Intimacy Over 50
5 Reasons It Can Be Super Exciting and Fun!
This is a guest post by my friend, Janelle Alex, Ph.D., the co-founder of SexyChallenges.com. I love how she confronts the idea that sex and passion aren’t just for the young. Over fifty is sexy!
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Lisa
American culture teaches us to believe that we are only sexy in our 20s, 30s and maybe – if you are lucky, 40s. We are taught that having an active and exciting sex life is something that we will no longer have once we hit middle age and beyond. Well, screw that (pun intended)!
I am going to share with you 5 reasons why sex after middle age can be even hotter, sexier, spicier, and more exciting than when you were younger. Yes, sometimes there are medical conditions that can affect your sex life, but you can seek help for those. You can find natural methods to assist with physical conditions as well as finding assistance within western medicine. It can be freaking amazing and here’s why.
1. Experience! – Okay, you have gone through your teens and 20s trying to figure out what the heck all the fuss was about. Hopefully, you enjoyed a lot of wonderful lovemaking during those years and had a loving committed partner for part (if not most) of that time. Then, you moved into your 30s and 40s and hopefully, still had wonderful sex around having kids and a career. Well, guess what? All these years gave you a lot of experience. You had the opportunity to figure out what you do and don’t like when it comes to gettin’ busy. Boy, oh boy, that can come in handy now!
2. No Kiddos! – Most likely, if you had children, they are grown or at least not little anymore. So, now you don’t have to worry about little ones bursting into your bedroom and there is a very good chance that you can get back to making love in any room in the house. Plus, you aren’t as apt to be stressed and worn out due to running them to this practice and that event and trying to help get their homework done. Yay! Stress level has dropped!
3. More Time! – By now you are hopefully more established in your career and don’t need to spend so many hours working. As mentioned above, you aren’t as likely to be running kids everywhere. There is time for the two of you again. Time to date (whether or not you are already in a relationship or looking for a new one). The more time you spend together the more likely you are to bond on a deeper level and then…yep – rip each other’s clothes off and spend some naked time together!
4. Extra Money! – In those earlier years, your finances may have been a bit tighter. Now you are, hopefully, better off financially and have more disposable income to spend on dates, romantic excursions, clothes/shoes that make you feel sexy, and even more adult toys/lubes. *Ah, reflect back to “experience”: you know what you like or you are more willing to find out now – so, spend some money on high quality sex toys and enjoy hotter, new, different, intimate play with your lover.
5. Sexy & Healthy! – The more pleasurable sex (particularly in a committed relationship) you enjoy the more oxytocin that is released into the body. This is the “feel good” hormone. It eases pain and just makes you happier in general. And, even more exciting is the fact that as oxytocin is released in the body more oxytocin receptors are created! Woo Hoo! That means the more sex you have the better and better you can feel. Of course, on top of all that is the fact that making love is a spiritual connection even if you never intend for it to be. Therefore, not only does your physical body become healthier and happier, but so does your soul. How can you beat that?
So, for those who have told you that having a great sex life past middle age is practically hopeless, you now have five reasons why they are wrong. Experience! No kiddos! More time! Extra money! Sexy & healthy – physically and spiritually! We typically live so much longer nowadays. Take the time to enjoy this second half of your life and fill it with playful experiences – physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Honor your life and your sweetie’s by engaging in more powerful, playful passion.
Let me know what your thoughts are about sex after 50.
Janelle Alex, Ph.D., co-founded Sexy Challenges along with her husband Rob Alex, M.Sc. She encourages you to “Get busy. Get spiritual. Laugh your ass off!” Find out more at www.sexychallenges.com.
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The article was down to earth and had info in it that we can relate to. I,(age76). I feel that older women are not quite so restless and perhaps they are more apt to be more selective in their partners . They tend to see a partner as more realistic and not through rose colored glasses. We can see Beyond the physical appearance and look more towards the qualities that really matter. Unfortunately, As people grow older they become more set in their way and it’s difficult for change . For some of us.
I have not had sex over 50.
I am 57.
Dated very little.
I don’t work and don’t have a social life.
Last boyfriend was my fiancee’ back in 1995.
Life is very boring.