3 Huge Mistakes That Keep You From Finding Love after 50
Mistake #1 . . . A self – defeating dating attitude about you
How many times a day do you spend time criticizing yourself as if its the most normal thing in the world.
Maybe you say something, “My butt looks too big in these pants,” or “I should really lose ten pounds,” or “My neck is awful?”
Doing this to yourself every day – dozens of times a day – takes a toll on your psyche.
You start believing the story you are telling yourself about how flawed you are, instead of how truly awesome you are as a woman over 50.
To shift this perspective about yourself, look in the mirror and play what I call the 3 to 1 game.
for every one negative quality, you tell yourself, tell yourself 3 qualities you love about yourself.
This is a huge game changer for shifting your beliefs about you.
Now I want to fill you in on a little secret… men don’t pick you apart the way you do.
If they are attracted to you (and men are attracted to all types of women) then they have the ability to love the whole you and accept you just as beautiful as you are.
The real question is… can you?
#2 . . . Holding onto Limiting Dating Beliefs about available men
Most women believe what makes a Quality Man is his ability to swoop her off her feet, wine and dine her at the best restaurants around town and give her presents and a very wealthy lifestyle.
Now, I want to share another secret with you.
Money alone does not make a Quality Man. How a man treats you and how you feel around a man is far more important.
An example of this: I have a former client who is very successful professionally.
She found herself madly in love with a man who is a male nurse.
They have an amazing relationship and she feels she got the best guy in the world because he makes her feel absolutely loved, cherished and adored.
Note those feelings have nothing to do with money or the fact that she out-earns him.
Many professional women would have turned their noses up over this type of man, declaring anyone less than a doctor, lawyer or accountant wouldn’t qualify as a Quality Man in their eyes.
Lots of men are online who are good men and want nothing more than to make you happy.
It’s worth giving them a chance.
Mistake #3 . . . Keeping your heart closed to love
You’re probably tired of living life alone and you’d like to have a good man to share your life with.right?
You can probably even visualize who this man might be and how your relationship might look.
Yet is your heart really open to allowing a great man to walk into your life?
One of the scariest times for my private clients comes when it’s time to date.
I’ve seen women who told me they desperately wanted a man in their life suddenly want to quit dating. Why?
Because letting someone into your heart again is SCARY especially if you’ve been hurt in the past.
One of the quickest ways to open your heart again to love is by appreciating everything in your life especially you.
Self-love helps you feel empowered and good about who you are and that’s what ultimately leads to attracting and keeping a good man in your life.
I’d love to hear what’s been holding you back and what you’re ready to give up to find love in your life.
Believing in You!
Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .
💞 Feeling like you are on a merry-go-round of mismatched dates? Lets press pause and talk about how we can write a new love story for you. Click here to start our conversation. Tell me your story – I am here to listen and guide you towards meeting someone truly special.
If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:
1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for heartfelt dating wisdom and uplifting success stories from women who have been just where you are. They found love, and so can you. Click here to watch and learn.
2. Discover a new chapter in your dating life with my book, "The Winning Dating Formula." It is more than a book; it is your journey to love mapped out. And it is just a click away on Amazon. Click here and start attracting the love you deserve.
3. Join our Finding Love after 50 Facebook group to find camaraderie and connection. It is a warm and welcoming space to share your journey and receive support every step of the way. Click here to become part of our community.
4. On the lookout for a dating site that resonates with you? Browse through my personal selection of the best dating sites tailor-made for fabulous over 50s. Click here and say goodbye to guesswork.
Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹
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Hi, really need some help with this. I have no children, in my 50’s, and the thing I struggle with is what is reasonable to expect from a man in terms of him wanting to share his resources with me, take care of me, however you want to define it when a man is in love with you, if he has children? What does this look like if we get married? I see NO advice on this topic (money and estate matters when one person has no children and the other does) and how to navigate it. Is it reasonable to expect that if we were married I would inherit part of his estate? Please don’t think I’m a gold digger; I’m not, but these are real world, practical issues! Help! Thank you.
I’m sorry Alison. This is not an area that I’ve had enough experience in. You might want to speak with a financial planner who could guide you better in this. Hugs~
Evidently I lack self love. I am twice widowed and now dating man who treats me like I’m a princess, wants to take care of me. Is gentle and kind. I want to love him and be with him but something is lacking. He says I have to love myself before I can love somebody else. I guess he’s pretty smart. I have never thought of myself as not loving myself. So, how do I fix this?
Hi Jackie…I remember a time when my own self confidence was lacking and it blocked me from getting the love I wanted with a man. I was blessed to have a coach come into my life who helped me rediscover me and how lovable I really am. That totally turned my life and love life around. Today, I help women overcome exactly what I went through from feeling less than to an inner knowing that I’m amazing and worth whatever my dreams are. If you feel like talking with me one on one would be helpful, please reach out to me at Lisa@findaqualityman.com and we’ll find a way to connect. Lots of hugs~