Love after 50: Navigating the Heart and Mind Connection
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My friend Suzanne experienced a profound heartache in her 40s that few can truly understand—she endured the devastating loss of her soulmate.
In those dark moments, she shared with me how it felt as though her heart had shattered into a million pieces.
It was a crushing blow that turned her whole world upside down.
The wound was so deep that it took her almost 10 years before she was willing to dip her toe into the dating pool.
She eventually did and ended up meeting a very wealthy businessman.
I can remember her being so drawn to his mind and intelligence.
Well, they ended up marrying; had a beautiful wedding, white dress and all and lived a lifestyle many would envy.
They traveled first class around the world.
They dined at the finest restaurants.
They bought a gorgeous old home and a lot of money renovating it.
They had tickets to the symphony and the ballet and travelled all the time to see the latest Broadway plays appearing in New York.
About 5 years into their marriage, she decided to retire from her high power corporate job just as her husband decided to expand his business.
The money was flowing and on the outside, they looked like the perfect couple with the perfect life.
It wasn’t until after they divorced that Suzanne told me the truth about how lonely she felt being married to someone whose mistress was work.
She’d been missing an intimacy you can only get on a soul level when your hearts connect.
Notice I said connection comes from your heart not your mind – it was her ex’s mind that Suzanne was so attracted to from the get go.
Fast forward a few years later and Suzanne meets another wealthy businessman.
And guess what the first words out of her mouth were . . . if you guessed I loved his intelligence than you would be right.
When she used intelligence to decide if a man was right for her, she was sending up a red flag that kept her in the pattern of dating the wrong men who at the end of the day left her feeling lonely in a relationship.
I asked my Suzanne if I could share an observation with her both as her friend and as a dating coach.
She said, “of course!”
I told her that even though she was thrilled by this man’s intelligence, it was going to keep her from getting to that place of intimacy she had so craved in her 2nd marriage.
Then I asked her the MOST IMPORTANT question . . .
“Suzanne, Are you protecting your heart?”
Like many of my clients, she, was afraid of getting her heart crushed again.
She’d go on a date and instead of looking for the good qualities in a man, she’d quickly find his faults so she could protect her heart.
And she chose a quality she desired in a man that would keep her heart safe . . . an attraction to his intelligence; a quality that keeps someone at arms length and at a distance.
I gave her my Secret Attraction Formula, which I want to share with you too.
A man’s personality + His appearance = Attraction.
When I asked if she liked a man’s personality, the only thing she could say was the dating world is messy.
Yes it can be messy and scary because it makes you so vulnerable.
Men love your accomplishments, they love your intelligence but what they love most about you is your heart, your passions in life and your vulnerability.
When you’re able to trust a man, you are triggering his hero response that wants to always keep you safe, protected and happy.
Like my friend, many women block their hearts because they are afraid of getting hurt again.
But if you block your heart, you can’t get the closeness and deep connection you want with a man.
So here’s my question for you . . . Is YOUR HEART open to love?
If it is, great!
But if its not, here’s what you can do about it.
I’ve created a Free Love Gift from my heart to yours to help you start the process of opening your heart to the perfect man for you. Click here to access it now.
One more thing . . . If you’ve been waiting for a sign that its time to jumpstart your journey to love, consider this is it.
Let’s dive into the heart of your dating life and unlock the patterns and possibilities that await.
It’s just a click away — share a bit about your dating adventures here and let’s schedule a session to map out your next chapter.
Your love story is waiting to happen, so let’s start crafting it together.
Believing in You!
Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .
💞 Feeling like you are on a merry-go-round of mismatched dates? Lets press pause and talk about how we can write a new love story for you. Click here to start our conversation. Tell me your story – I am here to listen and guide you towards meeting someone truly special.
If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:
1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for heartfelt dating wisdom and uplifting success stories from women who have been just where you are. They found love, and so can you. Click here to watch and learn.
2. Discover a new chapter in your dating life with my book, "The Winning Dating Formula." It is more than a book; it is your journey to love mapped out. And it is just a click away on Amazon. Click here and start attracting the love you deserve.
3. Join our Finding Love after 50 Facebook group to find camaraderie and connection. It is a warm and welcoming space to share your journey and receive support every step of the way. Click here to become part of our community.
4. On the lookout for a dating site that resonates with you? Browse through my personal selection of the best dating sites tailor-made for fabulous over 50s. Click here and say goodbye to guesswork.
Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹
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