Is He Mr. Right? These 5 Questions Will Let You Know!
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You’re here because you’d love to attract an amazing man into your life.
But the idea of going online or out into the real world can feel scary.
Maybe you’ve gotten your heart broken in the past.
Or maybe you have a pattern of attracting the wrong men because your picker is off.
Let me put your mind at ease by giving you 5 questions you can ask yourself that will help you decide whether or not he’s the right man for you.
Question #1 – Do I really like him or is the chemistry clouding my judgment?
What’s the first thing you’re looking for when you meet a new man?
Is it an attraction factor and/or chemistry?
You’re not alone if you are looking for these 2 qualities but the problem with hot chemistry is it’s just a release of the feel-good bonding hormone, Oxytocin.
Using this hormone to decide if a man is the one is a recipe for potential relationship disaster.
Why? This hormone makes you fall in love/lust with a man you really don’t know because your body tingles and feels good when you think about him or when you share some type of intimacy.
The sex is amazing until one day you find yourself lying in bed with a stranger and you wonder what happened.
Who is this man?
If you find yourself in a very lustful relationship that is moving fast, pause and ask yourself these questions . . .
- Do I like the way he treats me both inside and outside the bedroom?
- Do I like how the two of us communicate with each other?
- Do I think he is interesting?
- Do I think he has my back?
Asking yourself these types of questions will help you get clarity about the relationship.
You want to remember that it’s easier to fall in love than in like with a man, yet like is what you need for creating a sustainable long-term relationship together.
Question #2 – Do I respect him?
Over time, it’s hard to sustain a relationship with a man you don’t respect.
Men feel this lack of respect and they see it as looking “less than” in your eyes . . . something no man wants to feel with a woman he loves.
A man wants and needs your respect.
If you don’t respect him for exactly who he is and how he handles his life, then you want to think about moving on.
Otherwise, you’re settling.
Question #3 – Do I have fun with him when we’re together?
So this question kind of reverts back to Question #1 asking yourself whether you like him or you like the chemistry.
When you have intense chemistry, most of your fun is happening in the bedroom or in all the flirtatious sexting you do all day long.
This just isn’t sustainable over time.
And that’s why it’s important to be with a man who can bring a smile to your face and make you laugh.
Who accepts you as you are.
Who has your back and is someone you really enjoy being with both inside and outside the bedroom.
Question #4 – Do we like and want the same things in life?
Back in my 40’s, when I first started dating, I created a list of the qualities I wanted in a man.
And sure enough, I’d meet a man who had about 90% of the qualities I wanted.
Yet the relationship didn’t work out.
Why, because we didn’t share the same values.
Make sure whatever values are important to you are equally important to him because that will mean you’re likely on the same page in how you live your lives; something that is so important especially when it comes to attracting love into your life after 50.
Question #5 – Does he accept me for who I am?
Let’s face it, as women, we can be real people pleasers.
But when you’re pleasing others, you end up bending like a pretzel to accommodate someone else’s needs while giving up your own.
You want a man who loves, adores and cherishes you for being you.
If he’s trying to change you or you find yourself hiding pieces of who you are, he may not be the right man for you.
Now, I want to leave you with some inspiration that attracting a good man into your life is possible for you!!!!
Hi Lisa, I wanted to let you know that I have met a wonderful man and we are madly in love with one another!!!
I used the information from your Love after 50 Group Program to help me evaluate whether this relationship was a good fit for me. The funny thing is that on our first date I wasn’t really that interested in him but I remembered what you said about giving it a chance and to have an open mind. Boy am I glad I did because as it turns out he is the perfect man for me and we are very compatible on a love, friendship, and physical level.
I am amazed at how I was able to attract a man who fit my description/desires/and values from my Quality Man Template to a tee! Thanks again for your wonderful training and insights. Please feel free to share my story as I’m sure it will be inspiring to other women seeking their perfect mates. Pat, California
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Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .
💞 Feeling like you are on a merry-go-round of mismatched dates? Lets press pause and talk about how we can write a new love story for you. Click here to start our conversation. Tell me your story – I am here to listen and guide you towards meeting someone truly special.
If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:
1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for heartfelt dating wisdom and uplifting success stories from women who have been just where you are. They found love, and so can you. Click here to watch and learn.
2. Discover a new chapter in your dating life with my book, "The Winning Dating Formula." It is more than a book; it is your journey to love mapped out. And it is just a click away on Amazon. Click here and start attracting the love you deserve.
3. Join our Finding Love after 50 Facebook group to find camaraderie and connection. It is a warm and welcoming space to share your journey and receive support every step of the way. Click here to become part of our community.
4. On the lookout for a dating site that resonates with you? Browse through my personal selection of the best dating sites tailor-made for fabulous over 50s. Click here and say goodbye to guesswork.
Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹
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