5 Reasons Why Being An Alpha Female Doesn’t Always Work In Over 50’s Dating
It wasn’t long ago that I was a major Alpha Female.
Not only did I know how to do it all, I held the belief I could do it even better and faster than most men.
I felt powerful and I loved that power.
The problem was what I was feeling was Masculine Power, not Feminine Power, and I ended up being told by 2, yes 2 different men that I was controlling, emasculating and that I didn’t “know how to let a man be a man.”
And truthfully, I DIDN’T.
I wasn’t taught the power of my feminine nature or how to get my needs met in a relationship with a man or even how to be a partner.
I just wanted to be in control.
Growing up in the era of women’s lib, which by the way did awesome things when it came to opening doors to previously unattainable careers for women, I learned to follow a philosophy of never needing a man except to make a baby.
So like many women of our generation, I became a powerhouse who stepped on men regardless of their feelings or how my behavior made them feel.
And this brought out the WORST in the men in my life.
The men who accused me of not letting them be men couldn’t tell me in words what made them feel emasculated or less than as a man.
They just felt it.
And that’s why I began doing a ton of research on men and what makes them tick
Today I want to share 5 of my favorite tips that have made a huge difference in my life and my clients lives with the men they love.
#1. Men do want women who are intelligent and can think for themselves.
They aren’t looking for needy, clingy women.
They want to find someone they can be proud of at their side who loves her life.
#2. Men don’t want to be controlled or told what to do.
When you tell a man how to do his job at home or at work — especially when he hasn’t asked for your opinion — he feels like he looks less than in your eyes.
A man wants to be your hero and does try his best to be that for you.
#3. Men want a relationship, not a competition.
When you are an Alpha and he’s an Alpha, you have 2 leaders and a lot of competition.
Ever see a man when he’s competing?
He wants to win and he will do what it takes to make that happen.
By coming from your feminine side, which is your heart versus your mind, it takes the power struggle out of your relationship, which will brings out the best in both of you.
#4. Over-giving is a masculine Alpha quality.
Our DNA comes from the caveman days where we as women needed protection and we needed a man to provide for us to survive.
These roles are still in your DNA coding.
When you over-give to a man, you are saying, I’m the Alpha in the relationship.
It doesn’t mean you can’t give, of course you can.
But when you over-give, you become a man’s mother, not his partner and you train him to stop giving to you.
#5. Men need to be needed.
Yes, you are strong and we as women emotionally need to be strong for the family and the relationship.
But when you do all the physical work and all the emotional work in the relationship, you don’t leave room for a man to honor his DNA coding of doing for you.
Coming into your feminine power doesn’t mean lying down like a doormat and just allowing a man to walk on you.
Far from it.
It means learning how to bring out the best in a man and in turn, he will bring out the best in you.
When I was finally able to let go of rubbing my strength and power in a man’s face, I found men were stepping over themselves to help me.
It didn’t take anything away from me.
It actually helped me get over the idea of “I have to do it all” and it brought me into true partnership with men.
And you know what?
That felt good.
I felt cherished, adored and respected for being myself.
I’m getting married thanks to what I learned from Lisa
I was really having no luck with Online Dating. Lisa suggested I try honing my skills with men in real life. I met my future husband this way. Her advice helped me focus on looking for and recognizing quality men. I learned a lot about men that has helped my relationship with my future husband. Her coaching program really works! Diane, Chicago
Interesting in learning more about men and the best way to attract the right one for you?
I’d love to show you how.
It doesn’t have to be as hard as you might be making it.
If this is something you’d like to do, just click here and tell me about what’s been going on in your love life then we can set up a time to talk about how you can make dating after 50 far more fun and easy.
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If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:
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Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹
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