Here’s the real scoop on why a man doesn’t call you back for a second date
Ouch, it really hurts when you like a man but he doesn’t call you again for a second date.
In today’s blog, I want to share 3 reasons why this might be happening in your dating life and what you can do about this.
Reason #1 . . . You Just Aren’t His Type
We all have an image in our head of who we want to spend our life with, right?
So how’s that work with men?
A man scans your profile then contacts you.
The two of you are on the phone talking the hours away.
He starts mentioning future ways you might fit into his life.
That happened to me when a man asked if I liked riding horses.
I said yes although I’m not sure why.
Last time I rode, was in a horseback riding class in my 30’s.
The horse got spooked, reared up and threw me off.
Haven’t been on a horse since that time but, I wanted to please him so I said yes that would be fun.
He started talking about how we should go riding and how he had the perfect horse for me.
When men do this, they are trying you out in their life.
It doesn’t mean it’s going to happen so take that kind of talk with a grain of salt.
Before I knew this little tip, I’d get so excited thinking he liked me and then my imagination took it even further cause I’d imagine maybe he was the one.
Know what I mean?
This is a huge set up for getting hurt cause if you don’t fit his picture when you meet, a second date doesn’t happen.
I always tell my private coaching clients this tip: when you’re not asked out for a second date, don’t take it personally.
It just means you just don’t fit the picture of who he wants.
Reason #2 . . . You have sex with him too quickly!
You meet a man….the chemistry is hot and as the date ends, the two of you start kissing.
Hands start roving all over the place and you find yourself in the back seat of his car having sex with a man you’ve only known for a couple of hours.
In the moment, it can feel so good and so right!
And as you’re leaving he says, “I’ll call you.”
But he doesn’t.
Why?
A guy friend of mine did this to women all the time.
I asked him why?
He told me that women made it easy for him so why not?
Then he shared that he put women into two categories.
The first were the women he’d play with.
It was easy sex and fun for him.
The second were women he thought had relationship potential.
If they had first date sex and BTW…many women initiated sex with him not the other way around….then they went back to category #1.
Sometimes your hormones just want sex and that’s fine.
But if you want a relationship, then slow it down.
Reason #3 . . . You appear needy in his eyes
Nothing turns a man off faster than a woman who is already making his life her life before a cup of coffee is finished.
An example of this is… 20 minutes into the date, he’s talking about loving a certain band.
You know they’re coming to your city in 6 months so you invite him to go with you.
I know that sounds funny but women do this all the time.
Men do too and think about how creepy that felt when they did!
I remember feeling panicked when a man started talking about taking profiles off a dating site on the first date.
Slow it down and get to know someone to see if you’re a fit before you start intertwining your lives.
To sum this up: there are lots of reasons men don’t call you back for a second date.
Save yourself a lot of date analysis and evaluation by not taking a 1st date personally and by not being invested in its outcome.
If it’s meant to be…it will be and if it’s not, you’ve had the opportunity to spend some time with a new and interesting person that day.
A little early holiday gift for you…
I want you to stay safe on the dating sites especially during this holiday season.
I thought it would be helpful if you could hear Julie Nashawaty’s story.
She’s young and beautiful and nearly got scammed by a local con artist who was out of jail and on parole.
After this occurred, she devoted her life to making sure this never happened to another woman.
She shares her story and shares what you need to do to stay safe as a single woman in the dating world.
Would love to hear how getting a second date has been for you.
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