How to cope with loneliness and the emptiness you feel inside as a single woman over 50
One of the hardest things you face as a single woman over 50 is the emptiness you feel inside when you’re missing a man in your life.
Everywhere you go, you see couples holding hands, kissing, and whispering in each other’s ear over the private life they share.
It intensifies the loneliness and makes you feel as if your life is incomplete.
In my 50’s, I can remember coming out of a long relationship feeling lost and very alone.
Instead of being part of TWO . . . I was now a “ONE” and I was having a hard time adjusting to my new status.
I shared this with a married friend of mine who gave me some great advice.
She said, “Enjoy this time of getting to know you again. Once you’re back in a relationship, you’ll wish you’d had more of it.”
This was great advice but I was at a loss for finding me again.
All I wanted to do was be part of a couple once more.
Then one day, I woke up and it’s as if while I was sleeping, I was given 3 Steps on how to open my heart to myself, my life and ultimately love with a man again.
Give these 3 Steps a try and let me know how they fill the emptiness for you.
Step #1
Being alone, you can really feel it when love is missing from your daily life.
But, how do you get that heart energy back when you’re single?
Chances are you spent years bending like a pretzel doing what an ex or everyone else wanted to do.
You put yourself last.
Now it’s time to dream again and do the things you’ve always wanted to try without having to run it past anyone but you.
This can be both exciting and freeing at the same time.
For me, I’d always wanted to take a painting class.
I did and today those paintings hang framed around my home.
Seeing them every day makes me so happy.
I just light up inside because I went after my dream of becoming an artist.
Now it’s your turn. Write a list of what you’ve always wanted to do.
Take an action step by choosing one and start doing it this week.
You’ll find that your passions can open your heart and make you glow.
Step #2
You can feel love in your heart without involving a man.
Start by making a list of all the people, animals or places in your life you love.
I am blessed to have two granddaughters in my life.
When I was single and feeling alone, I’d tap into my feelings of how much I loved them.
My heart just opened up and that felt amazing.
You will want to ask yourself who do you love with all your heart?
Maybe it’s your dog, cat, kids, grandkids, friends, parents?
Whoever it is, just allow those feelings of love you’re feeling to flow through you.
This is a very comforting step that helps you remember that love can be felt in all different ways, not just as part of a couple.
Step #3
Treat yourself and do something to nurture YOU every day.
As women, we have a tendency to give to everyone but ourselves.
This can leave you feeling both drained and exhausted.
When you’re exhausted you feel empty and it’s pretty hard to give or get the love you want.
Planning a fun 5 minute or 2-hour activity gives you something to really look forward to every day.
It can be as simple as reading a book in the bathtub surrounded by luxurious bubbles while sipping on your favorite glass of wine, or taking a walk at your favorite park or buying yourself a bauble you’ve always wanted.
To help you, I’ve created a Nurturing Calendar that you can download and print by clicking here.
Getting a guy is pretty hard when you feel empty inside and that’s why these 3 steps are so important to incorporate into your life.
I would love to hear about who and what fills your heart. I hope you’ll post a comment by clicking the button below.
Until next time…Lots of love and hugs to you!
Believing in You!
Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .
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I am 78 years old. Three years ago, my husband decided that he didn’t want to be in a marriage anymore. So after 36 years of being “two”, I became “one”. It was really hard at first, but now I love being alone and on my own. Someone on “Sixty and Me” said, “they would like to have a man in their life, but not in their house”. I’m not so sure now, that I even want a man in my life. I travel alone through Road Scholars, quilt, knit, have several close friends that I go to lunch, coffee and movies with. I am in a Life Long Learning group through the University of Minnesota that meets every month to study subjects of interest and books. I connect with my daughters and granddaughters as much as possible. I love the freedom I now have and wouldn’t change it for anything. I’m a young 78, in good health, eat nutritionally well, exercise and am a voracious reader. Life is good!
Sometimes Judy, when one door shuts another amazing one opens. Enjoy!!! Hugs~
Thank you, Lisa, for sharing these beautiful coping strategies. They are simple and inspiring reminders for the aching heart!
You’re so welcome Natalie. I’m glad it was helpful!
Thanks for sharing information for women over 50. It seems we are forgotten and issues that pertain to us don’t matter and are not addressed. I totally agree with the 3 steps on how to open my heart to myself, my life and ultimately love with a man again. I need to focus on making them a part of my daily life.
You’re so welcome Stephanie. Let me know how adding these to your daily life helps you. Sending you so many hugs~
As a 58 yo, mixed race, highly educated outdoorswoman, looking for an equal, I am pretty much persona non grata in the online dating world. However, settling for someone I wasn’t attracted to or shared values with wasn’t working either. No family either plus a deteriorating job situation lead to crushing periods of loneliness despite that I am a somewhat solitary sort. Have quit my Professorship and am in the process of putting my home on the market. A time of great turmoil, second guessing, sadness, regret, and feelings of failure but also looking forward to at least some time sans schedules and stultifying routines, of time to get outdoors daily, to fixing stuff, to being in deep woods away from drought and forest fires. Sadly, I reacquainted with a gentleman, albeit much older than I, with whom I have an amazing intellectual connection. I’ve made it clear that Colorado isn’t working for me, he has made no overtures towards cohabitation or marriage, so I’m outta here. Realize in my very isolated farmcommunity I’ll still be persona non grata (was married when I lived there before) but it may well be worth it in order to regain physical and emotional health. Sometimes our loneliness is caused by a combination of many things; we really need to do the work, see what all the issues are. Alone or not, this ok lady intends to kick serious a$$ from here on out🙋🏾