What Men Really Wish You Understood About Them!
When I first started dating in my 40’s, I was pretty clueless about men.
The only men I’d been around were my ex and my friend’s husbands.
Relating to them was pretty easy but…we’d had 20 years worth of history together so we knew a lot about each other.
For sure as a married woman, I was in my comfort zone with these men.
So imagine my surprise when I found myself a divorced and single woman out on the dating scene trying to relate to single men.
I thought I knew men…I’d gotten along with my friends’ husbands. How different could it be?
Well it was TOTALLY DIFFERENT!
Men I dated were always pawing at me and I didn’t know what to do about it. Or they’d tell me something I’d said was mean.
I was shocked because I thought it sounded sweet. How mean is… “This is heavy, can you please move this for me because it’s easier for you?”
I rarely got second dates because I didn’t know how to show a man I was interested in him without sounding aggressive.
I was having conversations with men online…yet I didn’t know how to talk to them in a way that could pique their interest enough to ask me out.
After thinking I knew men from my married life, I suddenly found I was clueless about the men in my single life.
I didn’t understand what they wanted or how to really relate to them.
This lack of knowledge was keeping me from getting the dates I wanted.
Now let’s fast-forward 10 years…
Recently, I was on the west coast attending a program.
Sitting to my left was John, an awesome man I’d known since we’d joined the program together. To my right were two wonderful female friends I’d connected with in the program.
My girlfriends and I wanted a picture together and we wanted John to take it for us.
In the past…I’d have turned to John and said, “Can you take our picture?”
Well believe it or not, a man world hear those 5 words as an order.
Now that I know how men hear and take in women’s words, instead… I turned to him and I used what I call the 4 magic words…I need your help… And do you know what he said to me?
“Lisa, I just melt when a woman asks me this way. It makes me want to do anything I can for her to make her happy.”
Do you remember the story I told you in last week’s blog about the flight attendant who stepped over himself trying to help me on an airplane?
How often do you see flight attendants or how long as it been since a man did that for you?
I have men doing this for me all the time and my friend’s mouths drop open, wondering how I make this happen over and over again.
Well…it took me over 10 years to figure out what makes men tick. And my passion now is to share this information with you.
I want the men you want to date and be in a relationship with stepping over themselves to do for you.
And a man will only do this for a woman when he feels you understand him.
As a single woman over 50 out there dating, do you think this information about men might be valuable for you?
If you said YES, then join me on Monday, November 18th at 8:00 p.m. EST/ 5:00 p.m. PST for my new tele-class…
UNDERSTANDING MEN 101
This class is for you if…
If you’re a single woman over 50 who either wants to date or is frustrated out there dating.
You’re having a hard time finding and keeping Mr. Right in your life.
You’re exhausted from interactions with men on a date or at work.
You’re frustrated because you don’t know what men really need and want.
You have no idea why men call you intimidating and controlling and (even harder to hear) emasculating.
You are tired of first dates that don’t lead to second dates and you suspect you’re missing the boat not understanding who men really are.
You are READY to find a Quality Man to share your life with and recognize you want to know more about who men are and how to relate to them.
Here’s How Having This Encyclopedia of Male Behavior Can Change Your Love Life With Men Forever…
You’ll understand how men think and cope with life and dating.
You’ll find out what men need, want and appreciate.
You’ll discover exactly what you need to do to find and keep the right man in your life.
You’ll finally learn the secrets for understanding men.
You’ll also get the program for communicating with men that will leave them hungry for more dates with you!
You’ll understand why men always seem to want sex even on a first date and what to do about it.
You’ll know how to recognize a good man!
You’ll know how to ask for what you need in a way that a man really hears you and wants to step up and help you get it.
And you’ll have men wanting to date and connect with you because you will be one of the rare women out there who understands a man.
Would you like to have this information for understanding the inner workings of the opposite sex?
Here’s How It Will Work…
We’re going to spend about 75 minutes together on the phone on Monday, November 18th.
Once you’re registered…you’ll get all the call in details to participate that night.
The beauty of this class is you won’t have to go back out after work to take it. You’re going to be able to take this class in the comfort of your own home – even in your jammies or favorite robe with a glass of wine or a cup of tea if you want.
If you can’t make the class, don’t worry.
Registering for the class, you automatically get a copy of the recording to download and listen to over and over again on your smart phone, computer or tablet.
Besides giving you a lot of information about understanding and relating to men, you will have the opportunity to ask your most pressing questions about the men you have dated or the men you want to date or the men you are currently dating.
And if you can’t make it but have questions…you can email them to me after you register for the class.
Also, this class is geared specifically for you as a woman over 50 and the men over 50 you want to date.
This class could be life changing for you!!!
You’re finally going to have the information you need for understanding and relating to the over 50’s men you’d like to be in relationships with.
If you’re ready to be one of those women who men love because you understand them… then click the button below and get registered.
Looking forward to sharing all this with you next Monday, November 18th at 8:00 p.m. EST/ 5:00 p.m. PST
Lots of love and hugs to you~
Believing in You!
Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .
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I think men are pretty easy to understand of course I am a man. We don’t talk about feelings, we only talk about meat and potato things. We want to help as you said but we need to be told what to do. The tough part is since men don’t talk about their feelings a woman needs to ask them what they fell about this or that.
Two women go to the beach the talk about everything under the sun and they have a great day. Two men go golfing they don’t words to one another they have a great day.
If you understand that basically men want to be asked and women want to tell then all is well.
Good points here Ted, and it makes good biological sense: men were warriors and large game hunters, you needed to keep silent or you were prey yourself. Women were the keepers of the community where constant bonding and communication kept the place running on an even keel. Something baffles me though, I am running a small organic farm, I cut my own wood, and have a full time academic job. I am on the slightly built side so anything over 100 pounds I am going to need help with. Have had men offer to help, without my asking, as my free time is very limited during the school year, we arrange a time to lift stuff then they don’t show up; repeatedly. Whazzup with that? Is this a Western man thing? Never dealt with this in the far north where I am from. People here give me crap because I try and do everything Aline, yet they don’t show up.
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Maybe the men you meet are intimated by you. It sounds like you do a lot of things that were traditionally considered mans work, farming and cutting wood. What you need to do is find the men that use both sides of their brains to think. You have changed the normal traditional role of women you need to find the man that has changed or at least not threatened by a woman that can do non traditional woman roles. You need a renaissance man! Ask Lisa
Thanks for the reply. The men to whom I allude are not folks I date. An educated woman in this town must date 100+ miles away. The vast majority of regional older men are uneducated, very Libertarian, and into guns in a big way. The guys whom I ask for help are friends, such as the local minister, colleagues. Just wondered if not showing up was a guy thing. In the far north, home for me, this never happened. The local single dudes are intimidated by me and that’s a good thing; they are unemployed and frequently have drug/alcohol issues and, as earlier stated are not dating material. BTW, in the old times, woodcutting, growing food, were traditional women’s roles, at least among the tribes 🙂