Are You A Target For Being Scammed After 50?
I’ve talked to lots of single women over 50 and the biggest fear they share with me is one of being alone forever.
Scammers are well aware of your fears and play on them to scam you.
They post drop dead gorgeous pictures knowing fully well that when a good looking man starts talking to you online, you’ll feel special, desired and wanted.
He knows it’s probably been a while since a man paid so much attention to you.
He starts spending hours chatting with you every day on the phone.
He recognizes that you will quickly connect with him when he makes you feel like you have someone in your corner who has your back and really cares about you.
But be aware…. what he’s really doing is looking for your weak spots during those calls.
He’s trying to figure out where you’ve experienced the most pain in your life.
If you’ve lost a close member of your family, don’t be surprised if he tells you he has too.
If you’ve had to put your pet to sleep, did too and he knows how hard this must have been for you.
He uses the holes in your heart to garner your trust knowing it will be easier for you to bond with someone who has experienced the same loss as you.
As you’re bonding, he’s telling you things like I love you, baby, I can’t wait to see you, baby.
He is priming you and getting ready to reign you in for the scam.
The day comes when he shares the news with you about a HUGE business deal he’s about to close.
That’s what’s been keeping him from coming to see you.
But, here’s the kicker and the part where the red flags should be going up.
He’s going to tell you that he just needs a little more money to finish the deal or he’ll lose everything.
He may even tell you that family members have invested but the bank won’t give him the last bit he needs until after the deal is going to close.
It means he’s going to lose the deal and all the money he and his family have invested.
This is when he asks you for your help.
He’s done the work needed to capture your heart.
You’re in love with him and you don’t want to see him suffer.
You want to help him so you wire the money he needs to his bank account.
And you never hear from him again.
Thousands of intelligent women get caught up in these scams every year.
I don’t want to see this happen to you.
Here’s what you can do to protect yourself and keep your online dating journey safe.
You want to date men closer to home.
Keep the emails you exchange short and sweet and at a maximum of 5-10 each back and forth between the two of you.
You want to speak on the phone no more than once or twice.
This keeps you from building a fantasy relationship.
You want to meet a man within 2-3 weeks of his initial contact.
If a man tells you he’ll be out of the country for a couple of months, tell him to give you a call when he gets back.
Upload his profile picture to Google Images.
You’ll be able to see if the image matches who he says he is or if he’s stolen his picture from a social media site.
Using this guideline can keep you safe from these predators.
In Chapter 6 of The Winning Dating Formula for Women over 50, you can learn more about how to stay safe dating Online. Click here now to check it out.
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While dating within 100 miles of home is not possible, and yep, the specter of life long alone-not-by-choice is definitely there. No family and my plans for leaving this job may wind up being in a remote area and unemployed and thus never again datable,I became really good at dissing out scammers so much so that OK Cupid asked me to aid in spotting them. Some tips
1. What’s the average dude in your age range look like? What’s an average income and education level? If they’re kinda tubby, low income types and all of a sudden a hot dude with an Ivy League education shows up in a smallish town, something’s amiss. Look at a huge disparity between interests and listed income compared to profession. Here, it’s ski bum land, you’re not gonna find Shakespearian actors, and nope, construction dudes don’t pull 150k. Foreign scammers don’t know the region, the economy, and it shows.
2. Really hot dude claiming to be uber Christian, mentions God constantly. Foreigners think all of us older chix walk about with Bible in hand. Again a stereotype from another country. Most of us older on line chix are more educated and atheists.
3. Claims to be foreign born, Italian, Swede, whatever. This is to explain errors in syntax and grammar.
4. Sometimes uses actual pics of nearby very successful businessmen. They’re easily found on line.
Same profile wording, different pics. When they’re discovered, they’ll use the same profile and put a different pic up.
5. Pictures of places they say they’re working don’t match with the topography and vegetation of the area. Last time I looked, Colorado has lotsa mountains, and doesn’t have rainforest type soil or vegetation.
The big thing is to know the reality of your area, a good idea of what you can realistically pull in your area, and pay attention.
Awesome that OK Cupid hired you to catch scammers. Its always good to know these sites are working on this issue. And great comments about what to look for. Hugs~
And the Nigerians always look for a God
Fearing woman! Also the FBI has a page
on their website about these scams.
Sadly, this is the only way many can make an income and that’s why they go this route.