Thanks so much for your emails… I really appreciate your comments and suggestions. My question is..
I am 66 and I just can’t believe that !!!! Most people think that I am in my early 50’s. I am attractive,healthy and outgoing, still very active and have the best of both worlds… mostly anyway. I own my home, car and camper van. I’m pretty much retired and collect pensions and rent from a suite… so I’m definitely financially independant. I have a dog, love to hike, XC ski, dance, golf, bake bread, cook gourmet meals for my friends,dress up for live theatre or a romantic dinner……..you get the picture…..
My question is… Why am I still alone ?? I was married 24 years and have grown children, have been engaged 3 times to great guys… but each one turned out to have major anger issues.. some bordering on rage !!! Of course they keep that under wraps until I’m madly in love with them.. then it surfaces, in private only of course, I make mental excuses for as long as possible… ask them to get help, offer to support them emotionally through counselling,which they have all refused, …. then wake up and ask myself if this is what I want for the rest of my life….and it’s over !!!
I have been on POF and other sites off and on for years.. but I think that, because of my age, I get very few responses to my ‘Quick notes’ If I do get any.. they make excuses why we can’t meet…The last one said that he has a cold…. some use the distance excuse although it is only 1/2 to 1 hour drive to the nearest city… I have met a couple of fellows for coffee… after spending a few weeks with phone conversations.. one started calling me at 11:30 or midnight even after my asking him to please not call after 9:30… another I golfed with and he couldn’t keep his hands to himself……
Help !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please !!!!!!!!!!!!
I’m not ready to resign myself to living alone forever……
Dear Lisa, I’m grateful for being able to talk to you one on one, it truly helped me to figure out what I want in a man, and how to overcome the bad breakup I had. I’m also grateful for all of the advice I get to read as you answer questions from others, because sometimes I have the same question!
I had signed up for another dating site that was getting me no where fast, but after visiting your website and seeing the suggestions for alternate dating sites (that I never even knew existed) I signed up for one and have been having fun talking to men on the site, learning as I go how to talk to them, what not to say, what works best to say, etc.
So to sum it all up in a nutshell, I’m grateful for YOU. 🙂
Peggy
November 22, 2012 at 10:35 am
Lisa
Thank you Peggy and I am so grateful for you too! So glad your dating life is going well and that you are enjoying the “Niche” Dating Sites http://www.findaqualityman.com/dating-sites/ listed on my site. Have a wonderful holiday and keep us posted with your questions and how your dating life is going. Hope you have a wonderful holiday.
Tina
Hi Lisa…
Thanks so much for your emails… I really appreciate your comments and suggestions. My question is..
I am 66 and I just can’t believe that !!!! Most people think that I am in my early 50’s. I am attractive,healthy and outgoing, still very active and have the best of both worlds… mostly anyway. I own my home, car and camper van. I’m pretty much retired and collect pensions and rent from a suite… so I’m definitely financially independant. I have a dog, love to hike, XC ski, dance, golf, bake bread, cook gourmet meals for my friends,dress up for live theatre or a romantic dinner……..you get the picture…..
My question is… Why am I still alone ?? I was married 24 years and have grown children, have been engaged 3 times to great guys… but each one turned out to have major anger issues.. some bordering on rage !!! Of course they keep that under wraps until I’m madly in love with them.. then it surfaces, in private only of course, I make mental excuses for as long as possible… ask them to get help, offer to support them emotionally through counselling,which they have all refused, …. then wake up and ask myself if this is what I want for the rest of my life….and it’s over !!!
I have been on POF and other sites off and on for years.. but I think that, because of my age, I get very few responses to my ‘Quick notes’ If I do get any.. they make excuses why we can’t meet…The last one said that he has a cold…. some use the distance excuse although it is only 1/2 to 1 hour drive to the nearest city… I have met a couple of fellows for coffee… after spending a few weeks with phone conversations.. one started calling me at 11:30 or midnight even after my asking him to please not call after 9:30… another I golfed with and he couldn’t keep his hands to himself……
Help !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please !!!!!!!!!!!!
I’m not ready to resign myself to living alone forever……
Thanks, Tina.
Peggy
Dear Lisa, I’m grateful for being able to talk to you one on one, it truly helped me to figure out what I want in a man, and how to overcome the bad breakup I had. I’m also grateful for all of the advice I get to read as you answer questions from others, because sometimes I have the same question!
I had signed up for another dating site that was getting me no where fast, but after visiting your website and seeing the suggestions for alternate dating sites (that I never even knew existed) I signed up for one and have been having fun talking to men on the site, learning as I go how to talk to them, what not to say, what works best to say, etc.
So to sum it all up in a nutshell, I’m grateful for YOU. 🙂
Peggy
Lisa
Thank you Peggy and I am so grateful for you too! So glad your dating life is going well and that you are enjoying the “Niche” Dating Sites http://www.findaqualityman.com/dating-sites/ listed on my site. Have a wonderful holiday and keep us posted with your questions and how your dating life is going. Hope you have a wonderful holiday.