When you’re trying to figure out if a man is right for you . . .

When you’re trying to figure out if an over 50’s man is right for you . . .

Before working with a new client, I’ll ask her what it is she’s looking for in the man she’d like to share her life with.

Most women tell me they want to feel chemistry and immediate attraction to a man.

It’s a feeling they say.

They know if he’s the one right away.

I get it good looks are nice to come home to every day.

And chemistry . . . well, it just feels good!

But these two qualities don’t create long-term compatibility and that’s probably what you are looking for, right?

Both attraction and chemistry fade over time so something else needs to be there if you want your relationship to grow and go the long haul.

Here are some questions worth considering when you’re trying to decide whether or not a man who is not so cute is worth getting to know.

• Will he bring you soup when you’re sick?
• Will he stop at the store and get you what you need even if it is a bit out of the way?
• Will he bring you flowers and tell you “I love you” even when it’s not your birthday?
• Will he rearrange his schedule to drive you to the airport so you don’t have to hoist that suitcase out of your car or worry about parking before and after your trip?
• When you’ve had a hard day, will he rub your back or bring you a glass of wine and give you a much-needed hug?
• Or will he get up and do the dishes after dinner?
• And, most importantly, will he look in your eyes like you are the best thing that ever happened to him?
• And, when you’re dating, will he take your trash out to the curb so you don’t have to?

In our 20’s we were looking for a spouse to have children.  That is where attraction and chemistry came from as the gauge for measuring a good man.

It didn’t always work.

In your 50’s and beyond, you want to look for more in a partner.

You want someone who is going to be your playmate in life yet more importantly someone who will be there during the tough times when you need each other.

I watched my father take care of my mother as she was dying.

He wiped her brow, took her to her chemo treatments, made her soup, and held her hand when she was scared.

My father is adorable!

Just ask my friends who think he’s amazing.

But he would never have been the most handsome man on the block and would probably have been passed over online by lots of women.

Yet it’s his kindness and the love he radiates from within that women, of all ages, adore about him once they get to know him.

I can’t deny looks are nice. They are.

But, next time you are reading those online profiles and you are thinking “Hmm, not so cute” – dig a little deeper and pay attention to what that man brings to the table other than his cuteness and chemistry.

If he writes that he’s kind, nice, loves his animals and his kids – even when he’s not the most handsome guy on a dating site, he still might be worth checking out.

Why?

Because he could have a wonderful heart that he wants to share with you.

He could be the man that just wants to make you happy.

And by combining his personality and his looks, well, he just might grow on you and become quite a hottie in your eyes.

The man you nearly passed over in the past, might be like my father was to my mother . . . cute, adorable, loving and most of all there for you through the thick and thin.

And that my friend. is the true mark of guaging a Quality Man.

Would love to hear what you think.

Believing in You!

---

Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .

💞 Feeling like you are on a merry-go-round of mismatched dates? Lets press pause and talk about how we can write a new love story for you. Click here to start our conversation. Tell me your story – I am here to listen and guide you towards meeting someone truly special.

If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:

1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for heartfelt dating wisdom and uplifting success stories from women who have been just where you are. They found love, and so can you. Click here to watch and learn.

2. Discover a new chapter in your dating life with my book, "The Winning Dating Formula." It is more than a book; it is your journey to love mapped out. And it is just a click away on Amazon. Click here and start attracting the love you deserve.

3. Join our Finding Love after 50 Facebook group to find camaraderie and connection. It is a warm and welcoming space to share your journey and receive support every step of the way. Click here to become part of our community.

4. On the lookout for a dating site that resonates with you? Browse through my personal selection of the best dating sites tailor-made for fabulous over 50s. Click here and say goodbye to guesswork.

Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹

Love this article? Sign up by clicking here to receive my weekly blog.

Copyright© 2024 Lisa Copeland. All rights reserved.

On October 3, 2018   /   Companionship after 50, Mistakes Women Make Dating After 50, Understanding Men after 50