I agree with their comments but here is the rub: She walked into this with failure all over her. Instead of relaxing and just having a fun time with no expectations, she found ways to sabotage her experience. A date is not a proposal of marriage. Men realize when someone is scared or judging of them.
August 26, 2012 at 8:42 pm
Lisa
Yes you are right she did walk into Barry’s home quite insecure because like many women coming out of long marriages, Wendy wasn’t sure how to handle dating. Her lack of confidence really got the best of her and she gave her power away to this man she didn’t even like which is very common. We as women hate rejection even when we don’t like the man which is what happened to Wendy after that date. So appreciate your comment. Thank you!
August 20, 2012 at 10:10 am
Lenore
I agree, no way on God’s green earth would I go anywhere but a public place on a first date. And I agree also, some people hide how boring, odd, whatever, they are better on the phone than in person. So rule number one is enough, meet at Starbuck’s.
I don’t want to say that Wendy did anything wrong–blaming her would be a bad idea. She already feels bad about a date that she didn’t really even like in the first place.
I do think it’s dangerous to go to a man’s house on a first date. I prefer to pick a neutral site, like a coffee shop, and set a date that has a short time span. That way you have a built-in excuse when things aren’t going well.
August 26, 2012 at 2:09 pm
Nance
I agree with their comments but here is the rub: She walked into this with failure all over her. Instead of relaxing and just having a fun time with no expectations, she found ways to sabotage her experience. A date is not a proposal of marriage. Men realize when someone is scared or judging of them.
August 26, 2012 at 8:42 pm
Lisa
Yes you are right she did walk into Barry’s home quite insecure because like many women coming out of long marriages, Wendy wasn’t sure how to handle dating. Her lack of confidence really got the best of her and she gave her power away to this man she didn’t even like which is very common. We as women hate rejection even when we don’t like the man which is what happened to Wendy after that date. So appreciate your comment. Thank you!
August 20, 2012 at 10:10 am
Lenore
I agree, no way on God’s green earth would I go anywhere but a public place on a first date. And I agree also, some people hide how boring, odd, whatever, they are better on the phone than in person. So rule number one is enough, meet at Starbuck’s.
August 20, 2012 at 8:13 am
Walker aka The Diva of Dating
I don’t want to say that Wendy did anything wrong–blaming her would be a bad idea. She already feels bad about a date that she didn’t really even like in the first place.
I do think it’s dangerous to go to a man’s house on a first date. I prefer to pick a neutral site, like a coffee shop, and set a date that has a short time span. That way you have a built-in excuse when things aren’t going well.