Is Anyone Really Out There For Me To Date?
The answer is yes, but I can’t tell you the number of times I‘ve heard women say, “I’ve given up on dating. It’s just too damn hard, no one decent is out there plus all the good ones are already taken.”
If you have found yourself feeling this way, then this blog may help you out of the dating rut you might be feeling.
I’ll be the first to admit that dating is hard work.
We grew up watching fairy tales that made finding love seem so easy.
As children, we devoured stories like Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty.
As we got older, we watched Richard Gere totally revamp then fall in love with his Princess, Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman.
We have played movies like these in our minds for a very long time in the hopes that our Prince Charming would knock on our door and sweep us away to a better life.
When you think of your Prince Charming, what’s he like?
If you’re not sure, take a few minutes and jot down a list of qualities you are looking for in a “Quality Man.”
Now that you have your list, it’s time to figure out where he might be.
Are you interested in being a cougar or in finding a sugar daddy to take care of you?
Are you looking for a faith- based match like JDate or Christian Café?
Maybe it’s a millionaire you’re looking for? Go to 100 Best Dating Sites to find the site that best suits you.
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Spend a couple of weeks browsing the sites so you can see what each one has to offer.
Try and squeeze in about half an hour a day for following up on your search for love.
Then, sign up for one or two of your favorite sites.
Since it usually takes more then a month to find someone, most sites offer discounts based upon how long you are willing to be a member.
The longer the time, the less it costs per month. My private clients usually find signing up in 3-month increments works best for them.
Next, its time to find a professional photographer who will take a current picture of you that you will post to your profile.
It shouldn’t cost more then $30-$35 dollars for a couple of headshots that can be emailed to you that day.
Men universally complain about meeting women with outdated pictures.
No one likes walking into a restaurant only to find the person they were attracted to from an online photo has aged ten years since the picture was taken.
It’s really an immediate turn off to men and one of the keys to a dating disaster.
Next, write an interesting profile that doesn’t start every sentence with the word “I.”
You want to capture their attention with your words. Instead of saying, “ I love dancing” as the answer to “What’s your favorite hobby?” you might say, “dancing the salsa with my favorite partner makes me feel so alive.”
Dating is a numbers game so it takes consistency to be successful.
In order to find success-you need to get on your favorite dating site daily and spend at least 20 to 30 minutes browsing men’s profiles, writing to men you are interested in and responding to emails men have sent to you.
Sometimes we feel like the only men who contact us are the ones we don’t want.
Guess what? Men feel the same way.
Could this mean we are only willing to entertain the thought of a specific type of man to date?
Could this be why we feel there is never anyone out there for us? We will talk more about this in future blog posts.
Now, go back and review your “what you want in a man list” then head online and look at male profiles to see if anyone’s personality description meets the criteria on your list.
If someone has most of the qualities you are looking for, see if you can give him the opportunity get a date with you.
Try not to judge the man based solely on the picture he’s posted.
You might find he looks so much better in person.
Or you might find his personality makes him endearing when you meet-qualities you can’t always see in a picture.
Even though online dating can sometimes feel a bit awkward at first, it can also be a lot of fun.
Remember, that there are men online 24 hours day/7 days a week just waiting to get to know you.
So go give it a try now-you just might find that “Quality Man” you’ve been looking for!
Let me know how your Online Dating experience is going and feel free to post any questions you may have about dating below. I will try and answer them in future blogs.
Until the next time-Happy Dating!
Believing in You!
Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .
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If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:
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Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹
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