Dear Lisa Copeland, I do have the right mind set for Dating & meeting guy’s, But still not able to get dates. I think I have a fabulous Body for age 64 years young, energetic, I exercise 3 to 4 days a week at the gym, I have a great sense of Humor for I am always smiling & laughing and I think I’m pretty inside & out. I’ve done the on-line dating scene and all the men I dated had lied about their age and in their profile and their photo’s were at least 10 to 15 years younger than they actually were. I also was scammed by one gentleman too. I also joined up with Meet-Up and the men I met were either just looking for sex or not interested in a long term relationship. I even had them Ghost me meaning they want my number and say I will call you for another date and then I don’t hear from them again. I have been to the bars and it is like the men are afraid to make conversation with you and every time I go to have a conversation with one at the Bar they already Have some significant other. I have even tried a company that is Match Maker this is where they try to match you up with someone that fits your profile where you have things in common. Well that hasn’t worked out either. The men I met are just duds. Either there is NO Chemistry or their just Boring . I am an adventurous type wanting to try & do New things before my Life is over. And I want to be able to share those experiences together with someone that cares & loves me and wants to spend their time with me. So I am very frustrated because I am not sitting around waiting for them to come to me ,I am really out there trying everything I can to meet Mr. Right..
August 2, 2017 at 5:59 pm
Jennifer
I have to disagree on one major point…..yes, men actually do care A LOT about what you look like…..unless you are willing to settle for a man who is not financially stable, looks like a troll and isn’t capable of holding his own within your circle of friends and colleagues.
August 2, 2017 at 11:32 am
Noquay
Lisa
After being rejected/overlapped with another by an ostensibly very high quality man because I live too far away in a somewhat run-down town, I have come to the conclusion that indeed I must leave to find a quality, equal, partner. My other options are settling for someone who is a poor match in terms of intellect, socioeconomic level and core values yet lives nearby or choose total alone-ness (no living family); I am willing to accept neither. I will be throwing away a six figure job for who-knows-what at 57, but that’s ok. As a serious athlete and outdoorswoman, I need access to woods, trails, open space, yet do not do well in city/apartment/suburb situations despite being artistic, cultured, intellectually curious way beyond my STEM degrees. My ideal mate was my former husband, an older, healthy retired Dean who wanted to live in the woods, a true equal. Reading your and others blogs, its frustrating as according to you and others, I’ve done everything “right” in terms of approaching men, dating for fun, being nurturing, feminine, yet strong and competent, accepting help from men, all things on-line and IRL. I spend a half hour on line every day and the men I’m attracted to and compatible with either ignore me or say I live too far away. I date older, up to 75. I carry myself well, am well dressed, attractive, articulate, kind, keep very fit. The few contacts I get on line are generally incompatible (e.g. overweight, min wage ski bums, not attractive in a 60-70 year old) or desperate and possibly emotionally troubled. Blamed, hated myself thinking I was the problem until I talked to other regional professional level women ages 30-70+, and they’ve experienced the same issues; many gave up or left. Under the circumstances, it’s nearly impossible to cultivate a positive mindset and all the coaching in the world can’t fix the regional absence of compatible men. Looking at outdoor towns in New England and the Southeast (diverse forest types, more universities and colleges) where, hopefully, I can afford a place with land yet have a compatible dating pool. To that end, am putting mi casa on the market come April, tendering my resignation and will hopefully move somewhere that works. Sometimes ya gotta just leave.
August 2, 2017 at 6:03 pm
Alice Starr
Dear Lisa Copeland, I do have the right mind set for Dating & meeting guy’s, But still not able to get dates. I think I have a fabulous Body for age 64 years young, energetic, I exercise 3 to 4 days a week at the gym, I have a great sense of Humor for I am always smiling & laughing and I think I’m pretty inside & out. I’ve done the on-line dating scene and all the men I dated had lied about their age and in their profile and their photo’s were at least 10 to 15 years younger than they actually were. I also was scammed by one gentleman too. I also joined up with Meet-Up and the men I met were either just looking for sex or not interested in a long term relationship. I even had them Ghost me meaning they want my number and say I will call you for another date and then I don’t hear from them again. I have been to the bars and it is like the men are afraid to make conversation with you and every time I go to have a conversation with one at the Bar they already Have some significant other. I have even tried a company that is Match Maker this is where they try to match you up with someone that fits your profile where you have things in common. Well that hasn’t worked out either. The men I met are just duds. Either there is NO Chemistry or their just Boring . I am an adventurous type wanting to try & do New things before my Life is over. And I want to be able to share those experiences together with someone that cares & loves me and wants to spend their time with me. So I am very frustrated because I am not sitting around waiting for them to come to me ,I am really out there trying everything I can to meet Mr. Right..
August 2, 2017 at 5:59 pm
Jennifer
I have to disagree on one major point…..yes, men actually do care A LOT about what you look like…..unless you are willing to settle for a man who is not financially stable, looks like a troll and isn’t capable of holding his own within your circle of friends and colleagues.
August 2, 2017 at 11:32 am
Noquay
Lisa
After being rejected/overlapped with another by an ostensibly very high quality man because I live too far away in a somewhat run-down town, I have come to the conclusion that indeed I must leave to find a quality, equal, partner. My other options are settling for someone who is a poor match in terms of intellect, socioeconomic level and core values yet lives nearby or choose total alone-ness (no living family); I am willing to accept neither. I will be throwing away a six figure job for who-knows-what at 57, but that’s ok. As a serious athlete and outdoorswoman, I need access to woods, trails, open space, yet do not do well in city/apartment/suburb situations despite being artistic, cultured, intellectually curious way beyond my STEM degrees. My ideal mate was my former husband, an older, healthy retired Dean who wanted to live in the woods, a true equal. Reading your and others blogs, its frustrating as according to you and others, I’ve done everything “right” in terms of approaching men, dating for fun, being nurturing, feminine, yet strong and competent, accepting help from men, all things on-line and IRL. I spend a half hour on line every day and the men I’m attracted to and compatible with either ignore me or say I live too far away. I date older, up to 75. I carry myself well, am well dressed, attractive, articulate, kind, keep very fit. The few contacts I get on line are generally incompatible (e.g. overweight, min wage ski bums, not attractive in a 60-70 year old) or desperate and possibly emotionally troubled. Blamed, hated myself thinking I was the problem until I talked to other regional professional level women ages 30-70+, and they’ve experienced the same issues; many gave up or left. Under the circumstances, it’s nearly impossible to cultivate a positive mindset and all the coaching in the world can’t fix the regional absence of compatible men. Looking at outdoor towns in New England and the Southeast (diverse forest types, more universities and colleges) where, hopefully, I can afford a place with land yet have a compatible dating pool. To that end, am putting mi casa on the market come April, tendering my resignation and will hopefully move somewhere that works. Sometimes ya gotta just leave.