Are You Over 50 But Still Dating Like You’re 20?

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So many women ask me why dating is so difficult for them. What’s the answer? Well that’s easy! We are 50 and over but we date as if we were still in our 20’s.

Don’t you feel like you were just in college? After all, we still wear our jeans and we still have long hair, unlike our mothers who used to cut their hair once they were married. With vibrant memories of our college years from the 60’s and 70’s still floating around in our heads, there is just no way we feel or look like we are in our 50’s and 60’s.

And that’s why we still look at members of the opposite sex like we did in our 20’s.  Most of us still want that handsome football captain who is so successful.

So we go online with our 20-year-old mind and who pops up?  50 plus year old men who look like our grandfathers with grey thinning hair, a belly and a boatload of baggage.  No wonder it seems like no one’s out there to date – they all seem too old for us!

But, we have our stuff too.  While men are balding, we are finding strands of hair popping up all over the place. In fact, if you think about it, hair removal could probably be a full time job for us after 50.

And we often have leftover pregnancy weight from 20 years ago, spider veins becoming more visible every day and hormones that wreak havoc with our systems and put the fear of God into anyone within 10 feet of us on a bad day.

A couple of years ago, I remember seeing a picture on Facebook of my handsome high school sweetheart who, by the way, did play football back then. I was shocked!  The young man I remembered had long black hair and wore painter’s pants.

In my mind, I expected an older version of the black haired man painter’s pants wearing man.  Although still handsome, he looked like his father with snow-white hair and a suit.  There was no way I could look that old too!

But I probably do. I just don’t see it. In fact, a wonderful gentleman told me this story that we can all relate to. He was getting ready to post his picture online and his daughter says, “Dad, Why are you posting a 10 year old picture of you online?”  He confided in me that the picture was how he still saw himself and didn’t realize his face had aged since it was taken.

None of us like to think we are getting older, but we are… and so are the men we are looking at to date.  There are some men who are still handsome and have aged well and there are some who haven’t, but as we get to know their personality, they grow on us and we get to know them better.

Decide what is really important to you when it comes to a companion who will age with you into your 60’s and 70’s.  Do you want a lover?  A friend?  A man who will be with you through thick and thin?  Do you want a man who views you through his eyes as hot and will love you even more as you age and will always think you are beautiful?

He’s out there waiting for you as one of those balding men online staring back at you from your computer screen.  If he seems nice…consider giving him a chance to get to know you.

You might find that this man who looks over 50 with his thinning hair may be the wonderful loving man you’ve been looking for.  Let me know how it works out for you.

Until next time-

Believing in You!

Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .

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Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹

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