Before I even reply I use google image search on their photo’s this catches many of them before you waste any of your time.
July 20, 2015 at 7:17 pm
Alexa
I have been on the dating sites for about a year now. One thing that I noticed about these scammers is that they will want to get you off the dating site as quickly as possible by saying that their membership is expiring and that they are in love with you and can’t live without you. I call these guys “INTERNET LOTHARIOS” They are very easy to spot. I am including the part of their first email to me to show you how they operate. THESE ARE REAL….
#1 IL- Wow! Thank you. Thank you for responding to my email/ request to contact me using my private email; I am sorry that i delayed my response which as result of the business i was handling for the company. I know it was unusual for me to request that you email through my personal email when you do not even know me. I am glad that you did because I would have lost contact with you as my subscription has expired and I can no longer access my Match.com account, and i think my account had being compromise but anyway, that is by-the-way since I can still reach you via your private email. Once again, thank you.
#2 IL- You can write me on at outlook _______ dot com or my cell number:: 323 435 —- as my subscription here will soon expire and I dont intend renewing it or you can drop your email address, Lets exchange emails and pics because I will like to know you more and communicate with you.
#3 IL- My name is David, You have this intriguing and intense look about you that I love it and it would be nice to know more about you. I’m not sure where to begin, but in life, I have always believed that risks are worth taking. i don’t get on match often so kindly e-mail me on my personal address there i can tell you more about myself and send you more of my pictures. ( david_k @ a*o*l* . c*o*m ) or you can text me 816-866—–
Can we talk?
Never go off the dating site to continue communicating with them. It turns into pen pals and you never meet them. Now I report them and delete them pronto……
Alexa
July 20, 2015 at 8:16 pm
Lisa
Thank you Alexa for these examples you shared. Yes…one of the red flags is when a man gets you to the email process very quickly. The key is meeting men ASAP so you don’t fall in love with someone who is real.
Hi Lisa,
There now seems to be another type of scam going around – now they want to ‘help’ you… After a few weeks of texts, emails, & phone calls, the guy asked me if I had any debts. Of course he was out of town on business so we had not met. I told him yes, my ex cleaned out all the accounts before the divorce & I am starting over from scratch – I will always have to work. He said no problem, that he had an inheritance & he would pay everything off (… HUGE warning flags) & take care of me.
At the time my girlfriend was dating a district attorney that deals in fraud. He said the next thing the guy would say was that he needed my card #’s & my social so he could pay them off. Instead, the scam is to run them up more & open additional cards with my info.
It’s frustrating on so many levels & I was one of the lucky ones.
Thanks for bringing up this topic – good timing!!
Donna
P.S. At first, he was so believable & captivating!! You’re right, the accent was so sexy. He claimed to live in my city on a street I was familiar with. When I asked who was keeping his dogs while he was out of town, he didn’t even skip a beat telling me it was his friend Fred. He sent me flowers several times. But no matter how many times I asked he would never send me a picture from his cell.
July 20, 2015 at 7:16 pm
Lisa
You are so welcome Donna. Glad things stopped and that it worked out ok for you.
I met a man several months on a familiar dating website..His profile was very extensive and he claimed to live in Miami.. after a few emails we transferred the conversation to phone.. He claimed to be from Italy but I noticed he had a Dutch accent.. When I asked he claimed , he was from Italy.
Several phone calls later, he was going to fly to My hometown to meet, but I received an email that said he had to fly out of the country on business. He contacted me when he arrived in Africa. One week later he stated his son was in the hospital in critical condition and he needed my help and 35,000 dollars, he even sent pictures of a boy in a hospital bed to my email.
I refused to send him any money..He became angry, telling me I was selfish..
July 20, 2015 at 5:40 pm
Lisa
This is a perfect example of the scams they do. Often men are from Ghana in Africa and they will say they are there on business. That’s another telltale sign. He is also playing with your emotions when he tells you that you are selfish. I hope you’ve reported him to the site you met him on and have cut him off. No one legitimate asks for money. Thank you for sharing this story so others can see they aren’t alone and good for you for honoring your intuition when things didn’t seem right.
July 20, 2015 at 5:31 pm
Rae Lynn Cuddihy
I have had so many scammers get in touch with me, can’t even tell you how many. But I have never fallen for any of that crap and never will. Now I just say I’m a legal assistant (which I am), but I tell them I work for a law firm In the internet scam department and you won’t believe how fast they are gone. If they are legitimate, then I know I can explain this later.
July 20, 2015 at 5:38 pm
Lisa
Rae…something in your profile may be triggering them to contact you. Fortunately, you are a legal assistant and know things about the law that scares them away. Thank you for sharing this.
