Navigating the Over 50’s Dating Scene: 3 Mistakes That Could Drive The Right Man Away
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Have you ever been on a date where everything seemed like it was going perfectly?
The conversation was flowing, you shared a lot of laughs, then, without warning, he abruptly halted the date.
It’s puzzling when a date that feels so promising suddenly goes south.
It hurts, too, because as women whether or not we like a man, we want to feel loved by everyone.
And it doesn’t feel very loving when a man does this to you.
As a result, a date that ends like this can send you into a downward spiral that has you questioning what you might have done wrong.
But here’s the thing – it’s not always about what you’ve done wrong.
Sometimes, it’s about the subtle signals you might send without even realizing it.
You want to be aware of these dating mistakes because they are notorious for turning men off.
That’s why today, we’re going to explore these 3 mistakes and how to avoid them in the future.
Mistake #1 . . . The Interrogation Trap
Want to send a man quickly running out of a 1st date?
Ask him tons of personal questions about how he conducts his life.
Question after question about personal life details can make anyone nervous.
“What did you do last night?” or “What are your plans after this?” might seem harmless, but they can also come across as prying or controlling and are huge turn-offs for emotionally healthy men.
Why? Because men love their freedom to do as they please.
When a man feels like you’re keeping tabs on his activities especially when you’ve just met, he start’s thinking you’re going to try and control his life in some way so he takes off.
The Fix . . .
Take it slowly.
Build curiosity and give the conversation room to breathe.
Trust that as he becomes comfortable, he’ll share his personal stories at his own pace.
Mistake #2 . . . Moving Too Fast, Too Soon!
It’s natural to feel excited about a new man you’ve met especially when the two of you immediately click.
However, envisioning a future together from the moment you meet can feel overwhelming and suffocating to a man.
When you’re making plans for the two of you to go out again before he’s even asked you for a second date, you’re coming across as clingy and emotionally needy.
He’s thinking maybe you don’t have a life of your own and that’s why you want to turn his life into yours.
This sends a huge red flag up the pole and can send a man running.
The Fix . . .
Men have told me over and over that a huge turn on for them is a woman’s confidence and independence.
They love when you are passionate about the life you’ve created.
So continue to invest in your own life and passions.
This shows that you’re interested but not dependent on him and it makes him want to get to know you better which will keep the attraction alive.
Mistake #3 . . . Are you the first one to say the “L” Word
If you find yourself on the verge of declaring love before it’s clear he’s on the same emotional page, take a moment and just PAUSE.
Its happened to me once and I quickly learned that men like to be the first one to say those words to you.
If you say the “L” word before he’s ready, he could get scared, he could shut down or run.
The Fix . . .
Focus on building a solid emotional foundation together.
Let those pivotal words emerge in their own time, making them all the more meaningful when they’re finally shared.
When you look back, you may uncover moments that veered you off the path you expected.
These experiences, are not about regret.
They are about nurturing your growth that will guide you towards more fulfilling relationships as you travel this journey of love after 50.
Believing in You!
Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .
💞 Feeling like you are on a merry-go-round of mismatched dates? Lets press pause and talk about how we can write a new love story for you. Click here to start our conversation. Tell me your story – I am here to listen and guide you towards meeting someone truly special.
If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:
1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for heartfelt dating wisdom and uplifting success stories from women who have been just where you are. They found love, and so can you. Click here to watch and learn.
2. Discover a new chapter in your dating life with my book, "The Winning Dating Formula." It is more than a book; it is your journey to love mapped out. And it is just a click away on Amazon. Click here and start attracting the love you deserve.
3. Join our Finding Love after 50 Facebook group to find camaraderie and connection. It is a warm and welcoming space to share your journey and receive support every step of the way. Click here to become part of our community.
4. On the lookout for a dating site that resonates with you? Browse through my personal selection of the best dating sites tailor-made for fabulous over 50s. Click here and say goodbye to guesswork.
Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹
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