Same ole same ole
I went on JDate this morning just to see who was out there for one of my local clients to date. I know from dating off and on for 10 years that it’s pretty common to see the familiar faces of men who’ve been online forever. So I wasn’t surprised when I saw pictures of guys I’d dated over 9 years ago including the one I call “KFC Man.”
When “KFC Man” and I spoke, he told me, he didn’t care what a woman looked like as long as her body was fit and toned. When he asked what mine was like, I told him my aide wheeled me up to the ‘KFC’ counter every day for my daily dose of fried chicken. I shocked him because for at least a full 30 seconds he said nothing then I finally said, “Just kidding.”
9 years later he was back online – probably because no one could ever meet his stringent physical expectations. This time around, his profile seemed nicer. Maybe he’s finally learned that a woman who has more then just a certain type of body can indeed be both appealing and interesting.
I understand how frustrating online dating can be when all you see are unchanged profiles and the same pictures that were posted years ago. It’s depressing. It makes you want to give up on dating and it makes you feel as though absolutely no one is out there for you.
If this has happened to you, I have a solution for you. It’s called “Out of the Box Dating” and it works! We have a tendency to choose the same dating sites and the same kinds of men over and over again. Men do too and it’s why a lot of people are unsuccessful with online dating.
You can change this pattern and get out of your usual “dating box” by choosing a couple of new dating sites that are entirely different from the ones you’re used to. You may find a small number of men who are repeat’s from your favorite site but for the most part, you should see completely different men on the new site. My website now contains a reference link for numerous dating sites that are worth looking into. By clicking this link, you can easily check them out now.
Also do you ever find yourself thinking like the “KFC Man” mentioned at the beginning of this blog? Do you have the same strict expectations of men just to date for fun? If you do, would you consider changing some of the criteria on your ‘Must Have List’ to date a new kind of man?
There are lots of “Quality Men” in your local area you may be missing on a daily basis because they can’t meet your ‘Must Have List.’ Yet one of these men might enrich your life with a quality you might never have realized was important until you met the man who possessed it. Would you be willing to open another door and try a new dating site? Can you let yourself experience a date with a man who’s completely different then anyone you’ve ever dated?
If you’re tired of feeling frustrated and you’re ready to climb out of a dating rut, then go check out this reference page. Also think about varying your ‘Must Have List’ so you can get out there and have fun dating lots of new men. You just might end up meeting that special man you’ve been waiting for but never knew existed until you tried “Out of the Box Dating.” Let me know what you think.
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When you’ve paid for a dating site for a certain period of time, you don’t always want to just hop to another site. One technique that I’ve tried to get different results was to change up my criteria. Take a site like Match.com; they give you 20 different criteria to match against someone else. Now, let’s say you’re a Christian woman and you only want to meet Christian men. There isn’t an option to choose “Christian”. You have to pick a denomination. You pick Methodist. Guess what? For that category you won’t match against any man who leaves the criteria blank or who chooses anything but Methodist. This is true of almost every category where there are multiple options on every dating site that works this way.
If you’re telling your preferred site to return you only matches that have at least 15 out of 20 characteristics matched, you’re missing out on a lot of potential matches that DO meet your criteria just not exactly as you tick marked it. Try making legitimate adjustments and see if you get different results. I think you’ll be surprised.
If there’s one thing that really disgusts me, it’s people (men OR women) who think that looks are more important than everything else! Not everyone can permanently stay in perfect shape – things happen, your body ages – but one thing that can remain relatively unchanged is a person’s inner self. If someone is beautiful on the inside, chances are he or she will stay that way! 🙂 I love that you refer to this guy as KFC guy, and your joke to him had me giggling! I agree that one of the reasons he is still single is probably because he has impossible standards.
But a smiling visitant here to share the love (:, btw great style and design. “Individuals may form communities, but it is institutions alone that can create a nation.” by Benjamin Disraeli.
Too funny.. I am glad I’m not like that. Appearances don’t bother me. It is the inner beauty I look at. Some men are just pure out jerks and it makes most men look bad because of them.