This Tip Really Works for Meeting More Quality Men after 50
Recently I was working with a client who happened to live in my area and as we were scrolling through pictures of men, I noticed a familiar face.
This man had contacted me over 10 years ago using the same picture.
I recall giving him the nickname…. “KFC Man.”
To this day, I remember exactly where I was and why I gave him this nickname.
We were talking on the phone while I was walking my dog in the park.
It was fall and the leaves on the trees were gorgeous shades of gold, orange, and red.
I remember the smell of the earth and the crispness in the air.
And I remember “KFC Man” jabbering away about how he didn’t care what a woman looked like as long as her body was fit and toned.
And I’m listening to this thinking . . . “Is this guy for real? Does he think this alone will make him happy?”
I was mad that someone could be this narrow-minded so when he asked about my body type, I told him my aide wheeled me up to the ‘KFC’ counter every day for my daily dose of fried chicken.
None of this was true but I could tell my words shocked him because for a full minute he went silent until I finally said, “Just kidding.”
10 years later, there he was…. back online-probably because no one could meet his stringent expectations of what would make him happy.
By the way, I know how frustrating it can be to go back on a dating site after a relationship has ended and see the same men with the same profile and pictures that you saw posted years ago.
It makes you start thinking there are no good guys even out there to even date.
Here’s a little secret you may not know . . . there are a lot of really good guys on every dating site but chances are you can’t see them.
That’s because like the ‘KFC man’, you probably have a type of man you think will make you happy.
And like most women I speak with, chances are your type isn’t interested in you online.
But the guys who aren’t your type, write you like it was their job, right?
Well, here’s something I want you to think about . . .
If your type had worked in the past, wouldn’t you be with him now?
You’re attracted to your type because he feels good to you, as he should because chances are you’ve lived with this type of man your whole life.
He may show up with a different job or different clothes but let’s be honest here, basically, you’ve probably been dating the same type of man over and over again with the same disastrous results.
The question is…how do you get out of this pattern?
You do what I call ‘Out of the Box’ Dating.
You try dating different types of men.
At first, this will take you way out of your comfort zone, so you’ll want to start slow by changing only one of the qualities you usually look for in a man; maybe someone who has a different type of job, lives a bit further from you or is a little bit older or younger than your usual type.
By doing this, you open up the doors to good men who could be a better fit for you and who want to truly make you happy in a long-term relationship.
Also . . . check out new dating sites as well so you don’t see the same men you saw 5 years ago. (You can look at some of my favorite dating sites by clicking here.)
Give it a try and let me know by posting your comment below what you think of this new way to date.
One last thing . . . I am so excited to share an email I got this week from one of my Love after 50 Group clients.
Hi Lisa . . . I have met a wonderful man and we are madly in love with one another!!! We’ve been exclusive for about 9 months now and going strong. I used the information from your group to help me evaluate whether this relationship was a good fit for me. The funny thing is that on our first date I wasn’t really that interested in him but I remembered what you said about giving it a chance and to have an open mind.
Boy am I glad I did because as it turns out he is the perfect man for me and we are very compatible on a love, friendship, and physical level. I am amazed at how I was able to attract a man who fit my description/desires from my online profile to a tee!
I have to say that my life was pretty good before but it’s even better now with a loving partner to share every day with. Thanks again for your wonderful training and insights. Please feel free to share my story as I’m sure it will be inspiring to my sisters seeking their perfect mates. Pat, California
Is this something you’d like to experience in your life? Love with a good man?
If you’re tired of struggling with dating and are ready to change your love life, then let’s set up a time to talk and see how we can make this happen for you.
To get started, just click here and tell me a little bit about what’s been happening in your love life.
If I think I can help you, I’ll send you a link to my calendar to set up a complimentary time for us to talk.
I look forward to talking soon. Get ready . . . cause your love life is about to change!!!!!!
Believing in You!
