I am divorced after a 14 year marriage, my husband left for another woman. I decided not to lay down and give up on myself, so I moved on, and I have tried to do it with grace. It’s been a year and a half and I joined a crossfit gym, I’m in the best shape of my life, my job is going well, and I’m successfully digging out of the financial strain from the divorce. In the last 4 months, a guy 14 years older than me has asked to do things sort of as a friend. But he has held my hand on occasion and kissed me on the cheek. But he’s also just a really nice guy. I’m trying to figure out if he likes me as more than a friend. We’ve listened to each other, I have a genuine interest in him, and we have things in common. I am strong willed and stubborn, so I’ve worked at letting him lead and asking his opinion. He really seems to enjoy my company but I’m not sure what to do now. I’m in my 40s and he is in his 50s. Any pointers are appreciated.
May 10, 2017 at 8:43 pm
Mary Courtney
PS When I say “try’ing” please know I mean making a concerted effort to show him care and respect and ask his opinion. And not just bulldoze my way through our time together. I don’t know if he’s trying to get to know me or just not interested in more. I did say a few months ago that I was trying to get my life settled before getting into a relationship but a lot has changed and my life is continually getting better. I actually feel good about me.
May 12, 2017 at 3:16 pm
Lisa
Mary…if your ant a relationship with him, you want to say things like, I enjoy spending time with you or it would be fun to spend more time with you. Men need to feel safe taking it to the next level. Its great you respect and ask his opinion. I’m sure he appreciates that. Hugs~
May 8, 2017 at 10:02 pm
Cat
I use the “I need your help” and “I need your opinion” all the time with my guy and it works like magic. He SO loves to help me with anything and everything. And then when I thank him for his help or input it just puts him over the moon. Learning to ask, receive, and be grateful for assistance from my man has helped make my current relationship better than any relationship I have ever had with a man. Thanks Lisa!
May 9, 2017 at 11:11 am
Lisa
You’re so welcome Cat. I have clients that also tell me those 4 words are like magic with men. Can change your whole life. Good luck with your guy!!!! Hugs~
May 8, 2017 at 5:36 pm
Terri
I don’t get this obsession with “Alpha Men”.
May 9, 2017 at 11:11 am
Lisa
A lot of women are tired of doing it alone and want a man who can make them feel safe and protected. What are you looking for Terri? Hugs~
May 10, 2017 at 8:34 pm
Mary Courtney
I am divorced after a 14 year marriage, my husband left for another woman. I decided not to lay down and give up on myself, so I moved on, and I have tried to do it with grace. It’s been a year and a half and I joined a crossfit gym, I’m in the best shape of my life, my job is going well, and I’m successfully digging out of the financial strain from the divorce. In the last 4 months, a guy 14 years older than me has asked to do things sort of as a friend. But he has held my hand on occasion and kissed me on the cheek. But he’s also just a really nice guy. I’m trying to figure out if he likes me as more than a friend. We’ve listened to each other, I have a genuine interest in him, and we have things in common. I am strong willed and stubborn, so I’ve worked at letting him lead and asking his opinion. He really seems to enjoy my company but I’m not sure what to do now. I’m in my 40s and he is in his 50s. Any pointers are appreciated.
May 10, 2017 at 8:43 pm
Mary Courtney
PS When I say “try’ing” please know I mean making a concerted effort to show him care and respect and ask his opinion. And not just bulldoze my way through our time together. I don’t know if he’s trying to get to know me or just not interested in more. I did say a few months ago that I was trying to get my life settled before getting into a relationship but a lot has changed and my life is continually getting better. I actually feel good about me.
May 12, 2017 at 3:16 pm
Lisa
Mary…if your ant a relationship with him, you want to say things like, I enjoy spending time with you or it would be fun to spend more time with you. Men need to feel safe taking it to the next level. Its great you respect and ask his opinion. I’m sure he appreciates that. Hugs~
May 8, 2017 at 10:02 pm
Cat
I use the “I need your help” and “I need your opinion” all the time with my guy and it works like magic. He SO loves to help me with anything and everything. And then when I thank him for his help or input it just puts him over the moon. Learning to ask, receive, and be grateful for assistance from my man has helped make my current relationship better than any relationship I have ever had with a man. Thanks Lisa!
May 9, 2017 at 11:11 am
Lisa
You’re so welcome Cat. I have clients that also tell me those 4 words are like magic with men. Can change your whole life. Good luck with your guy!!!! Hugs~
May 8, 2017 at 5:36 pm
Terri
I don’t get this obsession with “Alpha Men”.
May 9, 2017 at 11:11 am
Lisa
A lot of women are tired of doing it alone and want a man who can make them feel safe and protected. What are you looking for Terri? Hugs~