9 Essential Strategies to Protect Your Heart and Wallet from Scammers on Dating Sites
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The internet has changed how we find companionship and connection, making it easier to meet new people through dating sites.
There are lots of potential matches out there, including many authentic, good-hearted men looking for a partner just like you.
However, as you’re navigating the dating sites, you want to be aware that scammers are there as well.
These men are con artists who will find a way to touch both your heart and your wallet.
I don’t want to scare you because there are good men online for you to date.
Yet, you want to be aware of the clues that will tip you off to these con artists.
So, I’ve put together 9 telltale tips to help you identify the red flags that will safeguard both your emotions and your finances as you journey through the world of online dating.
1. The Profile Pitfall
Your profile is your window to the dating world; hence, when it comes to personal details about your job and income keep it vague.
You can say you’re a nurse or an executive but don’t mention where or how much you make.
Also, you want to be aware of coming across as needy and lonely in your profile.
It makes you perfect prey for scammers looking to hook you into their scams.
2. The Overseas Ordeal
He might tell you that he lives in a metropolitan city in the US but his work takes him elsewhere in the world.
Or he will claim to be on an oil rig or in the military.
He says he’s coming back to the states soon and, wants you to wait for him because he’s so excited to meet you.
These are huge red flags that are signs you’re probably dealing with a scammer!!!
3. Scamming Women Is His Job
These men are Professional Heartbreakers.
Most live in poorer countries around the world where jobs that pay well are scarce.
By working a couple of hours each day, and using a well crafted script, he can easily communicate with women in the US, find their weak spots, and make a fortune.
He often has an appealing British lilt to his voice that seems to promise romance and he uses it to his advantage to hook you.
4. What He’ll Tell You About Himself
He uses pictures of great looking men to lure you in knowing you’ll feel special being contacted by someone who is so handsome.
Look closely at those profile pictures.
They are often stock photos found on the internet of handsome models in ads selling items like hats or sunglasses.
When you ask for more pictures, he’ll send family pictures of children or grandchildren.
The big tip-off: he’s not in these family pictures because he can’t find family pics of the models’ image he’s used.
5. He Uses Romance to Lure You In
Women love romance and scammers know this has been missing in your life for a long time.
So he steals poems off the internet and sends them to you as if they were his own.
Your heart just melts and you bond with him which makes you even more vulnerable to his scheme.
6. He’ll Always Have An Excuse For Why He Can’t See You
He’ll tell you that he can’t wait to see you and that he’s making arrangements to travel in a month or two when he can get away from his business.
Right before you’re supposed to meet, he’ll give you an excuse for why he has to cancel the trip.
Broken promises of meeting in real life happen over and over again.
This is another HUGE TIP OFF you’re dealing with a scammer.
7. You Can’t Find Anything Concrete About Who This Man Is
Try searching his picture on Google.
More than likely nothing will show up.
The absence of a digital footprint is another tip off you’re connecting with a scammer.
8. How the scam works
He’ll spend hours chatting with you multiple times a day.
His male attentiveness feels amazing because he knows its probably been a while since a man has been this devoted to you.
But beware…. he is not there for conversation; he’s hunting for your weaknesses.
Sharing a similar tragedy is a common tactic scammers use to gain trust and pave the way for exploiting their victims.
For example, if you’ve lost a close member of your family, don’t be surprised if he tells you he has too.
He uses these holes in your heart to get you to trust him knowing it will be easier for you to bond with someone who has experienced the same loss as you.
And that’s when he’s ready to reign you in for the scam.
He shares news with you about a HUGE business opportunity he’s about to close but the bank isn’t able to extend the credit he requires to close the deal.
He just needs a little more money to finish it or he’ll lose everything including the personal investments he and his family have made, a situation that’s undoubtedly stressful and disheartening for him.
This is when he asks you for your help.
He’s laid the groundwork needed to capture your heart.
He knows from your conversations that you’re in love with him and he counts on you not wanting to see him suffer this devastating loss.
You want to help him so you wire the money he needs to his bank account.
And you never hear from him again.
9. A blueprint for keeping yourself beyond the reach of these swindlers
- Date men closer to home.
- Keep emails short and sweet, ideally between 5-10 at the most. Al technology has given scammers the ability to write decent emails. The tipoff is they are usually too perfect and filled with descriptive words that most men wouldn’t use.
- Spend no more than a couple of hours on 1 or 2 phone calls max. This keeps you from divulging too much information that allows him to get closer to you.
- Meet a man within 2-3 weeks of initial contact. (If a man tells you he’ll be out of the country for a month or two, tell him to give you a call when he gets back.)
- When you’re uncertain, use Google Images to upload his profile picture. (This step lets you verify if the image truly represents him or if it might have been borrowed from someone else’s identity.)
Armed with the strategies and insights for avoiding scammers, the online world is still one of the best ways to meet a good man.
Remember to stay safe, keep an open mind, and maintain realistic expectations throughout your journey.
If you’d like further guidance and support, know that it’s always within reach—there are numerous resources you can explore below.
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