P.S. Whenever you are ready, here are four ways I can help you find love after 50
#1: Get a copy of my book The Winning Dating Formula on Amazon
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#3: Work with me 1-on-1 or in my Group Program
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Let’s see…
Unless you’ve been living under a rock the winning formula book is silly.
It was nothing more than common sense to me, I was disappointed.
Time chatting with Lisa? The half hour I spent talking was about her telling me to buy her book.
The over 50 FB site is a hoot. If anything it has reassured me I’m not alone dealing with horrible guys.
I find it very sad that men in this age bracket are so cruel and stupid.
Best dating site, if I’ve learned anything it’s not the ones you pay for. Those guys think they are entitled, to what I don’t know.
Be smart, be safe, and above all – believe in yourself.
Jane…it’s important you choose a coach that you resonate with. I have women who love The Winning Dating Formula and keep it by their nightstand to refer back to. And I have women who have found love even during this pandemic following my system. That being said, there are a lot of dating coaches out there. The key is to find one who is a right fit for you. I know you’ll find one whose message feels right to you. Believing in you! Big hugs~
I don’t believe have a definite ‘type’ because I never dated much in life. I think you can only deduce a type retrospectively with more than 2/3 examples of boys, guys, or men you dated & there are so few I had any involvement with plus they felt so very different to me, about all they each had in common was a Y chromosome (the biological determinant for being born a male)!
Instead my life has been pretty full of studies, work, hobbies, pets, then full-time parent care (both of mine got very sick very young with chronic progressive illnesses & have since died but I count myself fortunate to have been free to return the care they gave me as their beloved only child without trying to juggle too many competing life facets or people with wildly different needs & interests). I have very few regrets & no doubts about the choices I have made in my life, I believe I would make most of the same decisions at the same times if I got a life do-over.
Now my life revolves around my friends (my chosen family), personal development / growth & reworking my bucket list & dream goals that had to be on hold when my parents were ill, needed my care & me to be there for them when they were dying.
I never felt particularly compelled or called to have children of my own, so I never felt pressured to date or get married in my much younger ‘fertile years’ (20-40s, my parents didn’t really want me dating in my teen years and being a girl who was absolutely in love with her classes, well, frankly that doesn’t get you asked out when everyone else is busy rebelling against what you still love & enjoy).
The plus side of my cluelessness about types etc. is I’m not jaded or overly down about dating, the minus is I’m rather naive so one thing I’m working on is getting more of a finishing school education in the useful things I missed that others seem to have learned by their experiences which sound in many cases like they were tough ones.
I at least know that one of my deal breakers would be having to be a mom to children that aren’t already adults or are going to be on their own very soon (any pre-existing kids of someone else should at least be close to graduating high school if not already in college, graduate school or fully self-supporting). Grand-parenting or mentoring would be a role I would enjoy so long as I don’t have to do it in close quarters 24/7/365.
I always saw myself in a later life companionate marriage or committed partnership if I were to ‘go there’ at all. I’m still not sure that life choice is for me, but I have to say I’m having fun learning more about me, being as authentically myself as I can be without feeling coerced by anyone & becoming what I call a ‘baby elder’ (I’m 51).
I’m not sure I yet know all my deal breakers but besides ‘KFC Man’s’ fixation on the superficial (all looks & no depth, no presence, no thank you, appearances can be ephemeral), his utter lack of a sense of humor would be intolerable for me.
Did KFC Man not realize you were joking with him Lisa? Yikes! How tragic-comical.
I suppose online dating sites are still in their infancy. I read somewhere (sorry I’ve forgotten the exact source) where they work most to the advantage of people who are predominantly visually oriented (KFC Man should be in clover here, how odd he isn’t), so perhaps if they could be redone, the emphasis on other senses (like hearing or feeling / sensing) would be allowed to come into play. I know they are also places where deceptions small & great can happen so it’s best to not put too much stock into what people post online.
Oh well, it takes all kinds to make up a world.