July 20, 2015 at 7:34 pm
Alexa
This is a great response. I will use this….thanks
July 20, 2015 at 10:13 am
Noquay
Sussed out a scammer earlier this summer. They’ve gotten more sophisticated. This one used the identity of a real person, who lives in the scammers town, including referencing his website and taking photos offa this dudes Facebook page. The photos were of him at somewhat differing ages. Where things got weird was when the person stated he was moving into architecture from being a financial consultant. That’s kinda like moving from teaching chemistry to deciding to be a brain surgeon. Not all women would know that but the following should be recognised by all:
Starts with well written English which deteriorates with successive communication
For an older man, waaay too good looking to be on a dating site. In his upscale town, should’ve have options up the wazoo. Looking at the actual person’s website, the dude must be a multimillionaire; why would he be on a site populated by painfully average dudes?
Puts email contact info within his profile. No savvy person does this or the person wants to get out of paying for a sub, not good either way
Communicated a lot by text; that and the email were traced to a Google voice account. Huge discrepancy between when the account was started and how long he claimed to be in the US. You can’t do Google voice from overseas. Person is not a Swedish dual citizen arrived two years ago, but has been in this country, in that town, for years.
Shortly after this profile came up, another profile, different pic, different stats, same town. Exact same wording in profile. Reported it to the site and personally emailed the actual persons website and alerted him to the scam. A month and a half later, another pic, different stats, slightly different profile but same embedding of email address and using the name of the the person outright. Reported it again.
Was reading up on scammers and some of them aren’t even men but bored, downtrodden women in it for the attention. Sad. This case seemed to be someone not well educated, quite possibly a European immigrant in a service sector job, social media savvy, who may well work for or have worked for the actual person.
Some other red flags to look for:
Supposedly living in your region yet not knowing the existence of your town, particularly if the town stands out in some way
Discrepancy between the stated income range and profession. For instance, no construction worker here makes much more than 25k.
Discrepancy between alleged profession/education level and quality of writing
A lot of talk of faith, God, etc in places like ski resort towns, very liberal, progressive towns. A religious person there would know not to dwell on that aspect of their lives and probably wouldn’t live there in the first place.
Again, extremely good looking photos from regions where same aged men are not attractive. Education levels, income levels, local culture and industries have a strong effect on how particularly older men live. If it seems too good to be true, it is.
July 20, 2015 at 3:43 pm
Lisa
So appreciate you sharing your thoughts Noquay. You gave some great additional points here.
July 20, 2015 at 9:07 pm
Kaye
Before I even reply I use google image search on their photo’s this catches many of them before you waste any of your time.
July 20, 2015 at 7:17 pm
Alexa
I have been on the dating sites for about a year now. One thing that I noticed about these scammers is that they will want to get you off the dating site as quickly as possible by saying that their membership is expiring and that they are in love with you and can’t live without you. I call these guys “INTERNET LOTHARIOS” They are very easy to spot. I am including the part of their first email to me to show you how they operate. THESE ARE REAL….
#1 IL- Wow! Thank you. Thank you for responding to my email/ request to contact me using my private email; I am sorry that i delayed my response which as result of the business i was handling for the company. I know it was unusual for me to request that you email through my personal email when you do not even know me. I am glad that you did because I would have lost contact with you as my subscription has expired and I can no longer access my Match.com account, and i think my account had being compromise but anyway, that is by-the-way since I can still reach you via your private email. Once again, thank you.
#2 IL- You can write me on at outlook _______ dot com or my cell number:: 323 435 —- as my subscription here will soon expire and I dont intend renewing it or you can drop your email address, Lets exchange emails and pics because I will like to know you more and communicate with you.
#3 IL- My name is David, You have this intriguing and intense look about you that I love it and it would be nice to know more about you. I’m not sure where to begin, but in life, I have always believed that risks are worth taking. i don’t get on match often so kindly e-mail me on my personal address there i can tell you more about myself and send you more of my pictures. ( david_k @ a*o*l* . c*o*m ) or you can text me 816-866—–
Can we talk?
Never go off the dating site to continue communicating with them. It turns into pen pals and you never meet them. Now I report them and delete them pronto……
Alexa
July 20, 2015 at 8:16 pm
Lisa
Thank you Alexa for these examples you shared. Yes…one of the red flags is when a man gets you to the email process very quickly. The key is meeting men ASAP so you don’t fall in love with someone who is real.
July 20, 2015 at 7:13 pm
Donna Page
Hi Lisa,
There now seems to be another type of scam going around – now they want to ‘help’ you… After a few weeks of texts, emails, & phone calls, the guy asked me if I had any debts. Of course he was out of town on business so we had not met. I told him yes, my ex cleaned out all the accounts before the divorce & I am starting over from scratch – I will always have to work. He said no problem, that he had an inheritance & he would pay everything off (… HUGE warning flags) & take care of me.
