My brother introduced me to a guy. He is nice, and he is retired, had a home built after his divorce in a town that is for retirees and you have to have a lot of money to live there. I still was not attracted to him. I let him go. I told him I just wanted to be friends because he stated after two dates that he really liked me. I have to have an attraction. If I don’t have that right away, I am not interested in letting the relationship go any further. I have probably turned down a lot of men because of this. I am not talking about good looks. I mean that I have to have some kind of attraction for the guy as far as personality and what we have in common.
October 15, 2018 at 4:37 pm
Lisa
Andrea….Sometimes, it can take more than 2 dates for attraction to happen and for you to find out if more is possible. Is your attraction chemistry or common interests? Hugs~
October 5, 2018 at 8:43 am
Rachel Robinowitz
this may be the single most impressive (and most needed) point to make when choosing a man that will go the distance. Packaging is nice, but it pales in comparison to qualities of the heart that translate to how a man treats the woman he loves. Keep saying it, Lisa! Many thanks. Rachel in Israel
October 15, 2018 at 4:36 pm
Lisa
Thank you Rachel. Glad it was so helpful. Hugs~
October 4, 2018 at 12:32 am
Lindy
Loved the input. Have several friends walking away from men who they “aren’t feeling it”.
I too get it. . . my late husband of 30 years was best friend but not my wow type. Had an amazing life together.
This time around got stuck in wanting high school feeling. But, the men with that affect ended up with divorce issues, and egos.
Do you have thoughts how to feel more,( attraction of a 5 vs 10)? How does one not compare what another person tells you met online sounds so good? What do you tell women waiting for look factor to be into him? It’s different than in 20’s! Thanks for thoughts
October 4, 2018 at 9:44 am
Lisa
Lindy…to get unstuck from that high school feeling, I help my clients create a Quality Man Template that shows them what will make them happy in the long run. Chemistry feels good for a while but falls away over time. A good friendship and heart connection need to be behind it when it does. You can always have what I call practice relationships so you can experience the strong chemistry with someone to see how it goes so you don’t feel you’re missing out on something. BTW . . . as you get to know a man he can become more handsome to you and the chemistry can kick in. Reach out to me at Lisa@findaqualityman.com if you want to know more about how to figure out who will make you happy. Hugs~
October 3, 2018 at 7:42 pm
Maggie
You are absolutely right!
October 4, 2018 at 9:37 am
Lisa
Thanks Maggie. Hugs~
October 3, 2018 at 5:39 pm
ellen
I had such a man. He passed away a few years ago and my heart is still breaking. If I had a dental apt he would ask if I wanted him to take off work to come with me….no..I’m just getting my teeth cleaned. 🙂
When diagnosed with cancer he asked if I wanted him to go to a hospital to die so I would not have bad memories in our home….of course not..I have loving memories of him being at home those last few days.
Oh yes, he happened to be quite good looking..just a bonus.
Please keep sending your emails. Someday I will be ready to find such a man again. The fact that you wrote of those qualities tells me that there are others out there. I just haven’t found one yet…maybe I’m not quite ready.
October 4, 2018 at 8:59 am
Lisa
Thank you for sharing your story Ellen. You’re on the path to finding the “right” Mr. Right for you when you’re ready. Love and hugs~
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October 6, 2018 at 12:40 pm
Andrea
My brother introduced me to a guy. He is nice, and he is retired, had a home built after his divorce in a town that is for retirees and you have to have a lot of money to live there. I still was not attracted to him. I let him go. I told him I just wanted to be friends because he stated after two dates that he really liked me. I have to have an attraction. If I don’t have that right away, I am not interested in letting the relationship go any further. I have probably turned down a lot of men because of this. I am not talking about good looks. I mean that I have to have some kind of attraction for the guy as far as personality and what we have in common.
October 15, 2018 at 4:37 pm
Lisa
Andrea….Sometimes, it can take more than 2 dates for attraction to happen and for you to find out if more is possible. Is your attraction chemistry or common interests? Hugs~
October 5, 2018 at 8:43 am
Rachel Robinowitz
this may be the single most impressive (and most needed) point to make when choosing a man that will go the distance. Packaging is nice, but it pales in comparison to qualities of the heart that translate to how a man treats the woman he loves. Keep saying it, Lisa! Many thanks. Rachel in Israel
October 15, 2018 at 4:36 pm
Lisa
Thank you Rachel. Glad it was so helpful. Hugs~
October 4, 2018 at 12:32 am
Lindy
Loved the input. Have several friends walking away from men who they “aren’t feeling it”.
I too get it. . . my late husband of 30 years was best friend but not my wow type. Had an amazing life together.
This time around got stuck in wanting high school feeling. But, the men with that affect ended up with divorce issues, and egos.
Do you have thoughts how to feel more,( attraction of a 5 vs 10)? How does one not compare what another person tells you met online sounds so good? What do you tell women waiting for look factor to be into him? It’s different than in 20’s! Thanks for thoughts
October 4, 2018 at 9:44 am
Lisa
Lindy…to get unstuck from that high school feeling, I help my clients create a Quality Man Template that shows them what will make them happy in the long run. Chemistry feels good for a while but falls away over time. A good friendship and heart connection need to be behind it when it does. You can always have what I call practice relationships so you can experience the strong chemistry with someone to see how it goes so you don’t feel you’re missing out on something. BTW . . . as you get to know a man he can become more handsome to you and the chemistry can kick in. Reach out to me at Lisa@findaqualityman.com if you want to know more about how to figure out who will make you happy. Hugs~
October 3, 2018 at 7:42 pm
Maggie
You are absolutely right!
October 4, 2018 at 9:37 am
Lisa
Thanks Maggie. Hugs~
October 3, 2018 at 5:39 pm
ellen
I had such a man. He passed away a few years ago and my heart is still breaking. If I had a dental apt he would ask if I wanted him to take off work to come with me….no..I’m just getting my teeth cleaned. 🙂
When diagnosed with cancer he asked if I wanted him to go to a hospital to die so I would not have bad memories in our home….of course not..I have loving memories of him being at home those last few days.
Oh yes, he happened to be quite good looking..just a bonus.
Please keep sending your emails. Someday I will be ready to find such a man again. The fact that you wrote of those qualities tells me that there are others out there. I just haven’t found one yet…maybe I’m not quite ready.
October 4, 2018 at 8:59 am
Lisa
Thank you for sharing your story Ellen. You’re on the path to finding the “right” Mr. Right for you when you’re ready. Love and hugs~