Is This Handsome Man An Over 50’s Liar and a Schemer?
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This past week, I heard yet another story of a woman connecting with a scammer on a legitimate dating site. These men are con artists who will find a way to touch your heart and your pocketbook without a second thought.
I don’t want to scare you and cause you to stop going online. There are plenty of good men out there for you to date. But there are certain clues you need to be aware of that will tip you off to potential scammers.
The Clues In Your Profile
Don’t mention your income or where you work. You can say you’re a nurse or an executive but don’t mention where or how much you make.
Be aware of sounding needy and lonely in your profile. It makes you perfect prey for scammers looking to hook you into their scam.
A Man Living Outside The US
These men will often say they live in metropolitan cities in the US but their work takes them elsewhere in the world. He tells you he’ll be coming back soon… and, of course, to wait for him because he can’t wait to meet you.
Who He Really Is
Most of these men are from other countries. Jobs that pay well are scarce. Men there who are willing to con you have learned that in a couple of hours a day, they can easily communicate with women in the US, find their weak spots and make a fortune.
They speak with British accents, something American women easily fall for. It’s sounds romantic to us. These men know this and use it.
Where They Say They Are From
Usually they will tell you they were born in England to a British mother and Italian father.
They give themselves romantic names like Valentino and Antonio.
They will send you pictures of themselves (like the one above) and they’re usually drop dead gorgeous. Look closely at these pictures.
They are often shots of handsome models posing in hats, sunglasses, holding products like beer or wine standing in front of tall buildings in Metropolitan cities, or standing by expensive cars.
Sometimes the men in the picture don’t even consistently look the same from shot to shot.
The pictures they send are model shots easily found on the Internet.
They might send you family pictures of children or grandchildren. Rarely are they in the picture with them. This is a huge tip off.
They Use Romance
We love romance and these men use it by sending you the most beautiful poems you’ve ever heard. They get these from the Internet as well.
What They Talk About
As you chat for hours every day, scammers will find your weak spot. If you’ve lost a close member of your family, don’t be surprised if they tell you they have too.
They use holes in your heart to get you to trust them. We bond easily with people who’ve had similar losses in their lives.
Or they will share news of the big business deal they are in.
You’ll hear how they just need a little more money to finish it.
They’ll tell you this is all the money the bank will give them and how their family members have invested too.
Then they’ll email you copies of contracts to make the deal seem legit and ask you for a loan just until the deal is signed.
Once the deal is done, they’ll wire your money back to your bank account.
Never, ever give them access to your financial resources!
Through this negotiation you hear a lot of I love you baby… I can’t wait to see you baby and as soon as this clears up I’ll be there and we’ll be together.
Excuses For Never Being Able To See You
They want to see you so badly and even tell you they are making arrangements to travel in a month or two. Yet as the date arrives, suddenly they aren’t available and the date gets moved back over and over again. This is another HUGE TIP OFF you’re dealing with a scammer.
You Google Them
Try searching on Google for your Valentino or Antonio. More than likely nothing will show up.
But if you tip them off you’ve done this… within days you will see a listing pop up with their name and phone number.
They want you to believe they are real and the phone company made a huge mistake with their information.
A tip off here is they will list their job, which few Americans do in the residential white pages.
How To Protect Yourself
Date men closer to home. Keep emails to no more than 3 or 4. Move men to the phone and keep calls to a minimum of 1-2 then meet ASAP.
If a man tells you, he’ll be out of the country for a month or two, tell him to give you a call when he gets back.
Don’t get pulled into a fantasy relationship that will rip your heart in two and wipe you out financially if you’re not careful.
He will try and keep you in the communication process as long as he can with his romantic poems and sad stories of his life.
He wants you to feel guilty saying no to him. Don’t get pulled into this con. Move on and date other men.
If this has happened to you, you are not alone. Thousands of men and women get caught up in these scams daily.
Situations like this can leave you feeling emotionally devastated. You might find you have a hard time trusting men again.
If you’d like to work on rebuilding your dating confidence, I hope you’ll write me at lisa@findaqualityman.com.
We’ll set up a time to talk about rebuilding your dating life.
There are lots of good men out there to date online.
Remember the tips I’ve shared with you and if you’re not certain about someone write to me or share your story with your friends.
They are objective and can give you an honest opinion of what they believe is going on.
I hope you’ll share your thoughts and comments with me here.
Until next time~
Believing in You!
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Another red flag, I need your personal email, I don’t check this dating site often. Duh, a I see you are online and b the website sends a you’ve got mail email, duh again! Not much truth on the Internet
Back when I was on OK Cupid, I was asked to be a moderator on the site because I seem to have a talent for spotting these dudes. They also talk a lot about God in their emails and act really desperate when you are not constantly in contact. May be dealing with one of these now on another site. Dwells in large city,overseas connections, good looking, not really eager to talk on phone. Keeping my spidey senses on high alert. If I do not mention income and profession, how do I get across to the plethora of down and outers that populate our mountain towns here that I am off limits? Likewise, in order to find an older, quality retiree willing to live here in this mountain town, my only choices are to look 100 miles from here or more. Sorry if I sound mean, but I want a relationship with someone my equal, both emotionally and intellectually, not someone looking for a meal ticket.
This is the BEST and most concise article I’ve seen regarding Romance Scammers! And I know this from my own experience! Luckily I became suspicious early on so no money (just my time) was wasted on a ‘Brazilian, claiming to live in Irving TX, who turn out to be a Nigerian living in Brooklyn NY; or at least using a NY phone trunk line.
This con artist also work the male side of the online dating work, many Russian and African female on the scam, so give your male friends the heads up too!
Thanks Lisa! Excellent information as always. I’m so glad I found your site and share it with all my friends!