How to Get Through a Break Up Using These 5 Tips
Breaking up with someone you care about is tough.
After being in a relationship for a while, you can get lost when you’re alone again.
When this happens, you can use these 5 tips as a guide to help YOU take care of you during this difficult time.
#1. Take as much time as you need to heal.
An important relationship has just ended and you’ll want to take some time to process and reflect on what happened.
Whenever I experienced a breakup in my own life, I’d ask myself questions so I could gain an understanding of exactly what happened in the relationship.
The clarity I got from doing this, helped me to avoid repeating similar dating and relationship patterns with a new man in a future relationship.
- What did I love about this man?
- What didn’t I love?
- What do I wish could have been different?
- What was my role in the relationship that contributed to the break up?
- What are the lessons I learned from being with this man?
- What qualities from this man and this relationship would I like to take into my next one?
#2. Be really kind to yourself right now
You want to really pamper yourself and find fun ways to lift your spirits while you’re in the healing process.
- Consider buying a beautiful new journal so you can write down on paper all of the emotions you’re feeling. This will bring you clarity over why the relationship ended and will help you start the process of releasing the anger, sadness and grief you’re feeling.
- It’s nice during a sad time to have someone take care of you and make you feel momentarily better. Get a relaxing massage to release both the emotional and physical toxins from your body, pet your dog or ask a friend for a good hug. You could probably use lots of them.
- Head out with a friend to your favorite restaurant and over lunch or dinner process the relationship and the breakup. You’ll feel loved and supported by someone who really cares about you.
- Make or buy your favorite comfort food. Whether it’s macaroni and cheese or a certain cookie your mom used to make, it will momentarily take you back to warm and fuzzier times.
- Watch old TV shows or movies that make you laugh. You know what they say . . . laughter is the best medicine.
- If you are up to it, volunteer somewhere or offer to assist a friend with a project. Helping others makes you feel better and can take your mind off your own troubles for a bit.
- Everything can feel really blue after a breakup so consider starting a gratitude journal. Then remind yourself of 3 wonderful things you are grateful for today . . . even if it’s the sky is a beautiful blue or my dog loves me. It’s going to keep you grounded and it will help you counter some the sadness that can be overwhelming for you right now.
#3. Allow yourself to grieve and mourn the end of a relationship
Don’t hold back.
Let the tears flow . . . it’s healthy, it’s a release and it will ultimately help you heal.
Should the sadness get too heavy, get help from a counselor or a trusted friend to help you cope.
#4. Wait to date until you’ve taken some time to heal
It’s tempting to substitute one man for another but it rarely works.
When you don’t take the time you need to reflect and heal before dating again, you end up bringing open wounds – better known as baggage – into a new relationship.
You’ll know when the time is right to date again.
You’ll be able to tell because you won’t feel the same intense emotions of anger or sadness you are feeling now.
#5. Discover yourself again and create a great relationship with you while you are waiting to date
When you’ve been with someone for a while, it’s hard to imagine creating a single life again.
Realizing who you are again can be exciting and a lot of fun while you’re going through the healing process.
Try signing up for classes you’ve always wanted to take or go see a fun chick flick by yourself or with a friend.
Consider signing up at MeetUp.com for fun activities that interest you.
You’ll get to meet new like-minded friends who love doing what you like to do.
When you feel ready to date again, I have an amazing Love after 50 Group that gives you a Dating Blueprint as well as the support to get back out there and date with confidence again – and have fun doing it!
If you’re ready, you can get started by clicking here so you can share with me what’s been going on in your love life then I’ll send you a link to my calendar.
Hang in there. Love is possible after 50!
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