The Biggest Mistake You Make With Men And How to Avoid It
If you’re feeling like you’d really like an Alpha Man in your life – and most Alpha Women do – this is important information you’ll want to know and remember.
A huge bonus is over 50’s men will love you if you get what I’m about to share with you.
Quality men over 50 want nothing more than to make you happy.
They will give to you in every way possible as long as it’s within their power to do so.
And that’s when trouble starts brewing.
Men don’t always do it the way you want it done, do they?
And when they don’t, you might become critical of the job they’ve done because in your mind, you can probably do it better and faster.
And what happens is you come across as controlling.
And when you tell a man how to do something, when to do it and how to do it, men start to think you’ve emasculated them by not allowing them to be themselves and do the best job they can for you.
When you come from your true feminine power and know how to trigger the “Hero Response” in men to step up for you, men will jump hoops to make you happy.
Here’s an example of how coming into your true feminine power can work so well for you.
I was working with my client, Elizabeth, this morning.
She’s a powerhouse at work and she knows how to get the job done quickly and efficiently.
At work, she’s a true Alpha Female.
And she had a hard time flipping the switch to her more feminine side on a date which turned men off because she always wanted to take control.
Elizabeth wasn’t ready to practice the feminine skills I’d taught her just yet in a dating situation.
So she decided to try them out at work figuring she had nothing to lose.
She had a meeting scheduled with the CEO of a major corporation.
In the past, she’d have come into the meeting much like a bull in a china shop.
She’d have pushed and forced issues until the deal was signed, sealed and delivered.
This time Elizabeth decided to take the feminine approach by using these 4 simple words…. I NEED YOUR HELP!
This plays into the good stuff about a man.
It’s in his DNA to make you feel happy and cared for whether it’s at work or in a dating situation.
Elizabeth consciously made a decision to wear softer feminine clothing versus the usual black suit which screamed ALPHA FEMALE approaching loud and clear.
She slowed herself down as she went into the meeting and asked the very macho Alpha CEO for his help on this project.
She told him she was confused and could he help her figure it out.
He gladly stepped up and within 5 minutes the deal was sealed.
They spent the next hour talking.
He shared a lot about his life, which is a man’s way of trying to impress you and by the end of the conversation, he told her to call on him anytime she needed his help.
She was astonished by this “miracle.”
In the past, when she’d come from her masculine side, it took a lot of struggling and head butting that went on for hours versus minutes to get the deal sealed.
So why do I tell you this story?
Before Elizabeth started working with me, she only knew how to come from her masculine Alpha Side and she was turning men off right and left.
She witnessed what every woman witnesses when she consciously flips the switch to her feminine side… Men stepping over themselves to help her.
You can have this too.
Using your feminine side, men will feel like you really get them.
They’ll want to connect with you on that emotional level they so crave with a woman.
This is the power of the feminine mystique.
And when a man starts stepping up for you, be gracious and thank him immediately.
Let him know how very much you appreciate what he’s done for you even if it’s not the way you wanted it done.
In many ways, men are like little puppies… the more love, appreciation and respect they get from you, the more they will want to give and do for you.
So like Elizabeth, try your feminine wiles on male friends, business associates and dates and watch how your life with men begins to change.
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Lisa, I found my guy! I am dating a gentleman exclusively and it is going so well… (yeah!) thanks to coaching with you. You are providing a service to so many women over 50 like me who need it! Couldn’t have done it without you. Hugs! Cynde, California
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I have been listening to Lisa on Sixty & Me. I am 64, a financial advisor who specializes in working with divorcing women(this is a male dominated field). I walk daily, and ride horse several times a week. I have been divorced over 22 years and have not been in a relationship in a long time.
I initially found this concept a challenge but am have been willing to try this “just to see” and she is right. Men are not nearly as complex as women! Being a northerner who has lived in the south for over 35 years, I can tell you that I probably turned off a lot of southern men. Although, I relate better to northern men, remembering to “appreciate” their thoughts and actions goes a long way. Saying “thank you” and smiling when they open the door, or saying, “What a good choice” when they pick a restaurant really makes a difference.
I have not yet found someone that is a fit but I will remember to incorporate these simple acts of appreciation as I move forward.
Debbie…thank you for letting me know this resonated with you. I’m so glad you are going to start using it. xoxoxo Lisa