Dear Lisa-He’s Only Interested in Sex or He’s Dating but Not Employed-What to Do?
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Dear Lisa,
What do I do when a guy contacts me online who seems really nice yet within 2-3 emails starts talking about sex in a joking kind of way or starts asking me what I’m wearing? Why do men do this and what should I do? Can you give me an answer?
Jill
Jill,
I’m so glad you asked this question since it’s an awkward situation that sadly many women encounter during their dating journey. The thing is-a man like this is not looking for a relationship. He’s basically on the prowl, looking for a woman who will agree to have sex with him.
This is a man who is all about fulfilling his own needs and not yours.
If you are having one of those hormonal moments where you are looking for a sexual partner, you always have the option to meet him and see where it goes- but be sure you are SAFE about it. Use protection and always -always -always let someone know where you are and who you are with.
If it’s a relationship you want, don’t waste another moment interacting with this type of man.
Just end contact with him immediately and go back to the dating site and block him from being able to contact you again!
There are plenty of great men out there looking for what you want and your time would be better spent getting to know someone who respects you and is looking for the same type of relationship you want.
Wouldn’t it be great if you could quickly and easily identify who the good men are from the not so great ones showing up online? If you are tired of continuous bad dates with non-quality men happening over and over again, I can help you.
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Dear Lisa,
I went on a date that seemed like it would be fun. It was hard finding time to speak on the phone so after a couple of emails, we finally decided to meet at an ice cream parlor. I get there and I find this guy sitting outside. We start talking… but not once did he say, would you like to get some ice cream. Turns out he didn’t have a job and hadn’t had one for about 6 months, so money was too tight even for ice cream. What can I do to screen men like this? What a waste of my time.
Jo Ellen
Dear Jo Ellen,
It is a shame that so many financially devastated men are online dating.
They are what I like to call “Project Men” and being so drained in this area of their life, they have very little to give to a relationship.
Their focus should be on getting their life together and not on dating.
But, they are online and it can be hard to tell who they are from just reading a man’s profile. So before agreeing to meet, the best way to screen a man is by finding the time to spend 15 minutes talking on the phone together.
It’s pretty normal in regular conversation to ask the question-“So what do you do?”
If he say’s I’m between jobs, let him go until he’s got his financial situation straightened out, unless of course you are ok about being the financier of all your dates together while he’s not working.
There are plenty of stable men out there to choose from and a guy like this is not worth pursuing until he has his act together on all levels.
So from now on, save yourself a lot of wasted time with unemployed men by using a 15 minute phone call to see if he is gainfully employed.
Let me know what you think.
Until next time-
Believing in You!
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