Thank you. The bad boys are really good at saying the words I want to hear and I BELIEVE them! I like that you mention watching their actions rather than listening to their words. It wasn’t until I valued myself, really valued myself, that I became proactive in choosing myself and voluntarily letting him (them) go.
What’s confusing is that sometimes doing the right thing for myself can feel wrong or lousy even if just for a moment. I expect it to feel good right away. What does feel good is knowing that I took care of myself and won’t have to feel like a yo-yo anymore.
October 2, 2017 at 3:36 pm
Lisa
Not feeling like a yo you anymore is a huge step for you Lorelei. You are worthy of having a good man in your life!!!! Hugs~
September 28, 2017 at 1:03 pm
Anna
This bad boy scenario has been happening to me for the past 3 years with the same man. Surprisingly he is not that spectacular looking,but does have all the other bad boy qualities u mentioned Lisa, as being 10 yrs older than i am which i guess made me feel more protected and loved. I bekieve he does love me but the moment we were in a good place he would sabotage whatever “relationship” we did have. He would also comment that his mom always told him he outs the “kabosh” on anything good. Needless to say I rid myself of him in August and haven’t heard a word. He did not like that I stood up for myself so he did what he does best. Didn’t reply and disappeared! Why am I surprised? Yet I get all excited if i should hear from him. I am trying to stop this cycle and in addition am frustrated that i can’t find the one man thatvi deserve…sign me Broken in Brooklyn.
September 28, 2017 at 2:16 pm
Lisa
Good for you for getting out of this relationship. You deserve someone whose actions follow his words and who is willing to do everything to make the relationship work. Once you’ve healed, get back out there. The right man is just waiting of you. Hugs~
September 27, 2017 at 8:31 pm
V
So so very true and I can really relate to this. Thank you for sharing this. Good to know that it is not unusual to fall into this trap.
This could not have come at a better time for me, you probably just saved me from making a big mistake. Thank you!
September 27, 2017 at 9:10 pm
Lisa
I’m glad the article helped you. Thank you for sharing that it did. Big hugs to you~
September 29, 2017 at 12:58 am
Lorelei
Thank you. The bad boys are really good at saying the words I want to hear and I BELIEVE them! I like that you mention watching their actions rather than listening to their words. It wasn’t until I valued myself, really valued myself, that I became proactive in choosing myself and voluntarily letting him (them) go.
What’s confusing is that sometimes doing the right thing for myself can feel wrong or lousy even if just for a moment. I expect it to feel good right away. What does feel good is knowing that I took care of myself and won’t have to feel like a yo-yo anymore.
October 2, 2017 at 3:36 pm
Lisa
Not feeling like a yo you anymore is a huge step for you Lorelei. You are worthy of having a good man in your life!!!! Hugs~
September 28, 2017 at 1:03 pm
Anna
This bad boy scenario has been happening to me for the past 3 years with the same man. Surprisingly he is not that spectacular looking,but does have all the other bad boy qualities u mentioned Lisa, as being 10 yrs older than i am which i guess made me feel more protected and loved. I bekieve he does love me but the moment we were in a good place he would sabotage whatever “relationship” we did have. He would also comment that his mom always told him he outs the “kabosh” on anything good. Needless to say I rid myself of him in August and haven’t heard a word. He did not like that I stood up for myself so he did what he does best. Didn’t reply and disappeared! Why am I surprised? Yet I get all excited if i should hear from him. I am trying to stop this cycle and in addition am frustrated that i can’t find the one man thatvi deserve…sign me Broken in Brooklyn.
September 28, 2017 at 2:16 pm
Lisa
Good for you for getting out of this relationship. You deserve someone whose actions follow his words and who is willing to do everything to make the relationship work. Once you’ve healed, get back out there. The right man is just waiting of you. Hugs~
September 27, 2017 at 8:31 pm
V
So so very true and I can really relate to this. Thank you for sharing this. Good to know that it is not unusual to fall into this trap.
This could not have come at a better time for me, you probably just saved me from making a big mistake. Thank you!
September 27, 2017 at 9:10 pm
Lisa
I’m glad the article helped you. Thank you for sharing that it did. Big hugs to you~