincts are usually pretty good.
Debra ignored this red flag too and actually chose John over her kids for a while.
When you have sex early in the dating process, you bond with a man and this bonding can keep you from seeing who a man really is.
Slow the process of getting to know someone down.
Don’t be afraid he might leave.
If he does, he wasn’t the right man for you.
#3 . . . If no one knows him, check him out.
If you find yourself getting involved with a man no one in your circle of friends knows, it’s worth checking him out.
Debra was already married before her daughter hired a private investigator to look into John.
Had she done this earlier, she’d have saved herself and her kids a lot of heartaches.
Now I want to give you the scoop on someone who can help you check a man out.
Julie Natashaway, a beautiful, intelligent young woman in her 30’s nearly got scammed by a man she met online who was dating between jail stints.
Fortunately, the relationship went nowhere.
But after this experience, she decided to create Aste.io to help women feel safe dating online.
If you’re not sure about a man, I know she can help you.
To sum this up . . .
Always follow your gut instincts in the dating world.
Don’t ignore red flags.
If a guy doesn’t feel right, he’s probably not.
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You’re completely spot on and thank you so much Lisa! Aste.io is here for anyone looking for a gut check to make sure you’re not dating the next Dirty John!
This advice could not have come at a better time.
This man i was communicating with , is the second man in 5 months who is not what he says he is.
Scary that the dating sites dont vet people any better.
I’m glad it was helpful Stephanie.
That mini-series was so riveting to watch. She could have saved herself the entire ordeal by running a background check earlier. I bookmarked Aste.io for when I need it. Be sure to also catch the two-hour “Dirty John, The Dirty Truth” documentary on Oxygen channel. His real life victims are interviewed. The LA Times podcast is also worthwhile.
Glad you bookmarked Aste.io. Julie will be so helpful to you! Yes I watched the Oxygen channel. Wow, that guy was unreal but the interesting thing, was every woman thought he sounded so perfect and that is what drew them into him.
Stay safe out there dating. Lots of hugs~
Thank you!
Your advice sounds so reasonable but if you don’t memorize it beforehand, you may forge to follow it.
Ginny…check this blog out. It will give you 9 specific ways to recognize a scammer. This should help you identify scammers quickly. https://findaqualityman.com/stay-safe-scammers-dating-sites/