Dear Lisa…Am I Having Sex Too Early In The Game?
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Dear Lisa,
I hear men like a challenge and don’t like women that are easy to get! Is this really true? Nancy
Nancy,
The answer to your question is YES and NO.
Men are happy to oblige a woman interested in just having sex… which by the way is fine.
Sometimes you just need that hormonal fix.
But, when you have sex early on, as in a first or second date, you are sending him the message that you might be doing this with other men too.
And it can be a huge turn off to a man… possibly preventing him from creating a long-term relationship with you.
In fact, having sex too early in the game can be a reason for not hearing from a man again.
For you, once you have sex with a man, there’s a good chance you’ll bond with him.
It doesn’t mean he will bond with you.
Most men over 50 are looking for a long-term relationship with a special woman that begins with a solid friendship that leads to physical intimacy.
If you find a man you really like, who you think would make a great partner for you…
Be patient and WAIT to have sex with him until you’ve gotten to know each other. And have talked about creative an exclusive relationship together.
Dear Lisa,
I’ve heard not to let a man wait once he writes to you, as he can be getting emails from other women. Is there a process I’m supposed to being doing? Nan
Nan,
If a man writes to you, it means he’s interested in you.
Don’t make him wait beyond a day.
It makes you appear not interested or serious about dating and finding the relationship you want.
It’s also likely he’s interested in a couple of woman and has written to each one waiting to see who writes him back.
I guarantee if you don’t write back… someone else will.
So if you like what you see, write back as soon as you can and see if something is there for you with this man.
Dear Lisa,
Why do men our age seem to only want younger women? Alice
Alice,
I’ve spoken to a lot of over 50’s men about this issue.
There is a history Boomers share that a younger woman won’t have an awareness of.
Men told me they missed this and found it difficult after a while to relate to what younger women were interested in.
They shared with me that what made them go to younger women was the lack of appreciation from women our age.
They’ve learned that younger women who have experienced far less in life appreciate what these older men do for them.
They also found younger women were far less critical of how they acted as a man.
So if a Boomer man is what you want in your life, it’s a good idea to appreciate what he does for you… Even when it’s not exactly what you really wanted.
Decide whether you can accept this Boomer man for who he is. Men think women always want to change them.
This not the best way to start a relationship.
It’s wiser to just let him go and find someone else who’s more suited to what you really want in a man.
Believing in You!
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Dear Liza,
Thank you so much for keeping sending me helpful cases. I really like your advices that you have given to Nan. It was really helpful to me and made me feel more confident about this. I have made lots of date and most of men always suggest me to have sex with them. I always rejected them and they leave me. Sometime I was thinking a lot about this. I asked myself how I can do this in order to maintain a relationship with a man. After I got your case here I feel I am ready and know clearly on how I do to response my challenges here.
Thank you so much Liza,
God Bless You,
Soun
You are so welcome Soun. Let me know if there are other topics you’d like to know more about.
You hit it right on the head; men will have sex with someone for the sake of having sex. They do not even have to be attracted to the woman. Women have sex as part of emotional bonding and will not or cannot enjoy sex with someone they have no attraction for/connection with. Therein lies the problem. I have found that waiting 1-3 months before having sex (one month when you see the person almost daily, 3 months when it is longer distance)separates the users from the men who actually are interested in a real relationship
Sounds like you have found a plan that works for you when it comes to sex. I do think waiting a bit is good so a man does build an emotional versus just a physical connection with you. Thank you for your insight on this issue.