5 Secrets To Getting A Quality Man Over 50 To Ask You Out

 

You’re out and about and you see an attractive man you’d like to get to know.

What do you do to get his attention?

Most women aren’t aware that men need encouragement to know it’s safe to approach you.

They are just as afraid of rejection as you are.

So what do you do?  In todays blog I’m going to show you some of the secrets for how to let a man know you’re interested without coming across as too aggressive or forward.

So let’s get started. 

Secret #1

Smile at men you’re attracted to.

At the same time, you’ll want to make eye contact with him for about 5 seconds. 

It will seem like an eternity but it’s a signal he’ll read as you’re interested so its ok to approach you.  

Secret #2

Get a man’s attention by asking him a question.

Remember men are wired to help women.

Here’s a couple examples of questions you can ask to get the dialogue going between the two of you…

• You’re at a happy hour with a friend and a man sits next to you and orders red wine. Tell him the wine you like and ask him if he’d recommend one he enjoys.

• You’re at Starbucks. Ask if the chair next to a nice looking man is taken. Or if you’re in line, ask what his favorite coffee is.

• You’re at a dog park. Ask about his dog’s veterinarian and if he’d recommend him or her for your puppy.

Secret #3

Men can speak a language that you won’t necessarily hear or understand.

Here’s an example of what I mean…

My client, Heidi was sitting at a bar having dinner with her friend.

They struck up a conversation with a man who’d sat down next to them.

Her friend asked the question, “Your salad looks amazing. What is in that?”

The question spurred the man to talk and the conversation between the three of them took off.

When her friend left, Heidi and this attractive man from out of town continued talking.

Over and over again he shared with her that he wasn’t locked into where he lived and that he’d seriously dated women from cities other than the one he currently lived in.

What he was asking her in male language was, “are you interested in dating me even though I live out of town?”

She had no clue he was trying to feel her out to see if it was safe to ask her for a date.

She ended up losing out on an opportunity to date a man she was actually attracted to.

Secret #4-

To this day, one of my favorite television shows is I Love Lucy.

In the 1950’s, a woman would drop her handkerchief in front of a man to let him know she was interested in him.

Lucy, dressed in a disguise, was pretending to be another woman. 

Her goal was to see if Ricky would flirt with her.

She dropped her handkerchief in front of him and said, “Pardon me,” fully expecting him to pick it up for her. 

Both understood this was a sign she was interested and he could approach her if the attraction was mutual.

You can do the same thing with men today.

Instead of using a handkerchief, try dropping your phone if it won’t shatter or a folder or package you might be carrying.

Who knows what it might lead to!

Secret #5

Your job is to let him know you’re interested.

His job is to approach and ask you out if he’s interested in you.

If he’s not, it doesn’t mean he’s personally rejecting you. He might be married, have a girlfriend or you might not be his type.

Chalk the experience up as an opportunity to practice your flirting skills.

There are lots of ways to meet men in real life and I have so many tips I’d love to share with you to make it easier for you to do.

Watch your email box tomorrow for another great tip about meeting men in real life. Oh and I’ll also share how you can find out where all the good men are hiding out where you live.

Believing in You!

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On February 21, 2018   /   Companionship after 50, Confidence after 50, Dating Advice Over 50, Dating Mindset after 50, Mindset after 50, Relationships after 50, Senior Dating, Successful Single Women over 50, Understanding Men after 50