Dear Lisa
My marriage of 31 years recently ended. I’d love to find love again. It seems like forever that I’ve really loved a man. Do I need to wait a certain amount of time to start dating? Do men really like women over 50? Do I have a chance of finding love again at this stage of my life? Sorry for so many questions but I have no one else to turn to for answers about all of this. Thanks so much!
Liz
Liz
Yes you can find love again after 50.
But, it’s a good idea to NOT start the dating process unless you are divorced and have healed from the person you spent 31 years with.
Otherwise, you will just end up attracting the same type of person again only in different clothes, a different body with a different job… yet with the same issues as what you just left.
When you are ready to start dating…and only you will know when that time is right for you…be sure your “Dating Confidence” is in place.
The Find A Quality Man Home Study System™ devotes 3 full chapters to this topic.
It can be a rough dating world out there so you want to feel really great about you… before you put yourself out there to date.
Most men over 50 are ATTRACTED to women over 50.
Often you’ll hear tales and stories of older men only wanting younger women.
For some that is true but for the majority, they want a woman in their life who they share a similar life and history with.
The best thing for you to do is heal from your divorce, then get yourself online or ask your friends to fix you up.
FYI-You may have to kiss a few frogs along the way but every man you meet will teach you something about yourself and the kind of man you ultimately would like to be with.
Dear Lisa
I just recently set up my profile for online dating. I am very hesitant about all of this. I am on a limited budget since my ex is not helping me with alimony and child support. I have always worked full time so I will be ok. My question is… when I meet up with someone for coffee, drinks or a real date do we pay dutch or should he offer to pay for me???
Marilyn
Marilyn
The rule of thumb is…. the one who does the asking out should pay.
Usually that is the man and I’d let him pay for about 2-3 dates before you start offering.
That’s when a relationship is probably starting and you can start picking up some of the checks or offer to split at that point.
Once you are in a full relationship, the two of you together can figure out what type of financial arrangement works best.
Many men have lost their shirt in this economy or half their 401k in their divorce…and as much as they’d love to pay for everything, they often can’t.
If you want to do more, then splitting or taking turns is a great way to accomplish a lot more fun on a limited entertainment budget.
Dear Lisa
I had a couple of dates with a man I liked. Last night, he ended it by telling me I didn’t know how to let a man be a man. I so don’t get this. Help!
Eileen
Eileen
We were brought up with the idea that we needed to be strong and independent women and we are!
We’ve raised kids, often had careers and supported everyone on their journeys in life.
We’ve made important decisions quickly and efficiently and we’ve become quite confident and resourceful at how to get things done especially when we’ve lived alone a long time.
Who else was going to do it for us?
Then along comes a man who…basically wants to be a man.
It’s his job to take care of things for you and make sure you are ok.
It’s in his DNA from the caveman days.
He wants to feel needed.
The problem is we’ve done things on our own for so long that we’ve gotten fast and we just do the task rather then wait for a man to maybe get it done for us.
If you want a real manly man, you have to find a way for him to feel like a man which means feeling needed by you.
If you can’t do this…and it is hard after so many years…another option is the beta man who will let a woman dominate a relationship.
The choice is yours!
Get your dating questions answered in future blogs.
Until next time~
Believing in You!
P.S. Whenever you are ready, here are four ways I can help you find love after 50
#1: Get a copy of my book The Winning Dating Formula on Amazon
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#3: Work with me 1-on-1 or in my Group Program
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