Toosmart
I find there to be a larger difference in 20-30 than 50-60.
I know men in their 80’s and 90’s who go out dancing, take world cruises, are actively running their own businesses and are in triathlons. I know women in their late 60’s early 70’s who are plagued by health problems and in assisted living or walkers. So you really cannot generalize.
And my husband was 43 when he died. Yep 43.
There are no guarantees in life.
I’ve stopped saying no to the opportunities that come my way.
Since I’ve started saying yes to life I’ve been much happier and having a great time.
It realy is about attitude.
August 21, 2014 at 11:45 pm
Bloomingdale 316
My entire life i've dated younger men. Husband number one was 4 months younger. Serious longterm boyfrieng was 7 years younger. Husband number two was 10 years younger and we were happy till the day he died.
I look younger than I am. I act younger, i.e. I don't say I'm too old do do that. I am comfortable with a man who is younger than me.
I graduated from high school in 74 and college in 78. I was one of those glass ceiling breaking women. I find that men older than me tend to be looking for a relationship based of very traditional gender role models.Men younger than me are much more open to those ' newer' notions of less traditional gender role models. And that works for me.
That's why i prefer to date slightly younger men. But I do hate the term cougar. A man who dates a younger woman is not labeled. Why should I be?
August 24, 2014 at 11:01 am
TooSmart
I prefer someone my age, let's say somewhere in the bracket 5 years older or 5 years younger. However, at my age (49) a lot of men my age want a younger woman and it looks like it is the 10-15 years older guys who are interested in me. I don't do older men though. Being together with one has a huge negative impact on the life of a woman. Age differences become sharper with age. The difference between a 50 year old woman and a 60 year old man becomes harder to cope with when she is 70 and he is 80. You will almost surely end up nursing your man in his last years and be a widow for a longer time after he dies.
This said I would not object dating a 10 year younger man if there was one showing interest but I am not looking for it. It is a fact that these men are from a different generation and are a lot more emancipated. The have less problems with financially independent women with a good career. They are also less stuck in stereotypical roles for men and women and want to help with household chores.
May 12, 2014 at 5:45 pm
Noquay
Actually, I am the opposite, even dating in my age group as a young woman, I had little in common w/ my dates and they never went anywhere. not onto family or popular culture at all, so we never hit it off. However, dating older men (20 yrs) seems to be what worked as all 3 of my long term rships, including my 12 year marriage were with men that much older. Nope, I am not a gold digger type, rather a high end professional with her own homes and a really good salary. perhaps in a few years, when younger guys mature somewhat, get done doing the family thing, I may consider the cougar path as the younger guys may still be reasonably healthy.
May 12, 2014 at 1:24 pm
LindaW
Here recently I have been approached by three men in their thirties. One only wanted a NSA type of relationship which I turned down flat. Another one was married and said absolutely not! But the last one, I did meet and he was nice but he just wasn’t what I had expected in a male. To me, he did not present himself as an alpha male. Being 58, I have a hard time sometimes wrapping my head around the age thing. My girl friend does it all the time. I suppose I need to get rid of the stinkin’ thinkin’ and go with the flow. Or maybe, I am just being picky!
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August 24, 2014 at 11:25 am
Bloomingdale316
Toosmart
I find there to be a larger difference in 20-30 than 50-60.
I know men in their 80’s and 90’s who go out dancing, take world cruises, are actively running their own businesses and are in triathlons. I know women in their late 60’s early 70’s who are plagued by health problems and in assisted living or walkers. So you really cannot generalize.
And my husband was 43 when he died. Yep 43.
There are no guarantees in life.
I’ve stopped saying no to the opportunities that come my way.
Since I’ve started saying yes to life I’ve been much happier and having a great time.
It realy is about attitude.
August 21, 2014 at 11:45 pm
Bloomingdale 316
My entire life i've dated younger men. Husband number one was 4 months younger. Serious longterm boyfrieng was 7 years younger. Husband number two was 10 years younger and we were happy till the day he died.
I look younger than I am. I act younger, i.e. I don't say I'm too old do do that. I am comfortable with a man who is younger than me.
I graduated from high school in 74 and college in 78. I was one of those glass ceiling breaking women. I find that men older than me tend to be looking for a relationship based of very traditional gender role models.Men younger than me are much more open to those ' newer' notions of less traditional gender role models. And that works for me.
That's why i prefer to date slightly younger men. But I do hate the term cougar. A man who dates a younger woman is not labeled. Why should I be?
August 24, 2014 at 11:01 am
TooSmart
I prefer someone my age, let's say somewhere in the bracket 5 years older or 5 years younger. However, at my age (49) a lot of men my age want a younger woman and it looks like it is the 10-15 years older guys who are interested in me. I don't do older men though. Being together with one has a huge negative impact on the life of a woman. Age differences become sharper with age. The difference between a 50 year old woman and a 60 year old man becomes harder to cope with when she is 70 and he is 80. You will almost surely end up nursing your man in his last years and be a widow for a longer time after he dies.
This said I would not object dating a 10 year younger man if there was one showing interest but I am not looking for it. It is a fact that these men are from a different generation and are a lot more emancipated. The have less problems with financially independent women with a good career. They are also less stuck in stereotypical roles for men and women and want to help with household chores.
May 12, 2014 at 5:45 pm
Noquay
Actually, I am the opposite, even dating in my age group as a young woman, I had little in common w/ my dates and they never went anywhere. not onto family or popular culture at all, so we never hit it off. However, dating older men (20 yrs) seems to be what worked as all 3 of my long term rships, including my 12 year marriage were with men that much older. Nope, I am not a gold digger type, rather a high end professional with her own homes and a really good salary. perhaps in a few years, when younger guys mature somewhat, get done doing the family thing, I may consider the cougar path as the younger guys may still be reasonably healthy.
May 12, 2014 at 1:24 pm
LindaW
Here recently I have been approached by three men in their thirties. One only wanted a NSA type of relationship which I turned down flat. Another one was married and said absolutely not! But the last one, I did meet and he was nice but he just wasn’t what I had expected in a male. To me, he did not present himself as an alpha male. Being 58, I have a hard time sometimes wrapping my head around the age thing. My girl friend does it all the time. I suppose I need to get rid of the stinkin’ thinkin’ and go with the flow. Or maybe, I am just being picky!