Welcome to Day #6 of our 7 Day Never Be Alone Again After 50 Challenge…
How to Avoid Online Dating Scammers For Good!
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Want to give you an update since this was filmed. At that time, many Romance Scammers came from Ghana and Nigeria. Today, they can come from all over the world. The ways they scam you are still the same as in this video.
To stay safe . . .
- Limit email exchanges to 9-10 short emails
- No more than 2 phone calls. (the more you talk with a scammer, the more he will find out about you to connect with your heart so limit those calls.)
- Meet within 2-3 weeks of initial contact on the dating site. If he says he’s working out of the country or is on an oil rig or in the military, tell him, he is welcome to contact you when he’s living back in your area again.
This strategy can keep you safe from scammers if you follow it.
Also, not sure if a man is a scammer?
Julie Natashaway from Aste.io has helped many of my clients stay safe by doing background checks on the men they are talking with.
She was nearly scammed herself and created her business to protect women.
Would love to hear your thoughts. You can post them by clicking on the comment button below.
Tomorrow we’ll be talking about…
Little White Lies…should I or shouldn’t I tell him my real age?
Looking forward to talking with you then
To finding love after 50~
Lorikeet
I agree that scammers like to go for emotionally vulnerable and lonely people. They also target charity workers and church people, thinking they will be a soft touch where money is concerned.
Scammers can be found all over the world, including in your own suburb. The most important thing to remember is to NEVER lend money to anybody you don’t know.
Unfortunately some dating sites are not very quick to remove the profiles of scammers or men perpetrating other kinds of abuse on women, including being sexually involved with multiple partners at the same time. This is doubly disgusting when they target conservative women seeking permanent partners. The man is often attempting to protect himself from disease. If a man only wants to see you once per week at a particular time, he could be involved with multiple woman or be married.
Even men who take you to their homes to prove they don’t have a permanent partner have a wife living in another house. They have split their assets to avoid income and assets tests which might later affect their eligibility for a government pension.
Alli
I have plenty experience of scammers because they attack especially 50+ women – regardless if they look desperate or not. I always report them. I have become so good in detecting them that I only have to see their pic and read their profile text for 2 sec and I can tell whether they are real or fake. There is no way to keep them away. You just have to accept that they are there and that the dating sites usually dont do much about them because they are often paying customers. It is super frustrating and one of the main reasons I am not into online dating any more. But where else to meet anybody? I am a writer and stay mostly home so chances for me to ever meet anyone are pretty limited….
Lisa
Alli…great insights. You want to create a Dating Blueprint with at least 4 ways to meet men. This way you are not totally relying on Dating Sites to find love. Good luck. Hugs~
Yvonne
Thank you Lisa, for this very useful information which will protect women from those awful scammers. You are a dating website guardian angel, and l
know that your video will save many from terrible experiences with online dating. All the videos are excellent! Many thanks!
Lisa
Hi Yvonne
So glad you are enjoying the videos and thank you for writing to let me know. A Happy New Year to you!!!!
Rae Lynn
Hi Lisa, am enjoying this series. I don’t talk about any of the stuff you said not to put in your profile, but I get so many scammers that write to me, it is ridiculous. I usually say I work for a law firm in the internet scan dept., and they are history. But I just wonder why they pick me. I’m definitely not desperate. I even had one send me flowers and candy. But just know I have never fallen for any of these people and never will.
Nancy
First, I’d like to thank you for your time to give out tips.
Most of this I’m already doing, day 4 is a rough area for me…leading men to pursue me.
I consider myself an alpha woman.
It does make things somewhat tougher but to be authentic I have to work within WHO I Am.
Do you have any comments or advice for the alpha women who need love too?
Lisa
Hi Nancy…so many of my private and group coaching clients come to me for this very issue. They are very successful everywhere in their life except in finding love. Men tell them they are controlling and emasculating them. And they are. They want Alpha Males but what happens is you can’t have two total Alpha’s in a relationship otherwise you compete with each other. As an Alpha Woman…by the way, what this means is you’ve taken on masculine characteristics.
To overcome this, you have 3 choices….
#1-you can stay exactly like you are and get the same responses or lace of responses from men
#2-you can date Beta Males…understand that most Alpha Women tire of this because deep inside they want a man who will make some of the decisions and make them feel safe and protected
#3-Learn the skills of coming into your true Feminine Power (this is what I teach my clients). Your true feminine power is what draws men to you. It’s not about being a door mat. It’s about discovering the power of allowing a man to be a man for you. Make sense?
Nancy
I appreciate your quick response & advice.
I have the alpha woman book so a high beta low alpha manis what iI’m looking for.
I’ve been on POF for 16 months, 7 months of which I was caring for my aging mother, so I didn’t have much time to date. I have met 17 gents, and one scary psycho. I don’t know other ladies numbers. Number 14 was very close to my hopeful, but he wasn’t as emotionally available as He thought he was. He had only been divorced a year and a half, and Very wrapped up in his young daughter(which trait I admired) but didn’t make much time to get together much to get to know eachother. We still text but I’ve moved on. I find I’m very selective….for many reasons.
I own my home, which means I’m not selling or moving. All my family is in the area and I like being Mimi.
Is 18 men met in 16 months a reasonable number for your experience?
Thanks again.
Lisa
Nancy…I dated over 30 men in a year to get to “the one.” So I think 18 in 16 months is reasonable.