Hi Gail…the reason men want to have sex is because men need a physical connection to know if you are right for them. It’s how they fall in love. Men have sex for love, women have sex because they are in love. They are 2 polar opposites.
This sounds like its really an important core value for you so by all means, stick to your beliefs. It will be harder to find a man who feels the same way you do in a committed relationship. But, I’m sure there is someone out there who will feel the same way you do.
Instead of being on mainstream dating sites, you might want to try niche dating sites that have men with similar beliefs as you have. You can look in the dating sites tab above for some or go to 100 Best Dating Sites for more.
I wish you the best of luck on your journey.
Many hugs to you!
May 2, 2013 at 7:10 am
gail
I’m 52 and divorced (10 years, after a 17 year marriage and 4 kids). I am a religious person, so living with someone (or sex) before marriage is not an option. I find that most men don’t want to waste their time so they find a way to let me know that they would like to have a physical relationship (at some point). Some hint around by telling me that they lived with someone in the not-so-distant past. Others are more blunt and come right out and ask if I would be open to sex. I’ve been out with loads of men in the last 9 years, and this seems to be the trend. I don’t understand how the rules could have changed so much since I was in my 20s. Their justification is that they don’t want to get divorced again. I see it as an excuse to look for problems (that may or may not exist) so that they can avoid marriage (in which people are supposed to work out their problems). I had a relationsihp with a man for a while, but he wanted to live with me, to “try out” what it would be like to be married, but that’s not a lifestyle that suits me so we split up. Any ideas?
May 2, 2013 at 10:24 am
Lisa
Hi Gail…the reason men want to have sex is because men need a physical connection to know if you are right for them. It’s how they fall in love. Men have sex for love, women have sex because they are in love. They are 2 polar opposites.
This sounds like its really an important core value for you so by all means, stick to your beliefs. It will be harder to find a man who feels the same way you do in a committed relationship. But, I’m sure there is someone out there who will feel the same way you do.
Instead of being on mainstream dating sites, you might want to try niche dating sites that have men with similar beliefs as you have. You can look in the dating sites tab above for some or go to 100 Best Dating Sites for more.
I wish you the best of luck on your journey.
Many hugs to you!
May 2, 2013 at 7:10 am
gail
I’m 52 and divorced (10 years, after a 17 year marriage and 4 kids). I am a religious person, so living with someone (or sex) before marriage is not an option. I find that most men don’t want to waste their time so they find a way to let me know that they would like to have a physical relationship (at some point). Some hint around by telling me that they lived with someone in the not-so-distant past. Others are more blunt and come right out and ask if I would be open to sex. I’ve been out with loads of men in the last 9 years, and this seems to be the trend. I don’t understand how the rules could have changed so much since I was in my 20s. Their justification is that they don’t want to get divorced again. I see it as an excuse to look for problems (that may or may not exist) so that they can avoid marriage (in which people are supposed to work out their problems). I had a relationsihp with a man for a while, but he wanted to live with me, to “try out” what it would be like to be married, but that’s not a lifestyle that suits me so we split up. Any ideas?