Here's Why Over 50's Dating Seems So Darn Hard

Here’s Why Over 50’s Dating Seems So Darn Hard

Ever wonder why dating feels so hard?

I believe it’s because most women see dating as an activity they must endure versus enjoy.

I know from my own experience that dating is NOT such a joyful experience when you’re trying to figure out in 3 minutes or less whether he’s the one.

You go on a date geared up to interview him as you mentally check off the boxes on your imaginary “must have ” checklist to see if he fits.

Dating this way puts so much pressure on you and it ultimately leaves you feeling like there’s no one out there to date.

Yet there are millions of men and women looking for partners every day, so what’s going on?

Why can’t men and women find each other?

They are dating to mate as they did in their 20’s when women were looking for the right man to make babies with.

Today as a woman over 50, you have way more options for how a man fits in your life than you did back then.

He can be . . .

a companion for events like weddings and office parties
a committed relationship with a man you live with
a committed relationship with a man who lives in his home and you live in yours
a friend
a lover
a boyfriend
or a husband
or lots of 2-7 year relationships you enjoy until you outgrow each other.

Today, you have so much freedom and choice that you didn’t have in your 20’s.

And when you adopt this mindset change for over 50’s dating, it will free you from the outdated way of only dating to mate for a husband.

So how do you date when you’re dating for fun or for a relationship?

Well instead of trying to figure out if he’s the one in 3 minutes or less, try asking fun questions like . . .

What was your favorite game growing up?
What was your favorite TV show growing up?
What was your favorite music growing up?

Nostalgia types of questions create a bond and probably lots of laughter as you share memories you both can relate to from your childhood.

These types of questions give you a glimpse into a man’s personality which can make him far more interesting and a lot more fun to be.

The other reason dating can make you feel so miserable is when you go out in the dating world looking for a man who has what I call . . . Perceived High-Value Qualities.

These are specific qualities you want in a man you think will make you happy. . . . like he has to be fit, or eat a certain way, or he has to have a particular type of job and income.

A fit man may look good but it doesn’t mean he’ll make a good mate for you.

The guy with the belly who could stand to lose a couple of pounds might be the guy who could light up your life every day and make you very happy if you give him a chance.

Instead of just using qualities as the sole basis for finding someone, think about how you want to feel around a man when you’re with him.

Because ultimately, you want to feel happy inside when you’re with the man you do choose.

And that has nothing to do with how he exercises or eats or any other must have quality.

It has to do with how he treats you.

So now you have some fun questions to ask and you know you have choices in the relationship you want at this time in your life.

What the next step you’re going to take to find love after 50?

I asked this question to Lani and here’s what she did.

I was dragging my feet on dating after my divorce. I kept finding reasons not to do and I was really scared that it would be impossible for me to find the kind of man I could fall in love with at my age. Lisa really helped me charge of my dating experience – to focus on what kind of man I wanted and would make me happy and to get out there and find him. It really helped me to feel more confident and I found the best!!!! It’s official, Steve and I now have a home together. Thanks to working with you, I found love in my 60’s with an amazing man who loves, adores and cherishes me!!!!! Biggest thanks to you for your amazing guidance in your Love after 50 Group! Lani, New York

I’d love to help you find love after 50 as Lani did.

Just reply YES to this email and I’ll send you the details for how we can connect to talk about making this happen for you.

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Your Next Steps to Love after 50. . . .

💞 Feeling like you are on a merry-go-round of mismatched dates? Lets press pause and talk about how we can write a new love story for you. Click here to start our conversation. Tell me your story – I am here to listen and guide you towards meeting someone truly special.

If you are still gearing up for that step, I have plenty of insights and inspiration for you:

1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel for heartfelt dating wisdom and uplifting success stories from women who have been just where you are. They found love, and so can you. Click here to watch and learn.

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3. Join our Finding Love after 50 Facebook group to find camaraderie and connection. It is a warm and welcoming space to share your journey and receive support every step of the way. Click here to become part of our community.

4. On the lookout for a dating site that resonates with you? Browse through my personal selection of the best dating sites tailor-made for fabulous over 50s. Click here and say goodbye to guesswork.

Let these resources be your steppingstones to a love life filled with promise and joy. When you are ready, I am here to take that journey with you. Together, lets find your Mr. Right! 🌹

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