Are you making these 3 Over 50’s Online Dating Mistakes?
Mistake #1 – Not standing out from the crowd online
As a woman over 50, if you want to be successful online, your pictures need to stand out from everyone else’s.
Men are visual so you MUST have amazing pictures that grab his attention.
You can have them taken professionally or you can use your Smart Phone.
Most have really good cameras in them.
Just be sure to turn on the flash. It’s an amazing filler for fine lines and wrinkles.
Men love your smile so be sure you’re smiling and facing the camera.
Do NOT wear sunglasses. He wants to see your eyes.
Post at least one close up and one full body shot. I know when you see your flaws every day in the mirror; you worry about how a man will react to your full body shot.
But you have to be honest here and remember men love women of all shapes and sizes!!!!!
One last thing about pictures…wear clothes that show off your best assets but are not overly sexy.
Otherwise, you’re giving off the signal . . . I’m looking for a booty call, not a relationship.
Mistake #2 – Writing something on your profile that reveals there was trouble in your last relationship
Whether you like it or not, you are marketing yourself online and that means you want your profile to draw a man in.
You want to write your profile geared to what someone reading it is thinking and that’s . . . “What does this woman have to offer me?”
Most women usually start their profile with a list of their best qualities. An example of this is . . .
I’m a kind-hearted, professional woman who likes to travel, be around water, shop, and go to movies.
This sentence gives a man a lot of information about you.
But there’s nothing in the sentence that draws him in or gets his attention.
Here’s an example of how you can turn this around.
I’m a kind, intelligent woman with an open heart that I’d love to share with that special man. Some of my favorite activities are traveling, shopping and going to movies. (Want to share my popcorn with me?)
Can you see how this is flirty and fun and how it might draw a man in?
Now moving on to describing the man you’d like to meet.
Here’s an example of what not to write . . .
I’m seeking a man who is truly interested in working on a relationship and willing to give at least 50% to a relationship.
Beware . . . this type of sentence is a HUGE RED FLAG!!!!
When a man reads it, he’s thinking you might still be bitter from a time when your ex didn’t give much to you or the relationship.
Profiles reveal a lot about you without you even realizing it.
Mistake #3 – Not Playing or Flirting With Men Online
Most women approach online dating like it’s a chore to check off on their to-do list.
They’re not having fun because they’re not sure how to how to play and flirt with men online.
To begin . . . you want to keep emails short, sweet and fun.
No more than 5-10 emails max exchanged between the two of you.
Always ask a fun question so he has something to write back.
If he asks you a serious question about life or your day, DON’T write your answers out.
Instead playfully lead him to the phone by saying something like, “I’d love to answer your questions but it would be much more fun to share them on the phone where I can hear your voice. What do you think?”
BTW…if he says, “NO, I want to get to know you by email first”; I’d recommend MOVING ON.
You want a relationship, not an email pen pal.
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Hi Lisa,
I want to share with everyone, you’re right on
target. Although I haven’t met my Quality Man,
just yet, every man who writes to me, tells me
what a great profile and photos I have.
So, you pointed me in the right direction
and I’m confident I’ll meet my next Partner
in 2018.
You’re so welcome Teri! Hugs~
It doesn’t matter if your profile is irresistible or not. At least with Match.com because it’s a scam. Match takes your personal information and reuses it (per their contract) They don’t just reuse your profile but other people’s profiles too. Match also will “create test dating profiles” and communicate with you (again, this is in their contract). I had so many scammers contact me as well as “ghosts” who would appear and then disappear. The last straw was how many likes, yeses and emails I received as soon as my Match.com account was cancelled and I didn’t renew. It’s a total come-on. Not to mention a waste of time and money. Avoid Match.com at all costs.
I’m sorry you’ve had so much trouble with Match.com Susan. Many of my private clients have had tremendous success with Match meeting quality men. One of there reasons why is they were clear on who to love and connect their heart to. This made a huge difference in who they start attracting. If you want to know more, please reach out to me at Lisa@findaqualityman.com Hugs~