Hi Nancy,
I can relate…I used to have a TYPE of man I’d date that in reality never worked for me. But, it felt so comfortable like an old shoe you know you should really throw away. And when I finally did throw that TYPE away, I got a great man! To get what you want, you will probably have to change at least one quality you are looking for in a man.
I know my private clients have found this to be one of the biggest factors for finding happiness in their dating life along with “Dating to Date not to Mate.”
Screening by income, looks and education has not been working for me.
September 3, 2012 at 8:24 am
Merle
Your article was very true but I find that the men I have known in the past are narcissists.no one cares about anyone else’s feelings. Good looking or not so good looking. The questions you asked are what I would do but the men only think about themselves. I am going to save this article and keep reading. I think we all have a look we want in a man just like men have a a certain look also. There are also the guys who talk and talk to you an never meet you after weeks and weeks. So frustrating!
September 3, 2012 at 9:51 am
Lisa
Hi Merle
A couple of things here…let’s hit the phone guys first. If they haven’t asked you out by the 2nd or 3rd phone call, it’s ok to suggest meeting. You could say something like….I’m not a great phone person, would love to meet you. That opens the door to a date and if he doesn’t get the hint, it’s time to stop taking his calls. He’s using you for an emotional connection but isn’t willing to put the effort in past that.
Now for the look…which also includes the type, the income or any other specific quality a man has to have for you to date him. When you think you must have certain qualities in a man to date him, you usually end up narrowing your choices of men down to a tiny percentage of who is out there.
I always suggest “Out of the Box” dating to my clients.Take all the qualities you think a man has to have and change one or two like their age or their religion or another part of the city you both live in. Then start looking for men who have those new qualities.
Using “Out of the Box” dating, you’re more likely to get the type of man who will gladly do anything on that list in the blog. I know that’s who I got when I changed my usual type I’d date. I am very blessed to have this man in my life and truthfully, I compiled that list from what he’s done for me. But, to have a man like this in my life, I had to stop dating my usual type-who by the way were all narcissists so I get what you are saying.
September 3, 2012 at 10:23 am
Lisa
Hi Nancy,
I can relate…I used to have a TYPE of man I’d date that in reality never worked for me. But, it felt so comfortable like an old shoe you know you should really throw away. And when I finally did throw that TYPE away, I got a great man! To get what you want, you will probably have to change at least one quality you are looking for in a man.
I know my private clients have found this to be one of the biggest factors for finding happiness in their dating life along with “Dating to Date not to Mate.”
Keep me posted!
Lots of hugs
Lisa
September 3, 2012 at 10:11 am
Nancy Kay
Screening by income, looks and education has not been working for me.
September 3, 2012 at 8:24 am
Merle
Your article was very true but I find that the men I have known in the past are narcissists.no one cares about anyone else’s feelings. Good looking or not so good looking. The questions you asked are what I would do but the men only think about themselves. I am going to save this article and keep reading. I think we all have a look we want in a man just like men have a a certain look also. There are also the guys who talk and talk to you an never meet you after weeks and weeks. So frustrating!
September 3, 2012 at 9:51 am
Lisa
Hi Merle
A couple of things here…let’s hit the phone guys first. If they haven’t asked you out by the 2nd or 3rd phone call, it’s ok to suggest meeting. You could say something like….I’m not a great phone person, would love to meet you. That opens the door to a date and if he doesn’t get the hint, it’s time to stop taking his calls. He’s using you for an emotional connection but isn’t willing to put the effort in past that.
Now for the look…which also includes the type, the income or any other specific quality a man has to have for you to date him. When you think you must have certain qualities in a man to date him, you usually end up narrowing your choices of men down to a tiny percentage of who is out there.
I always suggest “Out of the Box” dating to my clients.Take all the qualities you think a man has to have and change one or two like their age or their religion or another part of the city you both live in. Then start looking for men who have those new qualities.
Using “Out of the Box” dating, you’re more likely to get the type of man who will gladly do anything on that list in the blog. I know that’s who I got when I changed my usual type I’d date. I am very blessed to have this man in my life and truthfully, I compiled that list from what he’s done for me. But, to have a man like this in my life, I had to stop dating my usual type-who by the way were all narcissists so I get what you are saying.
Let me know how this “tip” works for you.
Lots of hugs and Good Luck!
Lisa