If you're using this Quality to decide if he's the one, you could be sabotaging your love life

If you’re using this Quality to decide if he’s the one, you could be sabotaging your love life

Raise your hand if you ever thought you’d be dating in the second half of your life.

I’m betting you probably didn’t. Right?

And I’m thinking that when you first started on this journey, it was kind of exciting looking at pictures of good-looking men online who seemed fun and interesting.

You probably felt hopeful that one of those men would be the right one for you.

It’s likely you exchanged emails with a couple of guys online, had a phone call or two and got to your first meet and greet.

Remember how excited you were to meet him?

And remember how disappointed you felt when he wasn’t the one?

You chalked it up to experience figuring there were other men out there to date so you took a chance and you met the next guy.

But there wasn’t a connection with this one either.

This happens to you 5 times in a row.

Your initial feelings of excitement are waning and you’re starting to feel frustrated and disillusioned by men who aren’t who they appear to be in their profile.

At this point, you’re pretty close to quitting because it’s just not worth the effort.

You start thinking that your kids, friends, maybe even grandkids plus a busy life will fill you up instead.

Yes, you’re sad but you feel there is no other choice.

You’ve had it with dating especially online.

Sound familiar? You’re not alone!

I hear a version of this same story over and over again from women around the world.

So . . . let’s talk about how to get this turned around so you can find your Mr. Right.

How many times have you looked at a handsome man and thought, he’s a good guy?

But in reality, is he?

Or maybe you’ve liked a man’s profession and you think he might be a perfect match based on what he does.

Or he likes to bike and so do you. And you think . . . wow, this is amazing, we have so much in common.

Qualities like these are called perceived high-value qualities.

Looks, money, cars, houses, profession, and specific activities like working out or being spiritual are some of the perceived high-value qualities I’ve seen women believe will make a man her perfect match.

When a guy has one of your perceived high-value qualities, you end up creating a story about why he’s perfect for you.

You daydream about what it would be like to live with him in his cool house.

You imagine the two of you working out then heading to your favorite brunch spot on Sundays.

You see the two of you showing up at parties or weddings together in his expensive car.

You imagine walking into a room and everyone is so jealous as you walk through the door with such an attractive man at your side.

You’ve created this amazing fairytale of your life together that feels so good and so right.

Don’t laugh . . . I remember doing this too! We all do.

Now . . . back to reality.

The day of the meet and greet arrives.

This guy has everything you want and you’re so excited to meet him . . . that is until he shows up.

And the cycle begins again of yet another guy misrepresenting himself and you wondering why this is happening to you over and over again.

So here’s the scoop . . .

Think about what happens while you’re waiting for a date to happen.

Often you end up creating a story about who you think this man really is based on his looks, the perceived high-quality activities he divulges in his profile, and what he shares about himself during a brief phone call.

Your imagination gets to play as you daydream about this potential Prince Charming.

Then he shows up and the real guy doesn’t match the story you’ve created about him.

Here’s the secret for ending this cycle of disconnection with men that takes you down every time it happens.

Go on a date with the sole intention of getting to know someone new and interesting.

Be playful and ask fun questions about his life, his childhood, what he loves to eat or whether he cooks for himself, and if he does, what’s his favorite food he loves to make.

This is called a discovery mindset and it’s important because it keeps you from making up stories about who a man is before you’ve even met.

I’m now in a relationship with the most wonderful man I’ve ever met!

I was dragging my feet on dating after my divorce. I kept finding reasons not to do it – I needed to lose weight first, work was too busy, I was too stressed about this or that, etc. And I was really scared that it would be impossible for me to find the kind of man I could fall in love with at my age. I was obsessing about my imperfections instead of focusing on my strengths and attributes. Lisa really helped me stop being so passive in my outlook by waiting for some man to approve of me, and to instead take charge of my dating experience – to focus on what kind of man I wanted and would make me happy and to get out there and find him. It really helped me to feel more confident, which was good for me but also, I’m sure, more attractive to men! I’m happy to say that thanks to working with Lisa, I’m now in a relationship with the most wonderful man I’ve ever met.

Is this something you’d like to experience in your life? Love with a good man?

Well, you can. Women in my Love after 50 Group have found love even in these crazy times using the over 50’s dating strategies and mindset I share with them.

If you’re tired of struggling with dating and are ready to change your love life, then let’s set up a time to talk and see how we can make this happen for you.

To get started, just click here and tell me a little bit about what’s been happening in your love life.

If I think I can help you, I’ll send you a link to my calendar to set up a complimentary time for us to talk.

I look forward to talking soon. Get ready . . . cause your love life is about to change!!!!!!

Believing in You!

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#3: Work with me 1-on-1 or in my Group Program

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