I dated a guy who always told me how beautiful and sexy I was. He was a good conversationalist. Told me that he loved me early on and teased me a bit about wanting to marry me (he would have too). What made me nervous was he was already married 3 times…hahaha. Unfortunately he had to move away due to a job and leave NY for GA. A 13+ hour drive.
This happened a year into the relationship. Here is where the words and actions started going awry.
I told him I would visit in February and did so. Then I went in April for Easter. The weather was better there especially when WNY was having -20 degree weather. Then we decided to meet half way for the long weekend in May and to celebrate his Bday. Now he started talking about coming and visiting me…talk…talk…talk. But that is all it was. Mind you his job made him a slave. He could never get away from the work he had to do.
I went down right after I got done working for the summer (my house deal also fell through and needed an escape from my boxes). So I visited twice that summer for almost 2 weeks each time. The last time I went in August I knew it would be the last time I would be there…. I was sad, but I had to do what was right for me in the long run.
His actions didn’t match his words more and more with the visits. Maybe in his heart he wanted to but reality was a nope. He was talking again wanting to come for my Bday in October… I knew what would happen… I knew I would get excited and then I would be ultimately disappointed because he would not be able to get away.
So I broke up with him. I didn’t want to face that heartache. The only time he has been back to the area was when he was looking for a job after he lost his job (it was torture anyway), about a year after he left. He has not been back since.
We remain friends. We would talk every once in a while and he would still tell me he loved me I believe that to be true, I still love and care for him but know he is not the right man for me.
November 29, 2017 at 8:32 pm
Lori
Yes I was involved with a man for 11 mos. Who was so kind and loving a real gentleman until we slept together. Than he disappeared came back was all loving. Than again gone! Finally I had enough and stopped seeing him. I deserve to be treated better.
November 30, 2017 at 9:52 am
Lisa
Yes you do deserve to be treated better Lori. Good for you for stopping the push pull he was doing and for your willingness to open your heart to a man who is a better fit for you. Hugs to you~
November 30, 2017 at 9:45 pm
Michelle
I dated a guy who always told me how beautiful and sexy I was. He was a good conversationalist. Told me that he loved me early on and teased me a bit about wanting to marry me (he would have too). What made me nervous was he was already married 3 times…hahaha. Unfortunately he had to move away due to a job and leave NY for GA. A 13+ hour drive.
This happened a year into the relationship. Here is where the words and actions started going awry.
I told him I would visit in February and did so. Then I went in April for Easter. The weather was better there especially when WNY was having -20 degree weather. Then we decided to meet half way for the long weekend in May and to celebrate his Bday. Now he started talking about coming and visiting me…talk…talk…talk. But that is all it was. Mind you his job made him a slave. He could never get away from the work he had to do.
I went down right after I got done working for the summer (my house deal also fell through and needed an escape from my boxes). So I visited twice that summer for almost 2 weeks each time. The last time I went in August I knew it would be the last time I would be there…. I was sad, but I had to do what was right for me in the long run.
His actions didn’t match his words more and more with the visits. Maybe in his heart he wanted to but reality was a nope. He was talking again wanting to come for my Bday in October… I knew what would happen… I knew I would get excited and then I would be ultimately disappointed because he would not be able to get away.
So I broke up with him. I didn’t want to face that heartache. The only time he has been back to the area was when he was looking for a job after he lost his job (it was torture anyway), about a year after he left. He has not been back since.
We remain friends. We would talk every once in a while and he would still tell me he loved me I believe that to be true, I still love and care for him but know he is not the right man for me.
November 29, 2017 at 8:32 pm
Lori
Yes I was involved with a man for 11 mos. Who was so kind and loving a real gentleman until we slept together. Than he disappeared came back was all loving. Than again gone! Finally I had enough and stopped seeing him. I deserve to be treated better.
November 30, 2017 at 9:52 am
Lisa
Yes you do deserve to be treated better Lori. Good for you for stopping the push pull he was doing and for your willingness to open your heart to a man who is a better fit for you. Hugs to you~