Hi Lisa,
As usual, a well thought out post which daters need to take on board and no, I’m not talking of a cruise ship. A virtual meetup however cannot truly substitute for a face to face meet where we can see the whole person and get a better “feel” for body language etc. I would think also that virtual meets would tend to focus more attention on physical facial appearance and maybe that’s not so good for many of us oldies. We need to get through that phase and concentrate more on other aspects critical to any potentially successful relationship Men are often reported as ignoring profiles and concentrating on photos so (assuming reports of the “photo obsessed” males are correct and I’m not convinced this is true for many males), virtual meets may not be the best option for the first “meet”.
So, lets consider an alternative “safe” option. Sitting at the required 1.5 even 2 metre separation distance can still offer good visual contact and there are plenty of outdoor tables or sitting opportunities especially in pleasant attractive settings which the tourists have now abandoned and for me, the beach suburbs of Sydney, often with an onshore breeze, would be a quite safe environment, certainly safer than the local supermarket where most of have to visit anyhow. Once there is a mutual agreement to continue meeting, virtual meets would come into their element.
I would agree a virtual meet would be an easy way of screening out clearly non compatible individuals but I would worry that that some truly wonderful ladies (or gents)would be rejected because of their marginal visual appearance. My truly amazing and internally beautiful late wife was no beauty queen (but she was to me)and if our roles were reversed many a man would have missed the opportunity of his life. Then again if you look like Elle MacPherson that’s another story. And Lisa, remember that quite a few of us 65+ brigade may not be tech savvy and without the help of kids may not be able (or be prepared to try) to set themselves up for virtual meets.
March 30, 2020 at 12:07 pm
Lisa
Hi Nev . . . thank you for sharing your thoughts. With so little known about Corona and where people have been, I still feel virtual dating is the best way for now. You can still get an idea of what someone is like watching them on the screen and its for sure better than using only the phone where you can build a false relationship based on your idea of who they are versus the reality. there are so many free apps like Zoom, Apple’s FaceTime or Google Duo that are pretty easy to figure out even over 65. 🙂 The most important thing is to stay safe during this time. Thanks again for taking the time to share your thoughts. So appreciate it.
March 19, 2020 at 3:16 pm
Diane
Do you have a post on getting in touch with your feminine energy? I am a corporate exec and have had to fight my way to the top as well as becoming competitive with men in the work place. I would love to find a balance for that bitbI struggle with feeling weak and helpless. It was a way to survive in business for my generation. I’m 62.
March 28, 2020 at 8:13 pm
Nev
Hi Lisa,
As usual, a well thought out post which daters need to take on board and no, I’m not talking of a cruise ship. A virtual meetup however cannot truly substitute for a face to face meet where we can see the whole person and get a better “feel” for body language etc. I would think also that virtual meets would tend to focus more attention on physical facial appearance and maybe that’s not so good for many of us oldies. We need to get through that phase and concentrate more on other aspects critical to any potentially successful relationship Men are often reported as ignoring profiles and concentrating on photos so (assuming reports of the “photo obsessed” males are correct and I’m not convinced this is true for many males), virtual meets may not be the best option for the first “meet”.
So, lets consider an alternative “safe” option. Sitting at the required 1.5 even 2 metre separation distance can still offer good visual contact and there are plenty of outdoor tables or sitting opportunities especially in pleasant attractive settings which the tourists have now abandoned and for me, the beach suburbs of Sydney, often with an onshore breeze, would be a quite safe environment, certainly safer than the local supermarket where most of have to visit anyhow. Once there is a mutual agreement to continue meeting, virtual meets would come into their element.
I would agree a virtual meet would be an easy way of screening out clearly non compatible individuals but I would worry that that some truly wonderful ladies (or gents)would be rejected because of their marginal visual appearance. My truly amazing and internally beautiful late wife was no beauty queen (but she was to me)and if our roles were reversed many a man would have missed the opportunity of his life. Then again if you look like Elle MacPherson that’s another story. And Lisa, remember that quite a few of us 65+ brigade may not be tech savvy and without the help of kids may not be able (or be prepared to try) to set themselves up for virtual meets.
March 30, 2020 at 12:07 pm
Lisa
Hi Nev . . . thank you for sharing your thoughts. With so little known about Corona and where people have been, I still feel virtual dating is the best way for now. You can still get an idea of what someone is like watching them on the screen and its for sure better than using only the phone where you can build a false relationship based on your idea of who they are versus the reality. there are so many free apps like Zoom, Apple’s FaceTime or Google Duo that are pretty easy to figure out even over 65. 🙂 The most important thing is to stay safe during this time. Thanks again for taking the time to share your thoughts. So appreciate it.
March 19, 2020 at 3:16 pm
Diane
Do you have a post on getting in touch with your feminine energy? I am a corporate exec and have had to fight my way to the top as well as becoming competitive with men in the work place. I would love to find a balance for that bitbI struggle with feeling weak and helpless. It was a way to survive in business for my generation. I’m 62.