How to Stay Safe From Scammers On Dating Sites
Recently, I heard yet another story of a woman connecting with a scammer on a legitimate dating site.
These men are con artists who will find a way to touch your heart and your pocketbook without a second thought.
I don’t want to scare you and cause you to stop going online because there are good men on there for you to date.
But there are certain clues you need to be aware of that will tip you off to potential scammers.
Read through these 9 tips about what scammers tell you, so you’ll know how to protect yourself from their lies and schemes.
1. Scammers Feed Off Specific Clues You Put In Your Profile
Don’t mention your income or where you work.
You can say you’re a nurse or an executive but don’t mention where or how much you make.
Be aware of sounding needy and lonely in your profile.
It makes you perfect prey for scammers looking to hook you into their scams.
2. He Usually Lives Outside The US
He might tell you that he lives in a metropolitan city in the US but his work takes him elsewhere in the world.
He says he’ll be coming back soon… and, of course, to wait for him because he can’t wait to meet you.
3. Scamming Women Is His Job
Most of these men live in poorer countries around the world where jobs that pay well are scarce.
He’s learned that by working a couple of hours each day, he can easily communicate with women in the US, find their weak spots and make a fortune.
He’ll probably speak with a British accent that sounds so romantic especially to American women.
He knows this and uses it to his advantage to hook you.
4. What He’ll Tell You About Himself
He’ll have a romantic name like Valentino or Antonio.
His picture online is usually drop dead gorgeous in a romantic sort of way.
And he uses this knowing you’ll feel special being contacted by someone this handsome.
Look closely at those pictures.
They are often shots found on the internet of handsome models in ads selling items like hats or sunglasses.
Or he’s holding a product in his hand like beer or wine.
Or he might be standing in front of an unusual looking building or an expensive car.
When you ask for more pictures, he’ll send family pictures of children or grandchildren.
The big tip off: he’s not in these family pictures because he can’t find anymore pics of the models image he’s used.
5. He Uses Romance to Lure You In
Women love romance and these men know this has been missing in your life for a long time.
So he steals poems off the internet and sends them to you as if they were his own.
Your heart just melts and you bond with him which makes you even more vulnerable to his scheme.
6. He’ll Always Have An Excuse For Why He Can’t See You
He’ll tell you that he can’t wait to see you and that he’s making arrangements to travel in a month or two when he can get away from his business.
Right before you’re supposed to meet, he has to cancel the trip for some reason.
This happens over and over again and is another HUGE TIP OFF you’re dealing with a scammer.
7. You Can’t Find Anything Concrete About Who This Man Is
Try searching on Google for your Valentino or Antonio.
More than likely nothing will show up.
8. How the scam works
He’ll take the time to chat with you every day for hours.
His male attentiveness feels amazing because he knows its probably been a while since a man has been this devoted to you.
But beware…. what he’s really doing is he is looking for your weak spots.
If you’ve lost a close member of your family, don’t be surprised if he tells you he has too.
He uses these holes in your heart to get you to trust him knowing it will be easy for you to bond with someone who has experienced the same loss as you.
As you’re bonding, he’s telling you things like I love you baby, I can’t wait to see you baby.
Now he’s ready to reign you in for the scam.
He shares news with you about a HUGE business deal he’s about to close and once its done, he’ll come see you.
He just needs a little more money to finish it or he’ll lose everything.
He might tell you that family members have invested as well but the bank won’t be able to give him the last bit he needs so he’s going to lose the deal and all the money he and his family have invested.
This is when he asks you for your help.
He’s done the work needed to capture your heart.
You’re in love with him and you don’t want to see him suffer.
You want to help him so you wire the money he needs to his bank account.
And you never hear from him again.
9. Action Plan for Protecting Yourself From A Scammer
Thousands of intelligent women get caught up in these scams every year.
To keep your journey of dating safe, here’s what you can do….
Date men closer to home.
Keep emails short and sweet.
Maximum of 5-10 at the most.
Spend no more than a couple of hours on 1 or 2 phone calls max.
Meet a man within 2-3 weeks.
If a man tells you he’ll be out of the country for a month or two, tell him to give you a call when he gets back.
Upload his profile picture to Google Images. You’ll be able to see if the image matches who he says he is or if he’s stolen it from someone else.
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I find the male scammers, to be very religious in there profiles. They put things like looking for there Queen and there the King.
They all seem to be widowed.
Most are ordinary male pictures that they steal online.
I’ve been asked to get itune cards, send money, and even they will send me money and then I have to put into my bank account and refund them. Lucky for me I realized they were scammers, but I played them out as I wanted to learn about the scams (I have a single 68 yr old mother that is also dating, so I needed to know to make sure she wasn’t scammed!)
It’s sickening to see them prey on lonely women who only want to meet a nice man. Shame on what this society has come too!
Sky…so appreciate you sharing your story and how lucky your mom is to have you watching out for her. Remember there are good men out there too. Don’t let this discourage you and congratulate yourself on recognizing the guy is a scammer. Big hugs to you~
I have been talking on line for a year to this man now and found his picture yesterday on the line that you gave us to see if theses men are scammers i found him his fro file you gave us am so broken by this..
Hi Monica…I’m so sorry that your guy turned out to be a Scammer. I know its heart crushing. Best thing you can do is cut off all contact with this man, do some healing and forgiveness work (Brene Brown has a great book about shame and forgiveness and I work with clients on this as well-reach out to me at Lisa@findaqualityman.com if you want to talk about it) then get back out there and date. You want someone local so you don’t spend more than 2 phone calls chatting before you meet. I know this feels devastating right now and that’s why its important to take some time to heal and get your confidence back. Big hugs to you Monica~
This happened to me. I refused to send money so he has another way. He was out of the country n needed cash for his business there. He said he couldn’t get resources from his bank account so a business associate in the US was sending me a check to put in my account so I could wire him money. I received a check for $40,000.00. It was from someone in the US. I still didn’t get involved with him financially. I stopped communicating with him. A month later he started calling again. He was ready to b with me. Ready to meet. Wanted me to meet his daughter. They were both coming to visit me n meet me. It was his daughter’s birthday. He wanted us to go in together to give her a gift together. Another reason for him to ask for $$$. At this point I said no, do not call me again. I told him I thought he was a scam artist. He said I had trust issues…lol. So far I have not heard from him again. What amazes me is there isn’t a website monitored by legal authorities that you can report these people to. They have the potential of taking women and men for hundreds of thousands of dollars. No man that is legitimate will ask for $$$ I don’t think. If they do, hang up. Love is not what they want from you.
Thank you Sherry for sharing your story and kudos to you for recognizing this man as a scammer. They do use the trust issue thing to hook you more and many women cave because they’ve fallen in love with the man and of course want him to know that they trust him. Don’t let this keep you from dating. There are good men out there waiting for you. Big hugs~