Our Favorite Man to Love – The ‘Bad Boy’
Even as women over 40 & 50, we can still be wildly attracted to a ‘Bad Boy.’ He’s the man who makes you feel alive inside and unbelievably wonderful about yourself, him, the two of you together and the world you live in.
He knows women well and he knows what to say and do to make you his. He will tell you that you are beautiful or that they broke the mold when they made you. He will tell you there is no one else he can trust or share his deepest thoughts with other then you.
A “Bad Boy” knows just what to say to make you his and you feel honored he chose you above everyone else to be his girlfriend. You fall in love with him based on his words and the chemistry you feel that is off the charts.
He’ll say “I love you” one day then the next, he’ll be gone because the ‘Bad Boy’ can’t make a commitment to anyone. He loves going after the woman he wants but once captured, he quickly tires of her and starts looking for someone he thinks might be better.
He’ll break your heart. And he’ll come back to do it again between his relationships. He’ll woo you once more telling you what you mean to him and how much he missed you. You’ll hope this will be the time he’ll stay with you. He doesn’t want to be alone and will use you until he has found his next prey. He’ll do this again and again until you finally decided to stop this heart-breaking cycle.
A tell tale sign of the ‘Bad Boy’ is his extremes in life. He’s often very handsome and very masculine. He has to have the best liquor, cars and women. He’s often extremely wealthy and extremely fast in whatever he does. He’s quite exciting and often very self-indulgent.
He’ll make you miserable in the long run because he’ll shut you out without a second thought. I know. I lived this with an old flame of mine who came back into my life after my divorce. He told me how he’d put me on a pedestal if we were together. He’d paint these romantic scenarios telling me he never stopped loving me. This would go on for weeks at a time then he’d vanish, only to reappear then vanish again. Each time, I’d hope this was it but of course it wasn’t.
I finally learned, as with many ‘Bad Boys,’ his words were hollow. There is no action behind them and there never will be. I decided to change course and look for a man who would capture my heart and want to keep it.
I found that man, or rather he found me, at an online dating site. He’s a nice man and a good man. Unlike the ‘Bad Boy’, it’s his actions not his words that make me feel good and I like that!
Have you ever dated a ‘Bad Boy?’ If so, did he tell you what you wanted to hear then walk away? Or did he stay and walk his talk? Would love to hear your thoughts.
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At 40+, I’ve known a lot of “bad boys”. The younger generation calls them “players” because that’s what they do, they play you. They play you for a fool, for your money, for your status…whatever you can give them. They don’t care because it’s really all about them and making themselves feel good. We all need to stay away from these men or, if we can’t, realize that they’re never going to be long term relationships- enjoying the ride ONCE and then moving on ourselves. When he comes back around, tell him you’ve moved on and then ignore him. It will be hard, but it can be done. Guess what? He’ll leave. He won’t waste time. He’ll pursue the easiest target.
There’s just something intriguing about the “bad boy” that attracts us to him – but sometimes we have to listen with our head as well as our hearts. Bad boys will bring nothing but trouble and heartache, so it’s much better in the long term to find a great guy who is in it for the long term. Thanks for sharing your experience!
I think this is the best I have read from you. Oh my gosh so true. Those bad boys are something else aren’t they. I think it is the part of making us feel naughty also that draws us to these “bad boys”. LOL