Hi Lisa,
Lately, it has been hard to find a date. The men who contact me seem to be old or disabled and it seems they just want me to take care of them. I am very self sufficient, and independent and am not looking to take care of anyone nor want them to take care of me, but what I would like is to find someone to enjoy my life with. I don’t date men who are older than me preferring them younger. Though it seems lately all I get is older men contacting me who are sexually washed up. I’m not ready to give up my sex. What do I do? Tina
Tina
Lots of men these days are vying for the attention of a woman over 50.
Now more then ever you have a choice of who to date and have a sexual relationship with… whether it’s with younger men, older men or men your own age.
There are advantages to each. Younger men have the sexual stamina you are looking for and seem to have a more balanced male/female side to them.
Hanging out in bed all day might feel pretty good while you’re there but when the sex is done, you may realize you have very little in common to talk about.
Men closer to your age share a history with you that is nice. He’ll remember the Beatles appearance on Ed Sullivan or the Apollo landing on the moon.
But, like his older counterpart, sexual dysfunction can start showing up once he hits his 50’s.
Older men especially can be wonderful gentlemen and treat you like a lady and that can feel really good. But as you mentioned, sexual dysfunction can be an issue with them.
Before giving up on these men, you might want to check out this site- https://embodytantra.com/meet-charu/#
Charu has coached both men and women on how to deal with sexual issues in the bedroom due to aging and has successfully helped them lead happy and satisfying sex lives again.
Dear Lisa
Ok, I’ve gone on out with yet another man who asked me to marry him on the second date. What is the problem with these men? Alice
Alice
There are a lot of men out there who just don’t like living alone. What he sorely misses is the emotional connection he can only get with a woman.
A man like this seems to know pretty quickly whether he thinks you are a good woman for him. When this happens, he can become quite aggressive about snapping you up and taking you off the market so you won’t be available to anyone else.
Even though it freaks you out…it’s actually a compliment to you!
But, that being said, if you like a man who does this…all you have to do is slow down the process.
Tell him it’s only date #2 and you don’t know him well enough to make this kind of decision quite yet… but you do appreciate that he thinks so highly of you to ask.
Then suggest that the two of you just have fun dating and let time reveal if the relationship is going somewhere.
If you don’t like him or he seems NEEDY…let him know you appreciate the compliment but at this point, you aren’t ready for a serious relationship with anyone.
This will let him down easy and since he’s looking for an emotional connection that leads only to marriage, he will probably leave you alone and start hunting for another woman who will fill his needs.
Dear Lisa
Frankly I have stopped dating and rarely leave my home anymore. I was told just recently that I have to be open to being vulnerable and getting hurt to find the right man. Is this true? Barbara
Barbara
Anytime you want a relationship in your life, you do have to open yourself up to the possibility of getting hurt. If you’re always afraid of getting hurt…you won’t date…. you’ll end up living in your own protected world and you won’t be able to meet that special man you want.
It’s a risk but anything worth having can be. You just have to decide if the goal of having a man in your life is worth opening your heart up to find out.
Have a dating question, you’d like answered? You can ask me here.
Until next time~
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Hi Lisa, just read your advices and it’s really good… my grandfather is almost 60 years old and like Barbara he rarely leave home. I’m thinking to introduce him to you and I know for sure that you can help her. I’m lucky to came to your site. Thanks!