How To Overcome Your Biggest Fears About Dating After 50
#1 . . . Use a No Excuse Approach to over 50’s Dating
Although some call them reasons, you could be stopping yourself from finding Mr. Right by using excuses.
Great guys are everywhere. Yet when you’re not sure what to do or how to handle the dating issues that come up, you make and use excuses that ultimately keep you from moving forward towards your dream of having a good man in your life.
Some of the biggest excuses I hear are… “There’s no good men left out there to date,” “I’m too busy to date,” “No time to date,” “All men are jerks,” and the list goes on.
You may want to date but in reality, it feels safer to stay single so you use these excuses as your trap door; your escape route.
To get the right guy into your life, you’ve got to be willing to let go of the excuses and get yourself online or out in the real world meeting men.
This is the way you can find the one who is a good fit for you.
Ask yourself how badly you want a companion in your life. You either have excuses or you have results. Which do you choose?
#2 . . . . Feel the Fear—But Do It Anyway
Fears come up to also keep you safe.
Just thinking about dating, you may feel fear of rejection, a fear of not being good enough, a fear of being humiliated, a fear of making mistakes, a fear that a man might not like you, or a fear of the unknown, just to name a few.
Most single women I know experience fear when it comes to dating over 50.
What separates the women who get the guys from those who allow their fears to hold them back is a willingness to date in spite of the fears they may be feeling.
The best way for you to get over your dating fears is to walk directly into them.
Let yourself feel them. Ask the fear what it’s trying to tell you. Then journal or meditate on the answers you hear.
It takes courage to do this – courage I see my private clients show everyday when despite feeling afraid, they put themselves in a vulnerable position of meeting and getting to know new men.
Actually, walking into fear is never as bad as you think it’s going to be.
If you allow yourself to feel the fear versus resisting the fear… what you might get is a great guy in your life.
Imagine that.
# 3 . . . Be Willing to Go Out of Your Comfort Zone
Most of us avoid feeling discomfort like it’s the plague yet it’s the best way to grow and get what you want in life.
It can be scary but usually, you only feel uncomfortable for a short period of time.
Here’s a great mantra that will help you…
I am ready to date. I am willing to find and meet new men even when I feel uncomfortable. I know uncomfortable equals growth and growth equals achieving my dreams of finding the man I want to share my life with.
#4 . . . Take Dating Action
It would be nice if you could just make a wish and Mr. Right would show up on your doorstep.
Unfortunately, life doesn’t work this way.
You have to take some type of action to find him.
Staying at home watching your favorite TV show or working every night catching up on what you haven’t completed that day in the office isn’t going to get you to the man you want.
Getting online, smiling and flirting with men in the real world, asking your friends and families to keep their eyes open for a good guy or hiring a matchmaker are great action steps to get you started.
And if you’d like more actions tips or tips on overcome fears about dating, then lets set talk to see how we can get you moving forward in your dating life.
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In the meantime, I want to hear what your dating fears have been and how you’ve overcome them.
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Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹
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You’ve left out a couple big fears:
Fear of sexual assault. It seems like these men are so sex-starved, they want to jump all over you. Even stealing a kiss without asking is uncomfortable. And insisting you sleep with them after three dates….what rule is that?
Similarly, after 50 my libido is not what it was, and I’m afraid they’re going to be disappointed to find out how uninterested I am. Not totally, but they apparently want to make up for lost time or something.
What suggestions do you have for that?