The light bulb just went on. Thank you! I totally appreciate this
March 19, 2021 at 11:18 am
Lisa
I’m so glad Sandy. 🙂
March 17, 2021 at 6:50 pm
Marlene
Brilliant- it works and even with your sons and men you work with!
Thanks Lisa
March 18, 2021 at 4:54 pm
Lisa
You’re so welcome Marlene. Men love when we trigger their hero response which the 4 magic words do.
March 17, 2021 at 5:29 pm
Emmie
Any other magic words to try?
What are signs of a Beta male, since I’m an alpha according to a guy friend.
March 18, 2021 at 4:54 pm
Lisa
It’s more about your alpha characteristics and that usually comes down to how we speak to men. As women we are community oriented but men hear that language as ordering them around. Men on the other hand, are hero oriented. They want to step up and make you happy. The secret is to let them do that in their way. Make sense Emmie?
March 17, 2021 at 5:11 pm
Alison Dulce
You are absolutely right! Men do not like being told what to do but if you frame a request via words and body language they are more than happy to help. If I dare to question how my boyfriend squeezes the lemon or turns on the coffee machine, he flips out! He is an engineer so thinks he knows how everything works. He wants to feel appreciated and loved for his help and for being who he is! A genuine person who cares about others. However, if I make suggestions softly and gently about how he should go about something (usually in the kitchen which is my territory) he responds positively, Often I find that when he gets upset with something I say, it isn’t the content but the form and tone I use (holier or more knowledgeable than thou() He is more than willing to believe the playing field on which we act is level but he is better at some things (opening jars/fixing things/cutting bread evenly) than I and vice versa.
March 18, 2021 at 4:51 pm
Lisa
Love how you’re handling this Alison. Men will jump hoops to make you happy as long as we don’t tell them how to do it. Enjoy your guy!
March 19, 2021 at 10:15 am
Sandy
The light bulb just went on. Thank you! I totally appreciate this
March 19, 2021 at 11:18 am
Lisa
I’m so glad Sandy. 🙂
March 17, 2021 at 6:50 pm
Marlene
Brilliant- it works and even with your sons and men you work with!
Thanks Lisa
March 18, 2021 at 4:54 pm
Lisa
You’re so welcome Marlene. Men love when we trigger their hero response which the 4 magic words do.
March 17, 2021 at 5:29 pm
Emmie
Any other magic words to try?
What are signs of a Beta male, since I’m an alpha according to a guy friend.
March 18, 2021 at 4:54 pm
Lisa
It’s more about your alpha characteristics and that usually comes down to how we speak to men. As women we are community oriented but men hear that language as ordering them around. Men on the other hand, are hero oriented. They want to step up and make you happy. The secret is to let them do that in their way. Make sense Emmie?
March 17, 2021 at 5:11 pm
Alison Dulce
You are absolutely right! Men do not like being told what to do but if you frame a request via words and body language they are more than happy to help. If I dare to question how my boyfriend squeezes the lemon or turns on the coffee machine, he flips out! He is an engineer so thinks he knows how everything works. He wants to feel appreciated and loved for his help and for being who he is! A genuine person who cares about others. However, if I make suggestions softly and gently about how he should go about something (usually in the kitchen which is my territory) he responds positively, Often I find that when he gets upset with something I say, it isn’t the content but the form and tone I use (holier or more knowledgeable than thou() He is more than willing to believe the playing field on which we act is level but he is better at some things (opening jars/fixing things/cutting bread evenly) than I and vice versa.
March 18, 2021 at 4:51 pm
Lisa
Love how you’re handling this Alison. Men will jump hoops to make you happy as long as we don’t tell them how to do it. Enjoy your guy!