. . . a little tough love about your dating mindset after 50
Can we get real here for a second about your dating life?
Here’s the deal… When I talk to single women, I ask them how their dating life is going.
The answer I get most often is that things really aren’t happening in their dating life.
Left to their own devices, most women aren’t being contacted by the men they’d like to date.
I know that I too was frustrated many times over the course of my own dating journey because things seemed more difficult than I thought they should be.
Maybe for you too???
If you’re wondering why dating feels like you’re driving with one foot on the brake and one foot on the gas, wondering why you’re not meeting great guys to spend time with, I’d like to share something with you.
Yes, we both know that things like a great profile, knowing how to flirt and where to meet men are very important steps on the dating journey you’re taking.
But if I’m being honest with you, the REAL reason for your level of success or failure has to do with what’s going on internally…
Most women believe if they just had the right body or lived in a particular city or had more men to choose from, the relationship would come.
I know, because I’ve been closely observing, teaching and championing unhappy single women over 50 for quite a while.
And because I’ve been there too…
Here’s what I’ve discovered: Your level of dating success isn’t really about your looks and your weight as much as it is about how you approach dating.
If you want to know the truth, it actually stems from your mindset… the fears and limiting beliefs you may have about yourself and the men you want to date.
I know, it’s not something most dating mentors talk about openly, but I have discovered that your mindset is the ONE single thing that determines one’s level of success or failure in dating.
When you have a healthy dating mindset, your results get transformed, often overnight, and this translates to big breakthroughs in the number of quality men who contact you how many dates you go on and ultimately getting the relationship you desire.
And that’s why I want to give you this simple tip you can start using right away to give your dating mindset a major jumpstart.
Here it is….what you focus on in your dating life is what will show up in your dating life.
If you think over 50’s dating is impossible, discouraging, or something you hate to do…this will show up for you as bad dates, the wrong men always contacting you and maybe even quitting your dream of being in another relationship.
Instead, you want to develop a positive mindset.
When I was dating mine used to be…I’m going to have fun meeting new and interesting men.
Guess who showed up?
Great men who were fun and interesting.
Were they all romantic possibilities?
Nope.
But I sure had a lot of fun getting to know them and many became friends I could hang out with while I was looking for my guy.
Attracting my guy took having the right mindset and Inner Love Game to make it happen.
Which leads me to asking you if you know the pieces that are missing in your Inner Love Game that have been shutting down your ability to find love, the man and relationship you desire?
If you’re not sure or you don’t know . . . We’re going to be diving deeply into Mastering your Inner Love Game and Love Mindset in an intimate virtual workshop this Saturday.
I love teaching this workshop because I see the difference this information makes in your ability to find love.
If you’ve tried all the dating tools and skills and still haven’t found your Mr. Right, than this workshop is for you. Click here to claim your spot.
“Lisa is an excellent coach. She covers the practical and the deeper emotional aspects of dating after 50. Lisa on a personal level is warm, intelligent and positive. Her willingness to disclose about her own struggles is also very informative. If you work with Lisa in any capacity consider yourself lucky and well prepared for the journey ahead.” Barb, Maryland
Until next time~
Believing in You!
Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .
💞 Feeling like you are on a merry-go-round of mismatched dates? Lets press pause and talk about how we can write a new love story for you. Click here to start our conversation. Tell me your story – I am here to listen and guide you towards meeting someone truly special.
If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:
1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for heartfelt dating wisdom and uplifting success stories from women who have been just where you are. They found love, and so can you. Click here to watch and learn.
2. Discover a new chapter in your dating life with my book, "The Winning Dating Formula." It is more than a book; it is your journey to love mapped out. And it is just a click away on Amazon. Click here and start attracting the love you deserve.
3. Join our Finding Love after 50 Facebook group to find camaraderie and connection. It is a warm and welcoming space to share your journey and receive support every step of the way. Click here to become part of our community.
4. On the lookout for a dating site that resonates with you? Browse through my personal selection of the best dating sites tailor-made for fabulous over 50s. Click here and say goodbye to guesswork.
Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹
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After being rejected/overlapped with another by an ostensibly very high quality man because I live too far away in a somewhat run-down town, I have come to the conclusion that indeed I must leave to find a quality, equal, partner. My other options are settling for someone who is a poor match in terms of intellect, socioeconomic level and core values yet lives nearby or choose total alone-ness (no living family); I am willing to accept neither. I will be throwing away a six figure job for who-knows-what at 57, but that’s ok. As a serious athlete and outdoorswoman, I need access to woods, trails, open space, yet do not do well in city/apartment/suburb situations despite being artistic, cultured, intellectually curious way beyond my STEM degrees. My ideal mate was my former husband, an older, healthy retired Dean who wanted to live in the woods, a true equal. Reading your and others blogs, its frustrating as according to you and others, I’ve done everything “right” in terms of approaching men, dating for fun, being nurturing, feminine, yet strong and competent, accepting help from men, all things on-line and IRL. I spend a half hour on line every day and the men I’m attracted to and compatible with either ignore me or say I live too far away. I date older, up to 75. I carry myself well, am well dressed, attractive, articulate, kind, keep very fit. The few contacts I get on line are generally incompatible (e.g. overweight, min wage ski bums, not attractive in a 60-70 year old) or desperate and possibly emotionally troubled. Blamed, hated myself thinking I was the problem until I talked to other regional professional level women ages 30-70+, and they’ve experienced the same issues; many gave up or left. Under the circumstances, it’s nearly impossible to cultivate a positive mindset and all the coaching in the world can’t fix the regional absence of compatible men. Looking at outdoor towns in New England and the Southeast (diverse forest types, more universities and colleges) where, hopefully, I can afford a place with land yet have a compatible dating pool. To that end, am putting mi casa on the market come April, tendering my resignation and will hopefully move somewhere that works. Sometimes ya gotta just leave.
I have to disagree on one major point…..yes, men actually do care A LOT about what you look like…..unless you are willing to settle for a man who is not financially stable, looks like a troll and isn’t capable of holding his own within your circle of friends and colleagues.
Dear Lisa Copeland, I do have the right mind set for Dating & meeting guy’s, But still not able to get dates. I think I have a fabulous Body for age 64 years young, energetic, I exercise 3 to 4 days a week at the gym, I have a great sense of Humor for I am always smiling & laughing and I think I’m pretty inside & out. I’ve done the on-line dating scene and all the men I dated had lied about their age and in their profile and their photo’s were at least 10 to 15 years younger than they actually were. I also was scammed by one gentleman too. I also joined up with Meet-Up and the men I met were either just looking for sex or not interested in a long term relationship. I even had them Ghost me meaning they want my number and say I will call you for another date and then I don’t hear from them again. I have been to the bars and it is like the men are afraid to make conversation with you and every time I go to have a conversation with one at the Bar they already Have some significant other. I have even tried a company that is Match Maker this is where they try to match you up with someone that fits your profile where you have things in common. Well that hasn’t worked out either. The men I met are just duds. Either there is NO Chemistry or their just Boring . I am an adventurous type wanting to try & do New things before my Life is over. And I want to be able to share those experiences together with someone that cares & loves me and wants to spend their time with me. So I am very frustrated because I am not sitting around waiting for them to come to me ,I am really out there trying everything I can to meet Mr. Right..