Stop Feeling So Safe!
An interesting thing happened to me in the last 24 hours of 2013 that I wanted to share with you.
Something inside me said my theme for the year 2014 is going to be, “Get out of my comfort zone.”
I love feeling safe. Who doesn’t? So imagine my surprise when I felt those words rumble through me as I was getting ready to serve New Year’s Eve dinner to my friends.
Something in those words resonated with me and my first big out of my comfort zone decision happened that night as I announced to my friends that I was moving.
After living in the same house for 26 years, the time had come and I was ready.
My children grew up in this home so lots of memories are stored in these walls…along with lots of stuff.
When you have the space, you fill it. And boy, did I fill it.
Because I’ll be downsizing to a smaller house, all the clutter I had accumulated over the years needed to go, along with some of the pictures and treasures that fill the space, bringing joy to me on a daily basis.
When I first started throwing things out, I did so with a passion. My mantra was to get rid of it. If it no longer served me or I hadn’t used it in eons, it was out.
I found myself feeling lighter and freer as I tossed the junk.
At the same time, as I was tossing my life away with a driven fury, my lower back started hurting…I mean, really hurting.
I went to a doctor who recommended I take an anti-inflammatory. I went to a chiropractor who did energy work on it but the pain wasn’t going away.
It was beginning to physically affect me and I was having a hard time carrying boxes and bags full of my old stuff to the basement or to the trash.
I had to do something to figure out why this pain wouldn’t go away so I sat down and wrote in my journal everything I was feeling about my home and moving.
I realized my back wasn’t healing because I was repeating an old pattern in my life that had always felt safe to me.
I wasn’t treasuring the journey or feeling the memories of all I was throwing or giving away. All I wanted to do was get rid of the clutter as fast as I could so I could put the house on the market and get to the destination of moving on.
Journaling, I started recalling all the memoires in my home and life. I cried, I laughed and I felt the feelings I hadn’t allowed myself to feel as I furiously uncluttered it. And my back began to feel better.
So how does this relate to dating?
Make sure as you head out there to date that you have removed your personal clutter about ex’s. It’s heavy and it keeps you from being emotionally available to new men.
Clear the clutter in your home so when you meet a man, you will have space for him to come into your life.
Clear the clutter in your wardrobe, so you can go on dates feeling great about yourself, rather than being reminded of what your ex thought of that dress.
Most importantly, start to enjoy the journey of dating. Just like I had to revel in the process of downsizing to stop my pain, you will be surprised what happens if you find fun and joy in the dating process.
Begin dating to date versus dating to mate. Dating is the journey for finding the man you want to be with.
It should be fun, not the chore it becomes when you only focus on whether he’s the one. There’s a certain sweetness you could be missing getting to know a new and interesting man who might turn out to be an amazing partner for you.
So this year, ask yourself if you want to keep dating the same type of man who really doesn’t work for you anymore but feels easy and good to you… Or are you ready to go out of your dating comfort zone and possibly meet someone new and interesting who could turn out to be the one for you.
If you find that you’re tired of feeling like dating is just one more job in your life……and you’ve made the decision that 2014 is the year you’re going to have fun dating Quality Men then let’s talk and see how we can work together to help you find a great guy to share your life with. www.findaqualityman.com/coaching
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I’d love to hear how you plan to get out of your comfort zone to make your dreams come true in 2014.
Until next time~
Believing in You!
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