At the time my girlfriend was dating a district attorney that deals in fraud. He said the next thing the guy would say was that he needed my card #’s & my social so he could pay them off. Instead, the scam is to run them up more & open additional cards with my info.
It’s frustrating on so many levels & I was one of the lucky ones.
Thanks for bringing up this topic – good timing!!
Donna
P.S. At first, he was so believable & captivating!! You’re right, the accent was so sexy. He claimed to live in my city on a street I was familiar with. When I asked who was keeping his dogs while he was out of town, he didn’t even skip a beat telling me it was his friend Fred. He sent me flowers several times. But no matter how many times I asked he would never send me a picture from his cell.
July 20, 2015 at 7:16 pm
Lisa
You are so welcome Donna. Glad things stopped and that it worked out ok for you.
July 20, 2015 at 5:33 pm
kim
I met a man several months on a familiar dating website..His profile was very extensive and he claimed to live in Miami.. after a few emails we transferred the conversation to phone.. He claimed to be from Italy but I noticed he had a Dutch accent.. When I asked he claimed , he was from Italy.
Several phone calls later, he was going to fly to My hometown to meet, but I received an email that said he had to fly out of the country on business. He contacted me when he arrived in Africa. One week later he stated his son was in the hospital in critical condition and he needed my help and 35,000 dollars, he even sent pictures of a boy in a hospital bed to my email.
I refused to send him any money..He became angry, telling me I was selfish..
July 20, 2015 at 5:40 pm
Lisa
This is a perfect example of the scams they do. Often men are from Ghana in Africa and they will say they are there on business. That’s another telltale sign. He is also playing with your emotions when he tells you that you are selfish. I hope you’ve reported him to the site you met him on and have cut him off. No one legitimate asks for money. Thank you for sharing this story so others can see they aren’t alone and good for you for honoring your intuition when things didn’t seem right.
July 20, 2015 at 5:31 pm
Rae Lynn Cuddihy
I have had so many scammers get in touch with me, can’t even tell you how many. But I have never fallen for any of that crap and never will. Now I just say I’m a legal assistant (which I am), but I tell them I work for a law firm In the internet scam department and you won’t believe how fast they are gone. If they are legitimate, then I know I can explain this later.
July 20, 2015 at 5:38 pm
Lisa
Rae…something in your profile may be triggering them to contact you. Fortunately, you are a legal assistant and know things about the law that scares them away. Thank you for sharing this.
July 20, 2015 at 7:34 pm
Alexa
This is a great response. I will use this….thanks
July 20, 2015 at 10:13 am
Noquay
Sussed out a scammer earlier this summer. They’ve gotten more sophisticated. This one used the identity of a real person, who lives in the scammers town, including referencing his website and taking photos offa this dudes Facebook page. The photos were of him at somewhat differing ages. Where things got weird was when the person stated he was moving into architecture from being a financial consultant. That’s kinda like moving from teaching chemistry to deciding to be a brain surgeon. Not all women would know that but the following should be recognised by all:
Starts with well written English which deteriorates with successive communication
For an older man, waaay too good looking to be on a dating site. In his upscale town, should’ve have options up the wazoo. Looking at the actual person’s website, the dude must be a multimillionaire; why would he be on a site populated by painfully average dudes?
Puts email contact info within his profile. No savvy person does this or the person wants to get out of paying for a sub, not good either way
Communicated a lot by text; that and the email were traced to a Google voice account. Huge discrepancy between when the account was started and how long he claimed to be in the US. You can’t do Google voice from overseas. Person is not a Swedish dual citizen arrived two years ago, but has been in this country, in that town, for years.
Shortly after this profile came up, another profile, different pic, different stats, same town. Exact same wording in profile. Reported it to the site and personally emailed the actual persons website and alerted him to the scam. A month and a half later, another pic, different stats, slightly different profile but same embedding of email address and using the name of the the person outright. Reported it again.
Was reading up on scammers and some of them aren’t even men but bored, downtrodden women in it for the attention. Sad. This case seemed to be someone not well educated, quite possibly a European immigrant in a service sector job, social media savvy, who may well work for or have worked for the actual person.
Some other red flags to look for:
Supposedly living in your region yet not knowing the existence of your town, particularly if the town stands out in some way
Discrepancy between the stated income range and profession. For instance, no construction worker here makes much more than 25k.
Discrepancy between alleged profession/education level and quality of writing
A lot of talk of faith, God, etc in places like ski resort towns, very liberal, progressive towns. A religious person there would know not to dwell on that aspect of their lives and probably wouldn’t live there in the first place.
Again, extremely good looking photos from regions where same aged men are not attractive. Education levels, income levels, local culture and industries have a strong effect on how particularly older men live. If it seems too good to be true, it is.
July 20, 2015 at 3:43 pm
Lisa
So appreciate you sharing your thoughts Noquay. You gave some great additional points here.