Alice
I can so relate to your story because this once happened to me with an old flame from my past. It’s a painful experience…but it’s one you can get through.
Men like this keep you on the phone for hours raising your hopes about a potential imaginary relationship.
It sounds wonderful and its almost as if he’s reading your mind because what he is telling you feels so yummy. It’s like he knows you to your core and it feels like no one else will ever know you this way.
This is a classic example of getting involved with a man I like to call “The Charmer.” This kind of man uses women to fill his time while he is out prowling for other women who might be better suited for him.
What feels so hard about this type of relationship is that it feels so real because of the relationship pictures a man like this creates for you. You can feel just as hurt in this relationship as you would in a real one.
If you haven’t already done this… end it with him. In the future, when a man hasn’t asked you out by call #3, it would be wise to let him go.
i know you are hurting and need some time to heal. While you are healing, remember all the good things about you. Make a list and read it to yourself daily as a reminder of how wonderful you are and what you have to offer a relationship.
It will take some time to disconnect from this man and find the real you again. If you do this, it will be so worth it! You’ll be able get back out there with confidence and have the real relationship you desire. Keep me posted. Lots of hugs to you!
September 6, 2012 at 11:15 am
Alice
Lisa
You hit my problem right on the nose, only my phone calls went on for a very long time even past the other ones. This person was really sharp at what he did and after an extremely long time of him feeding me all I wanted to hear we still did not have one date. I found during this time that he was definitely a narcissist but he still told me what I needed and wanted to hear(like I could see us together.)Nice he could see us everywhere except on a date. He had great excuses for everything. His job also was always a convenient excuse because what he did professionally involved lots of unexplained time
Why do I still have feelings for this man ? It has done a number on my self esteem also. Alice
September 6, 2012 at 11:43 am
Lisa
Alice
I can so relate to your story because this once happened to me with an old flame from my past. It’s a painful experience…but it’s one you can get through.
Men like this keep you on the phone for hours raising your hopes about a potential imaginary relationship.
It sounds wonderful and its almost as if he’s reading your mind because what he is telling you feels so yummy. It’s like he knows you to your core and it feels like no one else will ever know you this way.
This is a classic example of getting involved with a man I like to call “The Charmer.” This kind of man uses women to fill his time while he is out prowling for other women who might be better suited for him.
What feels so hard about this type of relationship is that it feels so real because of the relationship pictures a man like this creates for you. You can feel just as hurt in this relationship as you would in a real one.
If you haven’t already done this… end it with him. In the future, when a man hasn’t asked you out by call #3, it would be wise to let him go.
i know you are hurting and need some time to heal. While you are healing, remember all the good things about you. Make a list and read it to yourself daily as a reminder of how wonderful you are and what you have to offer a relationship.
It will take some time to disconnect from this man and find the real you again. If you do this, it will be so worth it! You’ll be able get back out there with confidence and have the real relationship you desire. Keep me posted. Lots of hugs to you!
September 6, 2012 at 11:15 am
Alice
Lisa
You hit my problem right on the nose, only my phone calls went on for a very long time even past the other ones. This person was really sharp at what he did and after an extremely long time of him feeding me all I wanted to hear we still did not have one date. I found during this time that he was definitely a narcissist but he still told me what I needed and wanted to hear(like I could see us together.)Nice he could see us everywhere except on a date. He had great excuses for everything. His job also was always a convenient excuse because what he did professionally involved lots of unexplained time
Why do I still have feelings for this man ? It has done a number on my self esteem also. Alice