Hi Lisa,

I’ve been dating a man who lives in another city.  He drives 2 and a half hours to see me each time we meet. He is very different than other guys I have dated.

He works as a high school teacher. He has been very attentive, talks about his feelings a lot and brought me flowers.

I am totally used to dating Alpha Males and he is a Beta Man. I find this anxiety producing.  I actually came down with a migraine headache yesterday after our latest date.

I worry about how manly he is compared to the Alpha males I am so much more familiar with. How can I get used to seeing such a different kind of man?

I would greatly appreciate your thoughts.  Thanks  Nance

 

Nance

Congratulations on going out of the box in your usual dating patterns.

The hardest part of doing this… is that it’s going to feel uncomfortable for a while.

We as humans aren’t too keen about change in our lives and even though our old patterns don’t always work for us anymore….they feel familiar and that creates a false sense of comfort for us.

This man sounds wonderful bringing you flowers and being attentive on your dates with him.

By the way, those qualities don’t necessarily make him a total beta male.

Many men are a mixture of alpha and beta with one being more dominant then the other.

When you can…sit quietly or journal and ask yourself what is creating a migraine for you after each date.  What are you afraid of?

Getting a clear vision of the man you think you want in your life would probably help you as well.  It will serve as a guide for potential long term partners.

Also remember, you don’t have to date him to mate.  Take the pressure cooker off yourself and consider dating him just for fun and companionship right now.

You always have an opportunity to learn a lot about yourself from any many you date.

And keep in mind that every man you date will help you hone in on exactly what it is you want in a potential partner.

Over time, you’ll discover whether he’s the one for you.

In the meantime… if you enjoy his company, date him as long as it feels good to you

 

Dear Lisa

My last relationship of 5 years ended about 2 months ago and already I feel so lonely.  I really want a man in my life like yesterday.  With the holiday’s coming, I dread being alone. When can I start dating again?  Doreen

 

Doreen

Often as women, we think we need a man to complete us in life.  I believe it’s really about wanting a man to compliment us.

To compliment us, we need to know who we are again.

One of the reasons you might feel so lonely is because you’ve probably forgotten who you are and what you love to do in life.

When we start dating quickly after a breakup, and don’t do this step of finding ourselves again…what we end up doing is bringing the last him and relationship with us to the new him and the new relationship.

This is a great time to find activities and classes you might enjoy.

Chances are you stopped most of them while you were with your ex.  This is a good time to pick them up again and find new ones.

Because you’re single…you don’t have to sit alone on the weekends.

Ask your friends if they have girlfriends who are also single so you have someone to go to a movie or out to dinner with.

Use this time of healing to get a clearer vision of the next man you want in your life. Without this step, you will probably attract the same type of man again.

Would you like help figuring out the man you desire in your life?  I can help you get a clear vision of him in a Find Your Soul Mate Discovery Session.  Click the button below and let’s schedule a time for us to talk.

Here’s how you’ll know when the time is right to start dating…

You’ll have yourself back!

You’ll sparkle with an inner glow of confidence from getting to know you again….by the way this is the #1 quality men love about women!

Any feelings of bitterness or anger will be gone when you think of your ex.

When this happens you’ll know you’re emotionally healthy enough to begin looking for a new guy in your life.

To All My Wonderful Readers…. this is a time for gratitude and I am so grateful for you allowing me to be part of your life as you  travel this journey of dating over 50.  Thank you so much!

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this blog and what you are grateful for at this time in your life.

Many hugs to all of you!  Happy Thanksgiving….

Until next time~

Believing in You!

Lisa

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3 Comments
  1. Dear Lisa, I’m grateful for being able to talk to you one on one, it truly helped me to figure out what I want in a man, and how to overcome the bad breakup I had. I’m also grateful for all of the advice I get to read as you answer questions from others, because sometimes I have the same question!

    I had signed up for another dating site that was getting me no where fast, but after visiting your website and seeing the suggestions for alternate dating sites (that I never even knew existed) I signed up for one and have been having fun talking to men on the site, learning as I go how to talk to them, what not to say, what works best to say, etc.

    So to sum it all up in a nutshell, I’m grateful for YOU. 🙂

    Peggy

    • Thank you Peggy and I am so grateful for you too! So glad your dating life is going well and that you are enjoying the “Niche” Dating Sites http://www.findaqualityman.com/dating-sites/ listed on my site. Have a wonderful holiday and keep us posted with your questions and how your dating life is going. Hope you have a wonderful holiday.

  2. Hi Lisa…

    Thanks so much for your emails… I really appreciate your comments and suggestions. My question is..

    I am 66 and I just can’t believe that !!!! Most people think that I am in my early 50’s. I am attractive,healthy and outgoing, still very active and have the best of both worlds… mostly anyway. I own my home, car and camper van. I’m pretty much retired and collect pensions and rent from a suite… so I’m definitely financially independant. I have a dog, love to hike, XC ski, dance, golf, bake bread, cook gourmet meals for my friends,dress up for live theatre or a romantic dinner……..you get the picture…..

    My question is… Why am I still alone ?? I was married 24 years and have grown children, have been engaged 3 times to great guys… but each one turned out to have major anger issues.. some bordering on rage !!! Of course they keep that under wraps until I’m madly in love with them.. then it surfaces, in private only of course, I make mental excuses for as long as possible… ask them to get help, offer to support them emotionally through counselling,which they have all refused, …. then wake up and ask myself if this is what I want for the rest of my life….and it’s over !!!

    I have been on POF and other sites off and on for years.. but I think that, because of my age, I get very few responses to my ‘Quick notes’ If I do get any.. they make excuses why we can’t meet…The last one said that he has a cold…. some use the distance excuse although it is only 1/2 to 1 hour drive to the nearest city… I have met a couple of fellows for coffee… after spending a few weeks with phone conversations.. one started calling me at 11:30 or midnight even after my asking him to please not call after 9:30… another I golfed with and he couldn’t keep his hands to himself……

    Help !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please !!!!!!!!!!!!

    I’m not ready to resign myself to living alone forever……

    Thanks, Tina.

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