12 Simple Do’s and Don’ts for Smooth First Date Conversation after 50
Last week, I watched an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond called The Sister-In-Law.
What a funny show…. that depicts so well what goes on conversation wise between a man and a woman.
It begins with Raymond having the house all to himself and he chooses to spend his time relaxing on the couch watching a basketball game.
He’s so happy just eating chips and chilling in front of the tube waiting for his brother to show up.
The door opens but instead of Robert, his wife Amy comes in and she immediately parks herself on the couch right next to Raymond.
You can visibly watch Raymond’s face change as Amy starts sharing the details of her day… including the challenges and issues of a saleslady she encountered along with details of the Fondue Tuesday party the family is having the next night.
As Robert walks in…Amy leaves happy as can be feeling like she’s made a real connection with Raymond.
But has she?
No…in fact Raymond ends up nicknaming her Lady Chatterley.
So, why do I share this story with you? I’ve been speaking with a lot of women who took me up on a “Complimentary Find A Quality Man Discovery Session.”
By the way, you can still sign up for your complimentary session at: www.findaqualityman.com/coaching
One of the biggest concerns many of these women expressed was what to talk with men about on a first date.
We, women love details and that’s why Amy openly shared with Raymond all the intricate details of her shopping experience.
But, men don’t like hearing details. It’s TMI for them…too much information.
So if you can’t go into details…then what do you talk about on a first date?
Here are 12 Do’s and Don’ts that will guide you into smoother first date conversation…
- If you’re feeling awkward and silences are happening between the two of you…. which is pretty normal….DO try smiling, laughing and saying…first dates are really awkward aren’t they? And watch where that goes.
- Don’t talk about anything that involves anger or bitterness you may still feel about your ex. If you have those types of feelings…wait to start dating again until you’ve healed them.
- Do talk about the News and what is happening in the world. And the weather is always a great topic especially since it’s been so bizarre lately.
- Don’t talk about your last relationship being the best relationship of your life. No man will feel he can live up to that standard and he won’t try. Watch the date end quickly when this topic comes up.
- Do ask questions and do really listen to what a man says to you. Men love sharing their lives with you if they like you. What they are really doing is trying to impress you so you will want to go out with them again.
- Don’t monopolize a conversation and talk on and on about yourself. I know it’s boring when a man does it too… but you have no control over him. You only have it over your part so make sure you aren’t perceived as a Lady Chatterley like Amy was.
- Do talk about something fun or funny that happened to you that day or recently. It makes you light and fun to be around and someone who doesn’t take life so seriously.
- Don’t talk about politics or religion. These are “hot topics” that can push people’s buttons. You’re looking for a 2nd date not World War III.
- Do talk about friends and family and ask about his.
- Don’t whine or complain on a date about anything. It doesn’t make a good impression on anyone and makes you look like a major Debbie Downer.
- Do share any interesting travel stories and ask him where he’s been in his life. You never know, you may have been in the same place …at the same time and never even knew it.
- Don’t talk about the details of your friend’s new love life or the fact your plumber was supposed to come at 1 but didn’t show up till 5……unless you want his eyes to glaze over. He’ll check out and figure out a way to escape your date….QUICKLY!
Stay on neutral topics like some of the ones I’ve mentioned and of course if you are a sports fan…well you will have hit the jackpot of conversation with a man!
Let me know what your favorite first date topic is!
Until next time~
Believing in You!
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